Thread: Work

As most of you know I started working in a school office a few months ago. In the office there is four of us. One of whom is the dictionary definition of a narcissist.

She gets involved with every little thing involved with what I do (and others), and is always wrong in the information she supplies. I know this because I always check with the people that really know (ie Head Office or such like).

Today I come across something that she has had a hand in whilst she was covering the job I do as there was a period where the job was vacant. There is next to no information on the school system about this "issue" and it effects the school financially. Prior to today I was not informed of this "issue" either.

Anyway, whilst I was discussing this with the Deputy Head she called her friend in Head Office and transferred her to me without my knowledge. As I had already spoken to this ladies friend in Head Office the lady was very pissed off.

Subsequent to that I find out she has been slagging me off behind my back and telling people that I cannot do my job properly, which is the Polar opposite to what I am being told by my bosses. Not only that, but people are complaining left right and centre about her attitude to me (I don't think expecting me to do anything).

I know this sounds trivial but she is making the working atmosphere unbearable. She recently had an extended leave and the office got on much better there really was a marked difference.

I am at the point where I think someone (me) should go and chat with the Head Teacher and tell them what is happening. I am not going to quit because of her because she is not worth it, but I do think something needs to be done before someone does quit.

What would you do?

I had one of those, still have sort of. The type of person who can't help but be involved in absolutely bloody everything. Loves to lurk outside office doors earwigging, jump into the middle of a conversation and dish out information which 90% of the time is absolutely bollocks because it just doesn't concern her.

Where I work the powers that be are what can only be described as cowards. I asked the boss to sort it out but absolutely nothing happened. I did it myself in the end. I asked her what her specific job was then I explained what mine was and I didn't appreciate her butting in every 5 minutes. I think she could see from the look in my eye that what I really wanted to say was "I'm going to tear your head off if you keep on with this crap".

We understand each other now and she goes and pisses off other people instead of me. Perfect.

Bodger,

We have an interim Head Teacher and I think I might have the same problem. I really don't want to rip her head off, but I am so close to it. I'm normally very outspoken and this wouldn't normally be an issue butu she is so "woe is me" it is sometimes easier to put up with the bull shit she spouts.

My office is the same at the moment. Except I have to but into things and make changes (its my job) and nobody likes that. So far this week three people have shouted at me (I dont mean just a aghh I mean a good 10minute rant) about how horrible I am etc. When I speak to my boss I get "you need to toughen up" or "its because Mr D is in the sandpit" Obviously I am just weak and unstable and having people verbaly abuse me on a daily basis is all part of my job!

DC this woman has the square root of 0 to do with my job so she should p*ss off, being diplomatic is not normally my strong point but I feel a tad guilty knowing she has just lost someone very close to her. On the other hand she is being her usual self so maybe I should just say it.

Maybe approach the Head and voice your concerns, with the fact that she is interrupting your daily tasks and that you have caugh wind of some back chatting she has initiated. Ask if there is any way that her line manager can have a polite word with her, get her to keep her head down an nose out of business that doesn't involve her?

I had an issue like this, I think every office has someone like that and a quick word with my manager, solved it. Mind you, the lass in question did leave the company 6 weeks after.

It's one of life's certainties - my office has one! Bossing me about, trying to do my job for me, power-plays.... GRRRR! Luckily, not as bad as your lady - I'd say either tell a boss (if you think they'll do something about it!) or else, if you have the courage, comment that they're doing your job, and to butt out because it's annoying and time-wasting x

I am happy to have it out with her, but she will make the office environment even more unbearable. I think I might have a chat with the HT. See what she says.