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    Hello and Au Pair Advice

    Hi All,

    New to Rear Party, but been snooping round ARRSE for some time. Hello.

    Mrs Shark and I have recently had a beautiful baby girl. As we both serve, Mrs is RAF, we are obviously keen to ensure that Baby_Shark will be properly looked after once maternity leave is over. No doubt the subject of Au Pairs has been covered in some depth, yet the search tool doesn't bring up any specific threads on the subject, so if someone can point me in the right direction of an appropriate thread to answer the following then I would be really appreciative:

    1. What agencies are good/bad.

    2. Would/have you trust a 6 month old with an Au Pair or go for a nanny?

    Thanks all and I look forward to your advice.

    Jimima

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    Re: Hello and Au Pair Advice

    Bear in mind that an au pair wont necessarily have any formal child care qualifcations. They will also usually be involved in some kind of educational programme such as learning English (au pairs come form overseas) and as such wont be available to care for a child full time nor should they be expected to. They will also live in as part of your family which includes meals, days out etc. They can only stay a maximum of two years.

    Their role is to help parents on a part time, informal basis as opposed to being given sole care on a full time basis while parents work. This is why they are a much cheaper alternative to a nanny and are perhaps better placed in a home where a parent maybe works part time or there are several childen and a parent simply needs an extra pair of hands. I also have a feeling that the children should be school age to.

    I would personally go with a nanny. Would you not consider a nusery?

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    Re: Hello and Au Pair Advice

    A majority of Au Pairs will want to be 'live in', if your in MOD housing, this may be an issue.

    Could you not go to a childminder in your area? Keeping in mind that childminders are only allowed 1 child that is under the age of 1. The government can help you with money for this, they can pay up to 80% in child care costs. You may also want to talk to your base's family services office, maybe they can advise on what there is to help you.

    I, for one, would say that putting your baby into a childminder is not a bad thing, they also get to associate and mix with other children and that's not a bad thing.

    Also, if you go with a childminder, please make sure they are registered with Ofsted, you local council website should have the registered minders on their sites. For more information, you can visit;

    Ofsted.gov.uk

    On a final note, congratulations and wishing you the best for the future xx
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    Re: Hello and Au Pair Advice

    Hi

    Welcome to RP!

    I used to run a nanny/childcare agency so ask anything you want!

    Au Pairs are only supposed to work a maximum of five hours a day and the majority have no childcare qualification or childcare experience. Au Pairs are really the best alternative for people with school-age children who want school drop off and pick ups, housework and school holiday help.

    With a baby or toddler you have to consider either a fully qualified nanny with references, CRB check and at least three years experience. This in effect means that your nanny should be at least 21/21 years of age. Now that might sound ageist but the reality is that two many people gain a childcare qualification and go straight to looking after new born babies without gaining experience in a childcare environment. Not a good idea!

    I have to say that I used to advise many parents with very young ones to use a day nursery, as usually for one child it is considerably cheaper, you are not reliant on just one person and most day nurseries do offer excellent facilities.

    Lastly, I am not sure of which area you are in but should you qualify for tax credits these will be payable if you use a day nursery. If you employ a nanny I am not 100% sure you would qualify.

    Agencies? There are some brilliant ones and some terrible ones, but I would recommend you have a look at the REC (Recruitment Employers Confederation) and search their childcare sector agency directory for an agency near you. Tigerlily Childcare Recruitment are an excellent agency but may or may not cover your area. Eden Childcare are also very very good.

    Please feel free to ask anything else or PM me.

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    Re: Hello and Au Pair Advice

    Hi

    Sorry have just re-read your OP and I think you best option might be a live-in or live-out Nanny/Housekeeper.

    I missed the sentence about you both serving. Sorry about that.

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    Re: Hello and Au Pair Advice

    I'm not a lover of nurseries for babies, in my opinion a baby needs to be in an environment as close to home life as possible.

    My son has been with a registered childminder since he was 4 months old, and they are worth their weight in gold.

    They are CRB checked, OFSTED registered and if you get a good one they are more flexible with hours and give your child the one-on-one care they need.

    Au pairs are not meant for full time childcare, nannies are expensive. I would find a local childminder.

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    Re: Hello and Au Pair Advice

    There's absolutely no way that I would use an au pair for prolonged unsupervised child care. If I remember correctly it's not legal anyhoo. If you go for the nanny option you'll be kissing goodbye to at least one salary. In my opinion it would be either a childminder or a nursery. I'd go with the childminder until the baby's a bit older though to be honest.

    Good luck!

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    Re: Hello and Au Pair Advice

    Childminders are fantastic!

    I don't think Junior would progress as fast as he has, if he hadn't been with his childminder and mixing with other children.

    I would try to sway from a private nanny and go for a childminder.
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    Re: Hello and Au Pair Advice

    A decent full time nanny can cost anywhere between 20k to 30k a year, depending on whether they live in or out.

    A childminder will cost you around 10k a year.

    It's all about the finances.

    You can claim tax credit for any method of childcare as long as the person/business with care is registered.

    However, 2 x wages = not much tax credit depending on what you earn so don't get too excited.

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    Re: Hello and Au Pair Advice

    Hi Jimima_Shark, Welcome to RP.

    I was an aupair in Germany for a year. Had quite a few friends who was aupairs or had aupairs. Heard this 'agency' was quite reliable www.greataupair.com though I used a german agency. As an ex-aupair I would also recommend an older girl is you choose to have an aupair because watching kids that smalll can be a bit overwhelming especially when the parents aren't around.
    Goodluck with your search

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    Re: Hello and Au Pair Advice

    Thanks all for your replies, we are now going down the Nanny route and have given the position to a lovely New Zealander. Now we just have to figure out how we are going to pay her! LOL

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