Thread: Hi everyone another newbie !

Hi all, thought i would come on here for a bit of support and info as OH is starting training at HMS Raleigh in feb and i have no idea what to expect, we've only been together about 10 months feels longer and i want to support him anyway i can.

Hi and welcome to RP, bit early for the hard stuff, so I'll have a nice cup of tea from the bar....

Make sure that you have a life to live while he's training (and deploying) and that there's space for him when he gets weekends off - apart from that I'm sure you'll find a wealth of help from a few others who's OH's are part way through training, it's an odd life but I enjoy being with my man, because he's worth it for sure.

Good Morning and welcome to RP. My OH is Army and was in when we meet so I can't really help with specifics but Feisty one has good advice about having your own life whilst he is away. I normally set myself little challenges when I know Mr Dizzy will be away, I have learnt to knitt, refurbished a house and next time my plan is to do an OU degree.

As its a virtual bar (RP tradition) I would love a gingerbread latte nom nom nom

Welcome, as the ladies have said, the mantra certainly is 'keep busy' My OH is Army too, and was already in, so again can't help in that area, but, as have said, keep busy, have your own life, get new hobbies and enjoy having time to yourself!

oh, and, mmmm suppose it is a bit early, so a pot of fresh lemon, ginger and mint 'tea' please! yummy!

Morning and welcome to RP!

The one thing you can expect with a RN OH is that you'll be on your own a lot! Invest in a good pencil for all those dates you'll have to change at the last minute. If your OH goes on a ship or boat, you'll be the mistress in the relationship, and the ship/boat will be the wife!

You certainly have to be quite an independent person!

The sun is over the yard arm somewhere in the world so a small nifty of brandy would be lovely

Hot chocolate please. very cold here today.

Thanks for all your welcomes and advice, Ive always been pretty independent and have a busy job and lots of people around me to keep occupied , i might also set a few things id like to achieve this year ! it's just sinking in now he's starting soon and I've got to quickly adjust, hopefully I will be ok but I know it's not going to be easy.

If the bars open it is the afternoon at least I'll have a G&T !

Hi there and welcome to RP.

My OH went to Raleigh in May - luckily I had the kids to keep me busy but it was still the hardest 10 weeks ever. If you can both get through that though it does get a lot easier once he starts getting weekend leave in Phase 2.

Feel free to ask any questions you need to as we've been through it all recently.

I would love a pint of Honeypot if the bar is open - virtual alcohol won't hurt the baby

x

Originally Posted by Gonzo

Hot chocolate please. very cold here today.

I will give ya something to warm you up....and there is nowt virtual about it

well, you aren't talking about an orgasam then, must be herpes........

Whats herpes? Have you been doing dodgy things again?

Originally Posted by cabana

I will give ya something to warm you up....and there is nowt virtual about it

Whoooooooooo, now thats a promise!

Hiya - large white wine for me please

Hello and welcome

no experience of navy or basic training, as Mr S is raf and was already in when we met, as WR said the best advice is have a pencil ready and anything you plan have a contingency plan, and a contingency contingency plan!

A real cup of tea and a virtual white wine as its morning!

My OH is just over halfway through his Army training and it hasn't been too bad. Like the others have said, keep yourself busy. Take up a new hobby, go out with your friends, whatever... helps take your mind of things. It can be hard, but my experience of training so far is that it's not too bad. Yes you won't see him very much, and sometimes all you want is a hug from him, or you'll see/hear something that reminds of him, or a little "in joke" you guys have. But you'll be able to call/text/skype most evenings and weekends, but don't get too angry or upset if you don't hear from him for a day or two. He's got a tough few weeks ahead of him and will be looking to your for someone to talk to, and to give little pep talks every so often when he's wanting to jack it all in. He should get a long weekend midway through his training so you'll get to see him then, then of course you'll get to see him looking all gorgeous when he passes out!

All the advice is great it's nice to hear from people who know what it's really like, I'll be sure to ask u squirrel pidgeon some questions as you've been through the training bit recently ! Also how do you all cope when plans get changed all the time do you just get used to it?thank you cupcakexox for your message sounds like your coping great and I also want to be positive get on with my own life but be there to encourage him, also can't wait to see him in uniform

So far, they've not changed any plans big style on us so it's not been too bad. RN training is fairly structured and we've known what's going on. The changes are coming up now though - he passes out from Sultan tomorrow, doesn't start his SMQ til 30th Jan and they've still not 100% confirmed what he's doing in between times!

Seeing him in uniform at pass out from Raleigh was brilliant - you'll love it

You get the hang of the constant changes of plan, it comes with the territory.

Morning, oh wait, no it's afternoon, where did the morning go?! Anyways, hi and welcome, my OH is RM so know nothing about Raleigh I'm afraid but wanted to say hi and mine will be a hot chocolate with whipped cream and marshmallows as you're buying! Oh, and I defo agree with the something to achieve while he's away bit, it's amazing what us women can accomplish when we don't have a man around

Hi and welcome to RP YellowRose. RM wife here, so can't help out with Raleigh much - sorry!