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Discuss New at all this! in Welcome on Rear Party; Hi, my boyfriend of just under 6 months went off on tour just before xmas. and being new at all this i discovered rp. Reading your posts has made me feel less isolated, so i ...
  
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    New at all this!

    Hi, my boyfriend of just under 6 months went off on tour just before xmas. and being new at all this i discovered rp. Reading your posts has made me feel less isolated, so i thought I'd say hi and see if you have any advice for getting through all this!

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    Re: New at all this!

    Hiya Puss, welcome to RP. Never again will you feel like you're on your own. There are loads of threads about getting through the separation. Have a wander round the site and you'll find loads.

    Keep smiling, and get involved!

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    Re: New at all this!

    Hi Puss,

    It's been suggested to some others to write a blog/diary and let us know what you're up to while the OH is away.

    Legs is right, don't feel alone with us here, share your views, thoughts, feelings etc with us, most of us don't bite!!!

    Do you have friends and/or family around you? Most here will say to keep yourself busy and it'll help the time pass quicker.

    Write plenty of blueys to your fella, will give you a chance to tell him what you're up to, even if you end up writing about nothing important, he'll appreciate them.

    Keep your chin up and keep smiling )
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    Re: New at all this!

    Thanks for your kind words and advice. have got family and friend around but they don't have chaps that are away so sometimes they make me more lonely! I speak to him and his family when i can. and will be busy again next week when i go back to work. In the meantime i thought it would just be nice to speak to some folk in the same position!
    Puss

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    Re: New at all this!

    hiya Puss_In_Boots

    when my hubby (then fiance) was in the army the 1st time (hes now rejoined) he went away 4 6months and i felt so lonley but as the posts above say keep busy,write blueys, the time will fly..

    keep smiling

    Karen

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    Re: New at all this!

    Hi puss_in_boots


    My hubby just went away on tour after xmas,its his sixth tour & its still hard for me but some how you just get on with it,my days are very busy as i have 2 children to look after but its in the evening that gets me & the wk ends. anytime you need to chat just pm me.

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    Re: New at all this!

    Weclome Puss,

    Vodka is the key! No seriously do a chuff chart and cross off the days until he is back. Stay busy and occupied. It will soon go.

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    Re: New at all this!

    my oh left about a month and a hlf ago, yes i miss him liek crazy but what i do is just go to bed once the kids are asleep, lol, thats usually at 9pm
    during the day you should get into your own routine, the first morning after he left i made him a coffee and felt so stupid when i clicked that it be a bit difficult to drink while hes in the desert..

    well now after surviving xmas and new year i am getting back to my own routine with the kids...
    he stays in touch all the time which helps a lot and all i can really say is

    chin up he be back sooner than you think and when he is you be wondering where the last 6 mnths went!!!
    i am in same position as you so if you wanna chat just pm me...
    going crazy back soon!!!

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    Re: New at all this!

    Thanks all for your lovely messages.... he's been in touch lots today, which has made me feel better.

    Back to work on Monday so that'll be me back in the old routine!!! And have spent the last two days doing some serious retail therapy.... am gonna be stupidly broke by the time he gets back!!

    Hope you are all having a fun weekend

    Puss xx

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    Re: New at all this!

    hi puss_in_boots,

    i am the same as you my hubby is in afghan he went out in oct, what everyone else says it ture just keep your self busy were you are back at work on monday that will help.
    When my hubby first went away in nov 06 i did not know about this sit so i felt totaley alone the whole time till he got home in feb 07, then he went back out in oct 07 and i got told about thins site and it really dose help.
    like choc_chip says start a blog/diary it really dose help that is what i done and it soooo passes the time, it will feel like you have been on for bout a hour but you look at the clock and it is more like 3 lol
    it is very addictive and it is nice aswell loads of support from ppl who are the same as you with hubbys away and some that have been through it.
    The guys on hear are brill i dont know how i would have made it through with out them.

    so chin up hun and keep smileing speak soon and take care x

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    Re: New at all this!

    Welcome Puss, hope you find support and take the time to listen and share.

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    Re: New at all this!

    hi can i just add that one thing i found really valuable when hubby goes away is the frequency of phone calls. on his first tour i didnt hear from him for 3 months and it was the longest 3 months of my life. with every tour that goes by we have figured out that if he only rings me once a week it gives us something to aim for for the week, we mad be on the phone all night but it really did make the tour go quicker. the first tour is always the hardest but as a previous post said, once its over with you will wonder where the time went as they do fly. i set myself things to do that i couldnt do if he was here like going to theme parks (hubby hates them) having big girly nights, that sort of thing. oh and shopping all day without him moaning he is bored!!! just keep busy and you will also find sites like these will become your best friend ever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    Re: New at all this!

    Hello puss in boots, (Like the name).

    Welcome to RP. Have you started sending Eblueys ( https://www.ebluey.com/bfpo/login.cf...4d6eba26b766f2 ) too? They are a great way to stay in touch with your man while on Op tours and it's free. Just set yourself up an account and you'll be well away.

    Take care.

    Rinky xx

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    Re: New at all this!

    Hiya Puss! Still relatively new to this site too so welcome! It's good on here, loads of info and some hilarious threads...
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    Re: New at all this!

    Heya Puss,
    keep in touch with us on RP, read through the old threads about any linked subject, distract yourself, keep you social net busy and don t be shy to get help, advice, comfort etc.
    take care. xx Dini xx

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    Re: New at all this!

    Hey babes
    Have found this site great for advice and keeping me sane Ė was able to help me with issues/ questioins that I didnít want to ask my oh.
    Just keep chin up and constantly keep busy with mates etc or take up a new hobby
    xxxxxxx

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    Re: New at all this!

    Thanks all. It's been a good weekend Mr Puss has been in touch over the weekend and has been discussing lots of cool things for us to do when he gets back so that's given me something to look forward to.

    Being back at work has helped keep my mind occupied especially as i got offered a new job and have now resigned my old one! Its been a very busy day!!

    The strange thing is i miss the really small stuff,and now i know this sounds really sappy but .... i miss my little good morning text messages from him.

    Thanks for all the support, its making me feel loads better
    xxxxx
    Puss

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