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    Re: About time I wrote something instead of just reading!

    Hi and welcome.

    It'strue, takes 2 to tango, she wouldn't be spreading 'rumour's if there wasn't somekind of truth behind it, or maybe she's just a twisated and jealous cow, either way, I'd call him on it! You need the truth and you don't need to worry about whether or not he did for 6 odd months, until he's back from tour.

    As for the female mess thingy, don't tar us all (speaking in passed tense), yes you get some that are 'one of the lads', you get some lassed who like to fcuk about, you get some lasses, who could shock youw ith being totally normal, you get some lasses who can be biatachs and you get some lasses who like a bit of a laugh.

    Don't listen to what OH's tell you about women, half of it's untrue, rumours are the devil at the end of the day!
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    Re: About time I wrote something instead of just reading!

    maybe she tried it on with him he rejected her and so she started spreading rumours??? sorry just an early morning idea
    going crazy back soon!!!

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    Re: About time I wrote something instead of just reading!

    Quote Originally Posted by Alabama
    ok really didnt intend to start such a heated discusion- this was originally in the need to moan but dont need a reply thread remember?

    I'm in no way insulting all females who live in messes, i have got on very well with all the other girls who have lived in the mess before this one. I dont know her and maybe she will turn out to be really nice and just very insecure. but right now i dont know her and she doesnt know me and yet she is encouraging rumours that make me look bad, which is never going to make me think she is a very nice person is it?

    equally i didnt expect so many posts saying that he must obviously be cheating on me. surely the only way anybodys relationship with a memebr of the forces survives such long periods of being apart is by having total trust in your partner? i KNOW my boyfriend wouldn't cheat on me and that men and women can be freinds and spend time together without it leading to anything- I would be very suprised if there is a single person on the forum who does not have male friends they spend time with whilst their partner is away.

    the point of my moan was NOT that i thought he was cheating on me but that:
    - somebody who has never even met me was making me look bad to people whose good opinion i had done a lot to earn and there was nothing i could do about it
    - that because we live in different countries i hadnt seen him for ages and she had and i was jealous


    I hope all that can be an end to what has become a very negative thread, and not at all the simple introduction that i had intended.

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    My bold, you sound like I did this time last year.
    TBH if she is spreading rumours and man in a relationship should be turning around and making it quite clear that there is nothing going on. As others have said it is disrespectful to you, to your relationship and more over if you keep hearing these rumours if they arent true they can and will have an effect on how much you trust your OH, not to mention when you do go to visit him the potential for people to be laughing at you behind your back - if the rumours are true or not other people 'knowing' your OH can get away with having a relationship and his local shag will be commented on.

    So personally Id get it sorted out with him pretty damn quickly, and honestly I would speak to her about it. The forces are a small world and getting out or not this kind of thing can have a lasting effect on a persons career (my ex recently failed a promotions board because they didnt think he was 'morally' suited to an advanced leadership rank ).


    As for her any woman who can claim to be sleeping with/actually be sleeping with another girls fella and know hes another girls blerk wants shooting.
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    Re: About time I wrote something instead of just reading!

    Been there, done that, got the Tshirt...and the rumours were true (not in an army context, but does it really change anything?). Sorry gal, but you're gonna have to get to the bottom of this, talk to ALL parties involved and trust your instincts.

    I'm so glad I did when my ex pulled that dirty trick on me. To my honour I did not emasculate him with a blunt knife (although the thought did cross my mind and my best friend had offered to help), just booted him out of my life. And lo and behold, 6 months later I was meeting a wonderful man who is now my husband. I would never have met him if I had stayed with that creep. (and trust me, I was *very* good at pulling wool over my *own* eyes)

    I hope all will turn out well honey, but do your homework before you let any more rumours ruin your life/health.

    Val xx

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