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    Missin my soldier :(

    hya im 19 and im missin my soldier..been just over a yr since he joined. Now at his unit and settled in..hopefully no tour this year but dreadin that time. <3 x

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    Re: Missin my solder :(

    Keep your chin up and be strong is the only useful thing i can say!! Im sure others will have better advice or words of wisdom!!

    xxx

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    Re: Missin my solder :(

    Sorry to say this but thats just normal feelings, we all do have our up and downs. There 're days we can't live without him and others days it doesn't feel that dreadful.
    Just keep your chin up, there will be better times.
    N I used to say to myself, as long as I miss him, i do love and care about him. (such a poetry )
    Cheers Mary

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    Re: Missin my solder :(

    Hi and welcome to RP!

    Long distance relationships are never easy whether they're forces related or not. Keep yourself busy and occupied when you're apart and make the most of each other when you're together.

    Oh and there's lots of friendly folks on here for support when you need it.

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    Re: Missin my solder :(

    aww thankyou both for ur kind messages. its just so hard being apart. especially wen we argue and i get paprnoid that there r girls on his camp its very hard. just wish things were easier x x

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    Re: Missin my solder :(

    Quote Originally Posted by soldiers_sweethart
    aww thankyou both for ur kind messages. its just so hard being apart. especially wen we argue and i get paprnoid that there r girls on his camp its very hard. just wish things were easier x x
    That could apply to anyone! we all row, we go to work with the opposite sex, we don't all cheat.
    If your relationship is gonna work (same as ANY other relationship) you gotta have trust. only difference is if you apart alot then the trust thing is EVEN more important.

    One thing i will say though, is sounds like you need to toughen up a little! cos being paranoid and sad isnt gonna help, it will add extra strain to an already difficult long distance relationship. cheer up

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    Re: Missin my solder :(

    i think its coz im in the 1st stage ov everyfin. i got alot ov yearsa ahed ov me maby. i just need help on getting over my paranoia so we can move on and have a gd relationship. x x x

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    Re: Missin my solder :(

    You have to have trust in a long distance relationship or it's gunna be hard for you. You also need to be able to concentrate on your own life whilst he's away without worrying about him. Spend time with your friends, go for a night out, whatever it takes to cheer you up and take your mind off it.

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    Sweethart, the only way is to get on with your life so you can tell him about it when you talk. Do NOT put your life on hold because if you eventually marry this guy and live in qtr's you'll have to get on with it then. Harsh as it may sound, and I miss my hubby loads when he's away, you do just have to.

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    Re: Missin my solder :(

    You may want to read the rules etc and type in english.

    Welcome to RP, all relationships are tough and have their ups and downs, thats real life, welcome to that too x
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    Re: Missin my solder :(

    Hiya
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    When the going gets tough - drink wine!!

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    Re: Missin my solder :(

    I didnt think it matterd how u typed. anyway thanx for the nice messages. hes on leave this week.x

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    Thankyou..do u not live in quarters then? xx

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    Re: Missin my solder :(

    Yes I do live in qtr's, but when you live in qtr's you still have to get on with your life. I live in Germany with my husband (when he's here), all my family are in UK, but I have made great friends here, and we all ensure that we look after each others kids, have nights in/out anything to keep as much normality as possible. Maybe it's easier for me because my dad was in the Army and I was also a single parent for a good many years before marrying my husband so it prepares you for looking after home and kids on your own and Dad being in prepared me for the separation (although it's not quite the same).

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    My husband is away at the moment getting a tan, and the way I look at it, sitting around feeling sorry for myself wouldn't make time go any quicker, and wouldn't make him come home any quicker, it would just make me feel crap. So what else is there to do other than stick a smile on my face and get on with it. I think I would go mad otherwise!

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    Re: Missin my solder :(

    'Tis true. No point moping around, you've got to keep busy. My OH is currently one of the 77% of service personnel who only comes home at weekends. Later in the year he'll be off to sea for weeks on end.

    I have a wedding to plan, a house and garden to maintain, a cat to feed, a car to drive, hikes to hike....

    Still doesn't stop me having the odd wobble now and again, though

    Keep smiling, luv, you have to.
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    Re: Missin my solder :(

    lol i try i realli do. like i sed we have trust issues so theres onli little im allowed to do. Im 20 next week and i feel like i shud b out but he doesent like me going out as i mite cheat but i wouldnt. I go to my neighbours alot she realli helps but yano u get them days were u feel so crap lol x

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    Re: Missin my solder :(

    Quote Originally Posted by soldiers_sweethart
    I didnt think it matterd how u typed
    On most sites it probably doesn't matter how you type, but you have to remember that there are a significant number of wives/girlfriends for whom english is a second language; to then have to decypher text speak is asking a bit much from them methinks?

    And anyway, the Queen's English looks soooo much better than bastardised abbreviations...innit?

    Tact is for people who aren't witty enough to be sarcastic.

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    Re: Missin my solder :(

    ....and I for one am WAAAAAY too old to speak text!!! It makes ones eyes bleed!!!
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    Re: Missin my solder :(

    Hi and welcome.

    Have to say you dont really stand much of a chance if you are paranoid about him working with women/being away etc.

    My husband works with some stunning women, I mean gorgeous WAF's but hes my husband and best friend and I have no need to be paranoid, these women are my friends now too, alot of the wives here are not friends with the WAF's because they are jealous of them, they need to get a grip, if they got to know them they would find out they are just normal girls, I think its quite sad how some people are so obviously not happy with what they have and have to be jealous of someone else.

    Plus it will drive your other half insane if you constantly seek reassurance because you are jealous/paranoid of the women he works with, its more likely to have the effect of him getting pissed off with you and thinking well if she is going to accuse me I may aswell give her something to accuse me of.

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