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    girlfriend not wife :(

    hiya everyone,
    my boyfriend is getting based in catterick in june and ive heard mixed replies from people,
    see, we want to live on the barracks together and some people say yeah we can,,,but others say no, not until you married.
    were only 18 and we do love each other but dont want to get married just to live together, and if not it would mean almost a 3h journey there and back everyday.

    are there any allowances, other then being pregnant or married?

    All responses will be welcome, thanks

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    Re: girlfriend not wife :(

    Hi and welcome and nope.

    Best you can do is move near him, there are plenty of towns within a 10 mile radius (I could poss be wrong with the names of the towns);

    * Richmond
    * Hornby
    * East Hauxwell
    * Hunton

    Unfortunately, as you are not married you do not qualify for anything.
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    Hiya,

    You're right not to get married if you feel you're too young. Unfortunately mirroring what josephine said, unless you're married you won't get army housing or help from the military, sorry to say that even having a baby together doesn't mean you'll be entitled to anything as far as i am aware.

    Although you could look at renting nearby, maybe even a house share with some other girls so you'll have company wheen he's not there.

    Hello and welcome to RP, by the way.

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    Loads of places to rent in Catterick Garrison. Jump onto Rightmove and have a shuftie.

    Good luck!

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    Re: girlfriend not wife :(

    hi

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    What the above siad, you cant get a MQ unless you are married.

    Sure there must be loads of places to rent around there and if you cant get sorted renting then 3 hours each way is do-able!!

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    Re: girlfriend not wife :(

    Yeah, what boogie said

    Don't jump onboard the marriage bandwagon just so you can get an MQ, plus you are very young, you both have years ahead of you to experience first.

    There is nothing wrong with traveling to see each other, it's part of the commitment, anyone would do it if they had to (plenty of members on this site have had to do it).

    Good luck in your choices x
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    Hiya,

    I'm 22 and at the moment my fella is based in Salisbury and I live in Preston at uni, we are both from Stoke so meet there which is in the middle every weekend. We are engaged and all is good. Its not too much hassle travelling and it will challenge you relationship and commitment which at 18 isn't a bad thing. I wouldn't move just yet or get married just to live there. See how he likes it there before you move. My fella is moving to Germany and I guess I'm going thru the same thing, move or not to move!?!

    Amy xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by AmyBassett
    Hiya,
    Its not too much hassle travelling and it will challenge you relationship and commitment which at 18 isn't a bad thing. I wouldn't move just yet or get married just to live there.
    Good point made, Amy - and one to keep in mind for in the Army, it won't ever just be one move, and you won't always be together, regardless. There are exercises, tours, operational tours, foreign exercises ... the list is endless.

    I also think that, at 18, the young lad in question may be opened up to new opportunities of travelling etc. and won't want to have to think of not going in case his girlfriend doesn't like it . Sounds harsh, maybe, but you're both young and there are so many life experiences available to you both NOW that might not be there in the same free-and-easy circumstances in the future.

    A commute isn't a bad thing for a relationship --- what doesn't kill it makes it stronger

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    Re: girlfriend not wife :(

    I'm with Amy and CK, my OH lives and works down south and I'm up in Bolton, he comes up here when he can and in the meantime we keep ourselves amused sending abusive messages to one another which range from mildly cheeky to out and out cruel (but thats just us) via any medium possible. I'd love for him to be closer but hes not and we make the best of it - although one day he might realise I work weekends and I cant just drop everything and run to him when he has nothing to do and no money to come north (I'd go during the week when I'm not working but I dont fancy sleeping in his tiny bed with him on the floor in a room with three other blokes, oddly).
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    Re: girlfriend not wife :(

    just thought i'd say thanx 2 everyone's advice,
    im thinking i dnt really want to gt married just yet, but i wouldn't mind the move because theres not much for me here at the moment, and weve lived together before for a few months so it shouldn't be a problem,
    weve been together for 2 years and sometimes this whole army thing is a bit scary especially seen as though hes off to afgan in november over christmas , to everyone else who copes with their OH going on long tours,, ive got to ask,,,,how do you do it? i struggle with 3 weeks apart let alone 3 months,,

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    Re: girlfriend not wife :(

    We keep busy, amazing how much housework/study/dog walking etc gets done when the male isnt around. Take a look at CK's blogs for a good example of how we all cope (although not all of us are quite that nuts). Mines likely to be away over Christmas this year and I'm not looking forward to it but will be finding ways to stay busy.
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    Re: girlfriend not wife :(

    Quote Originally Posted by x.lll.x
    just thought i'd say thanx 2 everyone's advice,
    im thinking i dnt really want to gt married just yet, but i wouldn't mind the move because theres not much for me here at the moment, and weve lived together before for a few months so it shouldn't be a problem,
    weve been together for 2 years and sometimes this whole army thing is a bit scary especially seen as though hes off to afgan in november over christmas , to everyone else who copes with their OH going on long tours,, ive got to ask,,,,how do you do it? i struggle with 3 weeks apart let alone 3 months,,
    Its amazing what you can get used to. I wont see Mr SC until August...its not easy but you get into a routine. Dont get me wrong...there are days where I would give anything just to pick up the phone and chat to him or give him a hug. I guess it's the sacrifice you make to be with the one you love. Maybe some people are all or nothing and it just doesn't work. It's up to you really... suck it and see

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    Re: girlfriend not wife :(

    Quote Originally Posted by scuba_angel
    We keep busy, amazing how much housework/study/dog walking etc gets done when the male isnt around. Take a look at CK's blogs for a good example of how we all cope (although not all of us are quite that nuts). Mines likely to be away over Christmas this year and I'm not looking forward to it but will be finding ways to stay busy.
    CK now has a loyalty card with Majestic! Notice how they haven't been affected by the economic downturn!!

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    Re: girlfriend not wife :(

    Quote Originally Posted by smartcookie
    Quote Originally Posted by scuba_angel
    We keep busy, amazing how much housework/study/dog walking etc gets done when the male isnt around. Take a look at CK's blogs for a good example of how we all cope (although not all of us are quite that nuts). Mines likely to be away over Christmas this year and I'm not looking forward to it but will be finding ways to stay busy.
    CK now has a loyalty card with Majestic! Notice how they haven't been affected by the economic downturn!!
    You sure they dont just get her to phone orders in so they can stock up in preparation for her shopping trips?
    Have to admit the blerk is away now for a couple of months and the bottles of vodka are calling rather louder now than they were a few days ago!
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    Re: girlfriend not wife :(

    Hello,
    Catterick Garrison is OK, dotted around the area within the garrison itself are streets and blocks of flats that are no longer used by the army and have been sold on to private owners-and a few of them are available to rent. There is an estate agent or 2 in the Garrison (well there was before the old credit crunch), it might be worth a look at their websites.

    Darlington and Northallerton are both about 20-30 minutes away. Richmond and Colburn are very close to the Garrison, as in 5 minutes away.

    http://www.rightmove.co.uk/estate-ag...REGION%255E298

    http://www.sandersonsproperty.co.uk/lettingsmap.htm

    http://www.rightmove.co.uk/property-...E1126&index=20

    I moved away and private rented for the exact same reason you are. But that was nearly 10 years ago!
    Best of luck.
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