Thread: Hi ya another new one!

Hi thought Id come on in and introduce myself after having a little nosey around!
OH has just decided that life in civvy street wasn't so great after all and is getting back in to do his last ten years. Would love to hear from people who have had similar experiences and how they coped going backwards 8O Look forward to chatting.

backwards is the best!! grab a glass and make your self at home xxx

Hi and welcome Ducky, I am in same boat, my oh was in navy when i met him, after doing 5yrs he left, then spent 5yrs in the real world and is now back in but army this time round, and although it's been hard adapting again it's all good, it's like old times and they were truly the best times.
This is the best thing to have happened to us again, we struggled loads in civvy street, he struggled due to his forces mentality, no-one in civvy street could really understand it....guess you wouldn't really unless you have forces background.

Anyway, pull up a seat, grab a vino and enjoy....

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Hey Ducky and welcome to RP.

OH has been "in" for 25 years so far so I have no idea on your situation. Still look on it as a new opportunity instead of going backwards
NOw, where's the wine??

I've got the wine ladies, ooops soz bottles nearly empty, good excuse i'll have to go to shop for some more....

Welcome Ducky to the madhouse!!

Me and my Oh are only just starting out in the forces (well he is as i was born into it as my dad was in army) OH is nearly at the end of his phase 2 training n finally got his 1st posting.. oh the joys of moving but so looking forward to that..

Welcome Ducky. You can't have my wine tonight because I'm not in a sharing sort of mood. Bloody tours/birthday parties/kids extra-curricular commitments. Grrrrrrr!

I love this life. I love this life. I love this life. I love this life. I love this life. I'll keep on going until I make myself believe it again!

Thanks for the replys, its a bit early for wine now but loving ladies after my own heart :lol: Well it looks almost certain now that he will be getting back in. On one hand I’m really excited as I always loved the life and didn’t really want him to get out, we also struggled to settle into Civvie Street.

However our kids are now 5 and 6 and are settled in a school and have loads of friends etc. I’m worried about the effects it will have on them moving around and also on their schooling. OH has been working almost full time in the TA so they are getting used to seeing him in greens and have excepted that he is a solider again, but then they got really upset watching the news and asking if their dad could die. Have now been a lot more careful in what they watch. They were just babies last time so we never had any of these worries, and we just don’t know what to do for the best. Any experiences or advice on this would be a great help. :?: X

ducky, understand your concerns, I was a pad brat and yes it was a nightmare changing schools every 2-3yrs, it was part of the life and you get used to it, have loads more friends this way, I still keep in touch with some of my friends from when my dad was in and i'm 32 now.

As for the TV thing...sorry can't help on this one, don't have kids (yet)..are they too young to try and explain things to? I dont know?....
I guess assurance is what they are looking for, as you said they were babies last time.

Good luck though, I can say it's been the best thing to happen to us for a long long time. (i'm just waiting to get allocated house then can join my OH again).

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Welcome Ducky

Regarding the tv thing - I don't have kids, but I think it's a fine line between protecting them and being honest. I guess it depends how savvy they are.

Changing schools for children regularly can be good and bad. You know your children and you'll be able to tell whether or not they'll settle OK. If it helps, I haven't come across a truly unsettled forces child in the 5 schools that mine have been to yet. 9 times out of 10 you'll be going somewhere where are the kids are in the same boat. When mine were smaller I made it into an adventure. Where I can I move house on the last day of term so it's all exciting and they don't have too much fuss about leaving their friends. They get used to it pretty quickly. Daughter-thing can't imagine anything worse than staying in one school for too long. That'll change shortly though!!

So far as the TV is concerned, there's not a lot you can do other than snip the plug off it! When mine first started asking questions about what they saw on the news I made sure that they understood that what was reported was only the bad stuff and that for every bad event there are hundreds of good ones that they don't bother, or can't, tell us about. They understand. It's water off a duck's back now. We live not far from Wooton Bassett and the repatriations pass the house on a far too regular basis. That unnerves them a little but not as much as I thought it would.

Kids are so resilient. If you're up front and honest with them they should be able to rationalise everything. So long as they can talk to you they'll be fine.

When the kids started asking questions about what they saw on TV, we did sit them down and explain that it was really unlikely to happen to Dad. We got old photos of them out when we lived in MQs and showed them their old friends. I think that they will be able to settle because they can make friends easy. It’s just a big change for them and I’m a little worried

However for myself I’m looking forward to it. I really enjoyed my time moving and making new friends. Also now that we have lived on Civvie Street we will appreciate the benefits a lot more. Such as cheaper rent, no council tax and water rates. Can’t remember if it gets paid straight out of their wage, either way I know it’s a lot less then we are paying now :!: