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    hiya! :)

    hello - my bf has signed me up as I been to busy too - whoops
    my bf is joining up on the 30th march for his basic I just wondering
    How you all found your bfs or oh going away for 14 weeks?
    I think this rp stuff is good for people like us as we have people
    To talk to who have either been in this situation or are going to
    Be in this situation! Xx

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    Re: hiya! :)

    My OH was in when I met him, and went to Germany in January. We're coping ok, with emails and texts. Not going to see each other until the wedding in April, so will be quite a while since we've seen each other.

    I am an ex pad brat though, so I guess that helps. All the girls on here are exceptionally supportive, and lovely, so you'll be fine.

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    Re: hiya! :)

    You learn to get your own life besides the one you have with your OH, dont ever set any plans in stone because they can and do change at the last minute, dont take it personally though because its forces life.

    It can be difficult sometimes but just keep yourself busy, dont pester him about how lonely you are because this could make him feel guilty however do let him know that you miss him because its nice to know.

    I used to see my husband on weekends before we were married and I always used to be so excited when Fridays came around, you cherish the time you spend together and dont take each other for granted so much, well thats until you live together.

    Dont get me wrong it does have its down falls, my husband has to go away for 4 months shortly after our first baby is due later this year, yes I will miss him but thats life and thats his job, you just have to get on with it.

    Theres always RP as everyone on here is in the same boat!

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    Re: hiya! :)

    Ahh I see I am sure all will be ok but I do just worry but Im sure everyone does right? I am rather
    Proud of him though as he is following his dreams so if course I will support him
    That's a long time till you won't see your OH - so when is your baby due? bet your really excited
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    Re: hiya! :)

    hi
    xxx

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    Re: hiya! :)

    Welcome!!

    xxxx

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    Re: hiya! :)

    hiya,

    i noticed you was talking about disturbance allowence, in a different forum. what is this?
    as i havent really heard of it yet, as my oh is going in on the 30th march to do his basic,

    theres loads of words i have heard but dont really no whats what to say the least,

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    Re: hiya! :)

    Quote Originally Posted by LittleLady
    I just wondering
    How you all found your bfs or oh going away
    It's okay as long as the alcohol cabinet is fully stocked!

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    Re: hiya! :)

    okay then I will have to start getting the supplies in now!
    Make sure I have an extra large glass then- when did your oh or bf go in?
    X
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    Re: hiya! :)

    Littlelady, you can buy the wine glasses that take a whole bottle in BHS I believe still

    OH has been in the Army 14 years now. We are getting married in April, and then my ds and I should be joining the OH in Germany. My dad was in the Army, but it still takes a bit of getting used to whilst they are away. You need to make sure that you are independent of the OH so that you can get on with your life and not sit around mooching whilst they are away. By that I don't mean forget about them, just go out with your mates, go to night school something along those lines.

    Anyway, hope you are all well girls.

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    Re: hiya! :)

    All the girls on here are exceptionally supportive, and lovely
    Who the feck are you trying to kid.
    Bunch of Bitchy PA's if you ask me.
    Didn't take many posts to get round to boozing did it?
    Few more posts and it'll be battery operated, or in some cases three phase mains operated, things supplied by Anne Summers.
    Give it a while and they'll want to know the ins and outs of a cats arse 'ole.

    Hello by the way.
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    Re: hiya! :)

    have got one already a large wine gallo glass got it from work one shift however haven't really used it yet
    Wow that's a rather longtime, how did you find all the wedding planning did your oh help at All? Bet your really excited?
    Can I ask - how did you prepare for both your dad and oh for when they went in to basic?

    I am well thanks hope your well too
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    Re: hiya! :)

    First of apologies if this sounds a bit doom and gloom; but from my own experience I thought a word of warning/ showing a somewhat different perspective might be helpful:
    to every girl new to the army as significant other to a soldier (to-be), have a good think wether being an army-wife/gf really is something what you want for your life
    Supporting HIM to live his dreams is all nice and good BUT what about your life, your dreams, support for yourself?
    There is an often quoted thread "what it means to live with a soldier" -which gives some insight. [sorry, don't know how to post it as link ]
    Ask yourself a few questions:
    Are you OK with moving away from your family and/or friends, social setting, job etc.?
    Are you OK with moving away again and again from new-made friends, social setting, job etc?
    Are you OK with the possibility of living at a place with NO friends/family, social setting, job etc?
    [you might end up new at a remote place with little to no social life or surrounded by people who have no interest in making new friends; or it could take a long time and hard work to make your life comfortable.]
    Can you handle the possible/likely decision to either pursue your own career and live apart from your OH or live with him and move every few years which makes it difficult for a proper career of your own;
    -what about children? would you want them to live away from their dad (additionally to the separation during op-tours)?
    Will it satisfy you long enough/ for the time of your army-life to be his back-up, his support in return for sacrificing own career options?
    Are you OK with the army having more power over your man to tell him where, when and what to work than a civy job?

    -just to name a few..

    I'm aware I'm only pointing out the negative side; but it's worth mentioning in order to make such a big decision; especially if you "join as a couple" -meaning you are already together before he signs up.

    One last point: if you don't have a driving license plus car -get one. Some places are very remote with poor public transport and you might end up not being able to get out and about on your own.

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    Re: hiya! :)

    Just read this post again and thanks for the congrats, our baby is due in August and yes very excited.

    With re to your disturbance allowance question, I would forget about this as it doesnt apply until you are married.

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    Re: hiya! :)

    ah i see i thought it only applied when you was married,
    ahhh so hopefully the weather will not be tooo hot for you when giving birth to the monster,
    how many days leave does your oh get then for paternity leave?

    also just a bit of a random question to throw out there, you know when the men come home from op-tours do they still go to the northern cyprus? and is that incorparated into the tour, or is it an additional 2 extra weeks? x
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    Re: hiya! :)

    Hi there. My OH finished a sandy tour in Nov and only did 36 hours in Cyprus.
    Do you think we'll ever manage to be in the same country for our wedding anniversary!!

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    Re: hiya! :)

    ooo really, i thought it was like 2 weeks, well thats what the oh been saying, -
    whats a sandy tour? like afghan? or have i got the wrong end of the picture there?
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    Re: hiya! :)

    Yes, Afgan or Iraq but I wouldn't worry about post ops just yet lets get you through basic first
    Do you think we'll ever manage to be in the same country for our wedding anniversary!!

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    Re: hiya! :)

    thanks i just trying to get everything in persepective,
    how did you find your oh going into basic or wasnt you with him them?
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    Re: hiya! :)

    Didn't apply to us cos he's TA and only joined 4 years ago at the ripe old age of 34!
    We went from a 'normal' family life with the odd weekend away to him being away for 10 months.
    Bit of a shock but I got through with help from RP, wine and council house TV (though not necessarily in that order!)
    Do you think we'll ever manage to be in the same country for our wedding anniversary!!

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