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    New and scared

    Hi everyone, I am new to all this and unsure how things work. My OH is in the RLC and I have now moved in with him, so getting serious. I have never dated a forces guy before and I have no support group through my friends or family as neither have they.

    At the moment it is all good as he gets home every Friday, but my worry is that he is due to go on another tour next year for 6 months and that is when I know I will start to think all sorts of things.

    Looking through past topics on the forums, it looks as though there is a lot of support and Itch and Bitch is hilarious.

    How do you cope with them being away?


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    Re: New and scared

    Hiya

    Have a good read and there are lots of people who can give you good advice about coping while they are on tour

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    Re: New and scared

    Quote Originally Posted by little_miss_curious
    How do you cope with them being away?

    Hiya

    It sounds weird but you just cope when they're away. Just take things as they come and try to keep busy.


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    Re: New and scared

    hi and welcome on board

    if your OH does go away the important thing is to keep busy, and have some sort of countdown system until he comes back, so you can tick the days off and see the time pass

    my OH is also RLC, but we are doing the long distance thing, so used to being apart!

    cheers!
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    Re: New and scared

    Hello and welcome.....

    Have a good hunt through all the threads there's some great advice there as the others have said.
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    Re: New and scared

    Hey, I always find it helps to remember that there's loads of other couples going through the same thing who make it, if they can do it so can I

    RP helps, I'm pretty much totally new to the whole thing too and it's made me feel like I'm not alone, and helped me to take things a little less seriously too

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    Re: New and scared

    Hi little_miss_curious

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    Welcome in. My 666 is RLC. Pet Op.
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    Re: New and scared

    Hello and welcome!
    as said have a good read through the forums. I'm sure you'll find lots of threads about how people cope!!

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    Re: New and scared

    Hiya, all of the above, most importantly keep busy busy busy and remember... each day is one day closer to him coming home

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    Re: New and scared

    Hey little miss, I'm going through the separation at the moment - we lived together and then he went away, much the same as you. I didn't know how I was going to cope with it - sounds pathetic now with hindsight, but you can't help how you feel when it's all unknown territory. I was a mess in the weeks (even months) leading up to him going and I swear to God I will not be like that again. It has been so much easier since he left because as Teetypie says, every day they're gone is another day closer to them coming back so your focus changes from being negative to being positive. I'm so busy with work and it's also given me the chance to do all the things that I want to do - and the best part is thinking about how wonderful it will be when he gets back. You'll be fine - if we can all do it, so can you! Welcome to RP!

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    How do you cope with them being away?
    Easy, we get on the gladrags and have a few wild nights out in between going to work and all the rest of the boring things we're supposed to do
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    hey and welcome!! i always say....absence makes the heart grow fonder!! you will be fine xx
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    Re: New and scared

    Quote Originally Posted by tattooedlady
    Quote Originally Posted by little_miss_curious
    How do you cope with them being away?

    Hiya

    It sounds weird but you just cope when they're away. Just take things as they come and try to keep busy.

    How would you know?

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    Re: New and scared

    Quote Originally Posted by mingmong
    Quote Originally Posted by tattooedlady
    Quote Originally Posted by little_miss_curious
    How do you cope with them being away?

    Hiya

    It sounds weird but you just cope when they're away. Just take things as they come and try to keep busy.

    How would you know?
    Because I do

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    Re: New and scared

    Thanks everyone for your advice. As I have never been out with a military guy b4. When he is home it is soooo good and I know that he loves me, it's just that when he is away, that is when I start thinking that not is all well. It's prob just my overactive imagination.

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