Thread: A little update

I'm technically not "new" but seems right to post in here as it's been a while!

I last posted March/April last year when my man had just passed his selection and was awaiting a start date, which turned out not to be til October last year. Anyway, unfortunately we broke up in the May, his doing not mine. I hated him at first, naturally, but as we have so many mutual friends it was vital that we were going to have to be in the same room together again at some point. After a couple of months of avoiding each other, he got back in touch just before he left to clear the air etc, and he invited me to his leaving meal/night out with everyone. So I went and it was fine, got on really well and was like old times. I felt quite sad once I'd got home that we hadn't got back in touch sooner.

Since he's been away we've been texting/emailing/talking most evenings and have both realised that there's still feelings there, and when he came back over Christmas, we decided to give things another go. Obviously things are a bit different this time around, and sometimes a small part of me thinks we're crazy for starting again now he's away, but at the end of the day we both still love each other, and although it's early days we both really want to make this work this time around!

He went back last Tuesday, and so far it hasn't been too bad, been texting or phoning every night... well up til Monday as he's away on exercise now so won't hear from him til Friday.

So yeah that's about it, hi again! Just about to open a bottle of Rosé... anyone care to join me?!

Hi and welcome back

Mines a glass of white - large please!

Good luck and remember, if it works at this point, it's got more of a chance working later, because at this point, all you have is communication and that's actually the biggest part of a successful relationship (in my opinion) but take it slowly, and see where it leads.

Thank you! Yeah we're just going to take it slowly, actually only told a couple of friends/family. Both kind of think if we tell more people, it'll put more pressure on it having to work etc. But then the people we did tell said they'd kind of guessed anyway! We'd been together a long time before we split, so we do have a foundation, but just taking it a day at a time for now, see how things go, but both willing to work at it so fingers crossed!

White it is.... Guess I'm drinking the Rosé on my own then... what a shame!

Don't worry, when I've finished my white, I'll help with the Rosé!

Welcome back. I hope everything works out for you xx

Thanks, I hope so too!! Actually really looking forward to hearing from him tomorrow, and hopefully with good news; he's been on this exercise once before and was backtropped which sucked Also means he'll be passing out 4 weeks later than expected... had changed my hols at work to be off for it too! I know what you all mean when you say to write everything down in pencil and not to plan anything lol! Hoping he gets through it this time around!

Welcome back. I am having a glass of champagne tonight. Got a bottle of the stuff left over from New Years (my one treat) and it would be rude not to

Hi and welcome back

Getting back together means you both clearly want this to work, and that's a good start! And as Feisty One says, you have a golden opportunity to work on your communication, which is even more important in a forces relationship, I think.

Sadly I can't help with the wine drinking at the mo (though I'd have been difficult and asked for red anyway) so for now I'll stick to my red Grapetiser

Hi CUPcake and welcome back to the madhouse!
As the others have said - communication is the key thing and if you can make it through this you are equipped to make it through anything!! Its the weekend soo....large glass of sauvignon blanc for me (first drink since last saturday - how good am I?!) X

Hi welcome back, nice to hear your good news I'm also a Rose lover so any time a bottle is open I'm always available lol

Aw thanks ladies!

Finally got to hear from him today, exercise went well, million times better than last time which is good! Was only a brief chat via text as both been busy bees today, then I was off out and he was doing some catching up on his sleep (well deserved I suppose! ). He's got a relatively chilled out day tomorrow - or so he thinks! - so should be able to have a good old chat then

8 weeks today til I see him again, not that I'm counting or anything...!

Counting is all part of the game - the constant butterflies and and all that! x

It's actually less now, he's home for a long weekend on Friday (as long as he passes exercise this week!). So excited!!