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Discuss I'm back in Welcome on Rear Party; Hi everyone, I posted a while ago about my young man going to Sandhurst. Around January he decided not to join (apparently too hard on us -AKA me). After a couple of months of moping ...
  
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    Junior Member felicity_james's Avatar
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    I'm back

    Hi everyone,

    I posted a while ago about my young man going to Sandhurst. Around January he decided not to join (apparently too hard on us -AKA me). After a couple of months of moping and low level resentment he's now back into fitness training and hoping to get in September or Jan.
    So - I'm back!

    Has anyone on this site actually been in a relationship that's survived Sandhurst? I've had a look through and the main view is that odds are slim - anyone out there one of the few? Obviously I'm taking the view that I can't abide failure so it won't be us that splits - but any advice greatly welcome.

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    Can't help you with advice but I can give you a BIG WARM welcome
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    Felicity,

    Welcome to RP.

    Please don't think that because your fella is going to Sandhurst that your chances of 'survival' are any less than anyone else who's partner is at any other depot. The job is difficult, in varying degrees.

    However, keep a positive attitude, always remember why you love him and you will be fine.

    Liz

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    My friend started at Sandhurst this year. So far I've managed to see her twice, and know she has been back home to see her family a couple of times too, as well as having some block leave between terms. So it isn't that bad, more like a boarding school with set leave dates etc...

    I don't see anything like this being a problem unless you think of it as being one...
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    thanks folks. I know i love him and he loves me, so we'll be fine.

    It's just nice to hear it from somebody else!

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    Quote Originally Posted by LizBiff
    Please don't think that because your fella is going to Sandhurst that your chances of 'survival' are any less than anyone else who's partner is at any other depot.
    Apart from the fact they are there for a year, they get less leave than any other Phase 1 trainee, and rarely get full weekends off.

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    Frankly if he's worried about being able to make it due to separation from yourself, then his chances of making it are vastly reduced, plus you'll probably run into problems if he commissions and is away more and more.

    Don't mean to be harsh, but he either commits to his first couple of years or he doesn't go for it. Half measures will make no-one happy in the long run.

    I'm sure if you love each other etc. etc.
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    Jim Junior was consecutively two years at Welbeck, three years at RMCS Shrivenham, then a year at Sandhurst followed by six months in Iraq. After that it was another few months in Germany before returning to the UK.

    Then he married his childhood sweetheat.

    My point is that relationships can and do survive, so long as they're strong enough in the first place. Good luck.
    And with that he picked up the bloody old towser by the neck and, by Jesus, he near throttled him.

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