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    a sad and soon to be pissed newbie

    hiya everybody, my OH is going on his first tour while we've been together. i can cope with the separation as he's based in germany and i'm in the uk but i don't know how i'm going to cope with the worry... i don't know any other forces wives/girlfriends, and my mates/family don't understand

    sorry i'm whingeing now as you've all heard this a million times before! i'll shut up i'm boring meself!

    i'm going now to drink a large amont of red wine

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    Re: a sad and soon to be pissed newbie

    Welcome to RP tattyhead.

    Seperation is going to be tougher this time due to where he's going. Try not to dwell on it, and don't develope a news fixation. Wecoming a worry-wort will not help him or you.

    We may have heard it before, but that doesn't help you. Lots of the girls on here have been through it, and will be along soon to offer their support.

    While you have the bottle there though, pour one for me...!

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    Re: a sad and soon to be pissed newbie

    thanks, it helps to know other people know what i mean. avoiding the news is my number one priority from now on

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    Re: a sad and soon to be pissed newbie

    welcome to RP

    Mind if I open a bottle of white and come join you two?

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    Re: a sad and soon to be pissed newbie

    Aye dont be selfish with the booze!


    As legs said its hard but the best thing to do really is avoid the news as much as possible it only makes you worry more (I know it did me!) which does neither of you any good.

    I'm in the same position I'm in the UK and my OH is based in Germany so I know how hard it is dealing with that separation never mind knowing theyre somewhere even further away, my OH is away too at the moment I think technically when hes back on R''n'R we've survived one tour (we got together on his r'n'r last year), and from my admittedly limted experience it does get slightly easier - or you get better at using alcohol to blot it all out

    The best advice anyone ever gave me was to keep busy, take up a new hobby (if your too lazy for an exersize based one try fishkeeping the little scaley buggers will take over your life mine have done), be nice to your liver and try not to drink too much - at least if you are doing share with us its better for you that way honest get a new job start a distance learning course etc, and make sure you register with ebluey so you can get letters to him quickly, he really will appeciate that you write and keep him upto date with your goings on however mundane they seem to you. And of course try and make some kind of plans for his R'n'R or post op leave (those are even better if he offers to pay).

    And not forgetting get stuck in on here, we're a nice enough bunch and everyones been in the same boat at some point so dont be afraid to ask silly questions-but you can probably find the answers of the boards somewhere though.
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    Re: a sad and soon to be pissed newbie

    thank you everybody!!!!! i'm feeling that alcohol is deffo the answer at the moment

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    Re: a sad and soon to be pissed newbie

    I might be able to manage a small glass......

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    Re: a sad and soon to be pissed newbie

    Mine's a red wine, cheers!

    I second (third, or fourth??) what has been said so far about avoiding the news. When my OH came back on R&R, the things he was telling me were so different to what you hear on the news that I really don't think you get an accurate picture at all if you believe what you hear.

    Another thing to think about is not to worry if you aren't getting regular phone calls/letters/emails, or if he doesn't call when he says he will. Contact is very erratic and can be shut down by the slightest thing. If you are always thinking the worst because you haven't received that call, your whole life will come to a halt.

    Other than that, drinking is definitely a great solution to all life's problems.

    Chin up,
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    Re: a sad and soon to be pissed newbie

    Hello and welcome! trawl in through the thousands of posts about how people cope I'm sure you will find some comfort!

    Missy

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    Re: a sad and soon to be pissed newbie

    Welcome to rear party

    There are alot of useful tips and advice throughtout, im sure you will find something thats applicable to you. Dont hesitate to ask the girls here for advice or help with coping strategies, they are great and will help all they can. Also good for a having a giggle and natter.

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    Re: a sad and soon to be pissed newbie

    Got any rosé? :P

    Welcome to RP, you've found the best place if you need any advice or just want to moan and let off steam because we all understand and many of us are in the same situation as well - and a lot of people on here have given me the best advice to get me through our seperation while hes away, and the stress!

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    Re: a sad and soon to be pissed newbie

    Unfortunately i cant drink at the minute but welcome anyway

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    Re: a sad and soon to be pissed newbie

    thank you everybody, it is nice to know that other people get what i'm feeling.

    the red wine wasn't a good idea though, i think i'm going to die

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    Re: a sad and soon to be pissed newbie

    Well it has been proven the darker the drink, the worse the hangover!

    I remember once binging on Cheeky Vimtos (port & WKD), and the next morning, OMG, I thought I was never going to get rid of the hangover - it was awful!

    I was also on WeightWatchers at the time and had put on FOUR pounds!!!

    So I'm sticking to vodka and rosé

    I hope u feel better soon!

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    Re: a sad and soon to be pissed newbie

    Quote Originally Posted by Fally_Fox
    So I'm sticking to vodka and rosé
    Mixed? I like you even more now I know what good taste you have Fally
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    Doesn't believe in rose coloured glasses but things do look better at the bottom of a glass of Rosé.

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    Re: a sad and soon to be pissed newbie

    Can somebody have a large glass for me please? as I'm avoiding the demon drink right now, lol.

    Like everyone else has said don't rely on the news for accurate picture of whats happening.

    Don't sit by the phone waiting for a call..it never happens while you are waiting!

    Although friends/ family don't really understand don't keep them at arms length, they will be a lifeline for you. Keep up with your normal social commitments etc, it will all help the time pass much quicker.

    Oh and I find it helps to break it up into manageable segments, instead of thinking it's however many long dreary months. Like for me half term and school holidays have become landmarks,

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    Re: a sad and soon to be pissed newbie

    Quote Originally Posted by scuba_angel
    Quote Originally Posted by Fally_Fox
    So I'm sticking to vodka and rosé
    Mixed? I like you even more now I know what good taste you have Fally
    Do you know what? I've never tried it but I will next weekend

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    Re: a sad and soon to be pissed newbie

    Hi ya,

    My man is away he left in May for Iraq wont be back till December its the first tour he has been on since we have been together.

    Dose ya man have a mobile? Although my bloke was told he was not allowed mobiles out there lots of them have bought Iraq mobiles. Since then he txts all the time and its great! Im not as stressed out waiting for a call or email although there are times he is not allowed to txt. Its nice waking up in the morning to a txt from him.

    Hang in there the time will fly by (or so people tell me) xx

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    Re: a sad and soon to be pissed newbie

    oooh Im in there i luv wine no matter wot the colour
    welcome to rp

    the days will soon wizz past and he will be home

    take care

    fj

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    Re: a sad and soon to be pissed newbie

    hiya dixipixi, he's told me he can't use a mobile coz he's in afganistan, and he doesn't know bout email and phone calls coz it depends on what he's doing.

    oh well, i'll be ok!

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