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    heylo!

    hi peeps! have been with my bf for over 2yrs now n have supported him a lot. he was going 2 jpin marines but for now, has decided to join the TA for a bit until he feels ready for marines. i no its only part time but im getting slightly worried that he wont have time for me...have joined as im kinda lookin for a lil support and advice from you all as most of you are more experienced in this all! im only 19 and i love him to bits. ideally id like to move with him when he eventually goes for marines. any tips on how to cope when hes away? im espicially worried about him going on tour. being a bloke hes so desperate to go to iraq but it worries the hell outta me!! dont get me wrong id never stop him doing this!!
    i also am wanting to go into the forces (RAF - intelligence officer) but have to wait a few years as am havin an op on my hip and have to be 2yrs free of no symptoms so my career is on hold for a bit!! is anyone also in a service as is their partner?again, any advice? soz 2 waffle on hope u can all help me out...?thanks xxxx

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    Re: heylo!

    Welcome, I have no advice really, just wanted to say hi. I'm sure you'll find all you need here though, they are a great bunch.


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    Re: heylo!

    Welcome BBE, you will get heaps of help and advice here x
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    Re: heylo!

    Hiya BBE

    Good luck with your operation.

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    Re: heylo!

    Hiya

    My fiance is in Germany and I am doing a radiography degree in the UK.

    I will not lie and see that it is easy. However, as was said above, if it is meant to be it will work.

    I am guessing that once you are both in the regulars of your chosen services, thats when it will be harder, as you may have to be posted to different places , and have leave at different times. That is when i am guessing that things may get difficult hun.

    I am not the greatest fountain of knowledge, but if you ever need a chat just message me.

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    Re: heylo!

    Hey BBE,

    You in Coalville in Leics? It's where I grew up. Takes balls to own up to coming from there!

    Lots of threads on here on how to cope, keep busy, new hobbies etc etc.

    I'm Army Air Corps, so forgive me if I think your career choice is bad, although probably right if you've got a dodgy hip - the crabs won't expect you to do any phys anyway!

    Bear in mind that if you're both in the forces it may become very hard to see each other based on postings etc.

    Is you OH going in as an Officer as well as you? That can create snags down the line (invitations to Mess parties and so on), but again, nothing that can't be overcome.

    Good luck, and it sounds like decisions are quite a way off anyway.

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    Re: heylo!

    aww thx peeps feel a lil better now dont worry im not originally 4rm coalville jus moved up here wiv mum, im originally 4rm essex n that im proud 2 own up 2!!(and yes i do have some white high heels! )my OH isnt goin 4 officer not his kinda thing think he jus wants a bit of action u no?me joining is a long way off i must admit which is hard. i feel like i try my hardest wiv him but lately it feels like hes blowing me off 2 c his mates and go to these TA meetings. in the TA do they still go on tours for like 6 months or is it shorter because of it being the TA if that makes sense..? to amazon 1981 and nursey i really admire your strength to continue being in a relationship i find it hard when hes an hr down the rd let alone another country!xxxx

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    Re: heylo!

    Hi BBE

    As a chap, I shouldn't grass your chap up in case he's off partying like a demon at weekends, but .......

    The TA training regime is mostly weekends (some of which start on a Friday evening and involve stopping away Fri & Sat nights), Tuesday evenings or similar depending on his unit drill night, and an Annual Camp that lasts about 2 weeks, where he'll be away all the time.

    Depending on his TA keeness levels and work situation, he can also do extra days during the week and extra camps/courses, some of which might be a few days, others could be a fortnight.

    In some circumstances, he may be offered courses/camps of longer duration, such as training exercises of a month, particularly overseas ones.

    If he decides to do an operational tour, assume he'll be away for about 8 months. The tour itself is about 6 months, with a couple of months build-up training first. Depending where the tour takes him, he may get some time at home, or he may not.

    Some of the ladies on this site are in the position where their OH is or has been on recent tours, and will advise much better than I on the practicalities of this bit.

    Make sure he spends at least some of his TA pay on choccies, flowers and meals out for you

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    Re: heylo!

    Quote Originally Posted by big_brown_eyes
    but im getting slightly worried that he wont have time for me
    Hiya

    My boyf's in the TA as well - it hasn't stopped him calling me 4 or 5 times a day and seeing me whenever he can (we live quite a long way away from each other anyway so slightly different situation from you), so in my experience it's no barrier to having a really great relationship.

    You mentioned about coping when he's away and being worried about him: mine's off somewhere hot and sandy quite soon and I am a bit worried about it, both missing him and the danger aspect of it: I posted a topic ("1st deployment") a few days ago and got some really helpful replies, so maybe having a look at some of those would help?

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    Re: heylo!

    hmm i will have a sneaky look yes. thanks trousdale i shall bear that in mind, and yes flowers wud b gd lol but hes the type of bloke u have 2 nag for lil things like that lol! but things are a lil clearer now about length of time in TA. i guess in a way i should b thankful, he was gonna go in2 marines and then well i wudnt see him at all for 6 months!! just when he joined it was a bit of a surprise it was a "im going 2 a TA meeting to see what its like" then when he got bk it was "oh yeah i joined!" well off on hol in 9 days time to gran canaria jus me n him so hopefully ill feel a bit better bout our situation when we get bk...!xx

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