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    Lonely Girl

    Hello,
    I am new here, as you can guess... I just found this site bimbling through the web and I so I logged myself in.
    Please be patient with us newbies, we may sometime write things you „experienced ones“ already know and may find peculiar . It takes some time to read through all the messages written here and to get into the rhythm.
    I’ve been living in Germany now for a couple of years (for family reasons) and I must honestly say... I don’t like it . I speak german but it is very difficult for me to get along well with the local customs here. So it is a relief to start the computer and find just a little bit of home (Consider that: leading a completely Bingo-less life here! )
    Another point why I enjoy this site is because I was a military wife. My husband died a couple of years ago in a car crash. And it is not easy to have conversations not only with germans but also with civvies, who have no idea of military life. I never thought there could be such wide gaps between people. Military in Germany seems to be a subject of taboo and as a former military wife you appear to be a curiosity, at least in the area I am living... And how much do I miss my husband....
    So I really am in need of some good british military backup once in a while.
    Is there anybody somewhere between Frankfurt and Kaiserlautern here?
    I would be very happy to find pen-pals or whatever else is possible to happen here.
    So if I can call some attention, please don’t let me go under...

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    Re: Lonely Girl

    *Nodding in your direction*

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    Morning!
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    Re: Lonely Girl

    Hello and welcome
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    Re: Lonely Girl

    Heya Ladyhawk
    Welcome to RP. I dont live in Germany but i thought id say hi anyway, rather than reading and running.

    xxxx

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    Re: Lonely Girl

    Hi and welcome Ladyhawk!

    Quote Originally Posted by Ladyhawk
    Military in Germany seems to be a subject of taboo and as a former military wife you appear to be a curiosity, at least in the area I am living
    as a German who lived in total "non-military-areas" of Germany before meeting DH I can confirm this; as long as you don't live in one of the German "squaddie-towns" people tend to be quite ignorant if not opposed to military.
    But while living there -even though you don't like it- why not making the best out of it? you speaking German is the best basis you can have for socialising. also, for all I can say, Germans are quite interested in contact with people from the UK! maybe you can join some clubs or classes at so-called "Volkshochschule" which offer pretty much anything from arts, sports, languages, cooking, gardening -you name it; could be a good starting point to get in touch with people. With most people speaking little to very good English and your German conversation shouldn't be a problem. And one thing we have to give Germans is that mostly they are not as guarded and privat as many British are and open up more easily.
    If I can answer any more possible questions feel free to drop me a pm -I'll be happy to help if I can.

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    LH...have PM'ed you

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    Re: Lonely Girl

    Hiya and welcome

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    Re: Lonely Girl

    Hello and welcome.

    Dini has offered some good suggestions. I hope they help you.
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    Welcome Ladyhawk. Pull up a chair, crack open some wine and Im sure you will find plenty on here to keep you occupied and amused.

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    Re: Lonely Girl

    Thank you thank you so much for your replies!

    That really means a lot to me!

    But isn’t this strange? Just what Dini wrote, the public opinion is very different in Germany about the military. I rarely know a country in which you just can’t tell people that your husband works for the forces and risk such comments like here. In the UK or the USA the most given reply is: Oh you must be proud, or Oh you must be very afraid for your husband considering these times.

    But in Germany I collected some almost hostile comments. Phrases like „How can you love a man who kills people?“ are much more common. And sometimes some certain individuals treat you like as if you are ... let’s put it that way... a cheap thing, because, you know, soldiers do not just kill people, they are nasty, rude beasts and a woman who gets involved either likes and deserves to be treated the way those people believe soldiers would treat women.. javascript:emoticon('post',%20'message',%20'')

    The military is a huge organisation and (am I right?) nearly 80 percent never take part in close combat, they work for the administration, maintenance and all the surrounding facilities. But to be related to a „killer“ makes you a „killer“ as well. I’ve listened to many comparable stories from german women who are married / related to american soldiers. Maybe the germans envy and resent the idea that some german women rather live together with foreign men. Well... then the german men should learn how to be more attractive in any given meaning... (no offence anyway...) javascript:emoticon('post',%20'message',%20'')
    Since I am not german I seem to fall through the cracks and therefor I have been forgiven for being so nasty to love a non-german. ...javascript:emoticon('post',%20'message',%20'')


    But no time for complaining!!! I am going to read the "happy events" and if you want to drop me a line you are WELCOME!

    It's good to be here!

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    Re: Lonely Girl

    Ooops my smilies don't work... what happened....





    Ah, sorry. Here are the missing smiles of my message:















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