Thread: Bullying

The definition of bullying according to the Oxford English Dictionary

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…a person who uses strength or influence to harm or intimidate those who are weaker…

At no point has Ms Mcnaughton ever been bullied on Rear Party and I am astonished it’s even been suggested.

Ms. Mcnaughton is a blogger. A blogger is a person that records personal opinions online on a regular basis. The very act of publishing personal thoughts/opinions online solicits other people’s opinions. If you care to read Ms. Mcnaughton’s blog, you will note in the comment section a hard core of readers who never disagree with her opinion. Ms. Mcnaughton chooses to publish her blog on Rear Party. Rear Party is populated by partners and friends of those in the Armed Forces. It is an extremely diverse readership, posters are from all age ranges, social backgrounds, religious and sexual orientations. The very nature of the readership is going to produce reasoned argument to Ms. Mcnaughtons’s personal opinions. Unfortunately and sadly to the detriment of Rear Party, Ms. Mcnaughton has continually proven to be unable to accept any form of criticism. She reacts in a childish manner, personally attacks posters who dare to question her and then in the cold light of day, she realises how she has behaved and deletes her comments. She doesn’t even have the courage to stand by her remarks and ultimately fails to command the respect she obviously craves.

Ms. Mcnaughton appears to be on a personal crusade to overhaul the way families are treated and housed. In asking for the opinion of the very people she wishes to “help”, she unwittingly exposed the fact that she has no real understanding of the way the British Armed Forces work, the reasons for traditions, who the partners are, where they come from, what they need and the differences in each service. Basically she has no idea and refuses to accept this, as far as she’s concerned; she knows best and the rest of us are wrong. She has succeeded in patronising us, laughing at us, belittling us and alienating the very people she wishes to “help”.

Ms. Mcnaughton’s behaviour continues to be questionable and as I have said in the past, I find it hard to believe she is still involved in such a high profile position with the Olive Network.

I agree entirely. And expressed much more eloquently than I could manage!

I've only just seen the "I feel bullied "comment so was wondering where this thread came from and now that I understand...good grief. Bullied my backside. I give up. I truly do. When did it become acceptable to not question or disagree with someone? When? Especially when they show ignorance of a level that's actually quite embarrassing.
Logging off before I rant any more this week ...

I haven't seen that thread (I don't think) but all I shall say is that my great grandparents, my grandparents, my father and my husband have all fought, or survived wars for freedom of speech and I believe that everyone living in what used to be Great Britain, or it's common wealth should be afforded it. If you don't like it .... jog on.

What I fail to understand is how can RP members be accused of bullying, yet when she gets stick from across the road, we hear not a peep.

Rear Ended

How does that work then?

Bodger, clearly we're expected to conform to gender roles like all good millies! Yay for the patriarchy! I love Big Brother! And braaaaainnns.

i can't comment. im just a normal soldiers wife, with no higher education and this whole argument is to taxing for my little peabrain.
just wondering who i could accuse of bullying.......about half this site? you have an internet blog, surely as an educated woman you would have anticipated that not everybody will agree with you. Just because you are married to a man in the military doesn't mean that all people with military connections , automatically agree with you.
Grow up, my daughter behaves better in kindergarten.

Personally I find her posts contradict trading standards, due to the fact she's not a modern military mother, she's a modern military wife.

In a previous job I remember being told that the military was a microcosm of wider commonwealth society, and the families of the military are just the same. That's stuck with me to this day and that's why I love RP so much. Viva la difference (or sommat like that).

There's some brilliant debate on here, some diverse views and opinions which make for a lively site which is worth visiting time and again each day. All that connects us is a family/friend/loved-one connection to the military, and that's where the similarity ends. it's brilliant.

Finally, the NFF are more than adequate at representing my views to the heirarchy. They did a brilliant job with a particular issue I had and I can say hand on heart that they help other RN wives in more ways than I could list here. I don't need anyone else to Pigeonhole me, thanks

What I miss! Sod it, if she can't handle the heat 'get out'. I agree that public domain is a free-for-all and you gotta take the rough with the smooth and I was willing to give AMMM the benefit of the doubt a month ago. But now, having RP accused of bullying, takes the mick.

This lass wouldn't last 2 seconds in the forces! And no, you're not being bullied

I thoroughly agree with Gentlesoul. Ms McNaughton blogs on here and must expect people to make their points in their replies - it is in my opinion healthy discussion. She is not bullied at all - she can stand up for herself and argue back - that is what freesom of speech is about. I find a lot to disagree wiht in her blogs but don't often bother commenting - maybe I am at fault as a member of the site for not expressing my opinions as much as I should. I'm sure she has done good work promoting "Restropo" but comments such as "the Jews run Hollywood" do remind one of the Nazism of the 1930s and I think if she really thinks this it is worrying. Anyone with any knnowledge of the holocaust would feel uneasy at reading this comment.I am not by any means "PC". It is acceptable for someone who is black/Jewish/Sikh etc to make a comment on their own race where it isn't for those who aren't members of that race - maybe this is wrong but that is the way it is for anyone sensitive to such issues

I've read a few of the threads with interest, but always refrained from commenting as it would be like p!ssing in the wind.

Of all the forums I am a member of I can honestly say THIS is one of them where I have never seen any evidence of 'bullying'...its probably one of the friendliest forums I am a part of...that said, if I were to write about things in an opinionated manner I'd probably get pulled up and questioned by the other members, you can't expect to state your case on some matters and not have people question you.

If you post 'emotive' opinions, expect to open it to debate with the people you're sharing them with/talking about. Its pretty simple.

Originally Posted by EnigmaRole

I've read a few of the threads with interest, but always refrained from commenting as it would be like p!ssing in the wind.

Of all the forums I am a member of I can honestly say THIS is one of them where I have never seen any evidence of 'bullying'...its probably one of the friendliest forums I am a part of...that said, if I were to write about things in an opinionated manner I'd probably get pulled up and questioned by the other members, you can't expect to state your case on some matters and not have people question you.

If you post 'emotive' opinions, expect to open it to debate with the people you're sharing them with/talking about. Its pretty simple.

My bold; Like you said ER you do expect to be pulled up, but I have never seen anything but reasoned debate on here. Definately not bullying. We do live in the "free world" and as such are entitled to freedom of speech.

Now whether any of us are particularly PC, well that is another matter!

I have been away with the boy for the weekend and just come back to this so haven't seen the original thread.

I work in a primary school, I see bullying at it's best (or worst really), and I see how introverted victims become. They do not come back with sarcastic comments, and often, pale into the background in an effort to ensure their actions go unnoticed.

Within the next 6 months or so of OH being in a sandpit, there are going to be times where I say things on here that people do not agree with, or feel the need to correct me. Go for your life... I like the fact that I live in a democracy. If I have an opinion on something, you will hear it, that is not to say I will completely ignore your viewpoint, but I am not about to stomp my feet and make wild accusations of bullying.