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    Civil Partnerships, Gay/lesbien couples views of them?

    Hi im a newbie but have been reading some of the forums for a while but have hesitaed to register as i wasnt sure of the reception i would get but everyone seems friendly enuf.

    My Partner is re joining the army he finished training around 3 years ago but due to family issues with his mums partner passing away and her being left with his 2 sister to help at home. everthings all fine at home again and hes alway regreated leaving we have spoke and im fine with it all.

    My only real concerns are for our future we have been together for just coming up to 3 years and bin though alot together.

    I am really interested to know how other hetrosexual couples or anyone feels about civil partnership couple having the same entiltlement as married and how would you feel is a said couple moved into the mq next to you. I know i read some where that an offical type of politican of some sort said he though is was a disgrace which would course couples and familys living in the area un needed stress.

    sorry im rambling but im not sure how to put all the thing in my head in this topic but please any know how or experience or information would be fantastic.

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    Re: Civil Partnerships, Gay/lesbien couples views of them?

    Please excuse me if i have read that all wrong...but are you and your partner...in a gay relationship??

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    Re: Civil Partnerships, Gay/lesbien couples views of them?

    haha o yeah completly forgot to mention that yeah were both male, where not the stereotype in ya face we tend not to do the whole public thing and hes very much a man man. were not currently in a civil partnership but it is something that will be on the cards in the future.

    he wont be telling anybody i imagine at first but he does want me with him but i dunno how comfortable i would be with living in a military area as a gay couple.

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    Re: Civil Partnerships, Gay/lesbien couples views of them?

    In my experience a military area is like any area. There will be ignorant people who have a problem with it but I would hope the vast majority wouldn't have any problems. I know people have negative ideas of the Army and its ways but at the end of the day you'd be surprised how accepting people are.

    Take a look at Legs' blog on here, her experiences show that people she least expected to be supportive were.

    Just my opinion though ... Welcome to RP by the way! x

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    Hey, ONly_me thanks and you are proberbly right i think maybe i do have a negative view on the army in that respect.

    Thanks again x

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    Seeing as how I lodged with a gay couple who I now count as two of my best friends I would not have a problem and neither would my husband.

    However, like Only_me says in all walks of like there are bigots and ignorant people. It's how you deal with it that counts.

    Like people of any sexuality, overt flamboyancy puts others on edge, for an example an 'Edie Britt' type of woman will alway attract the wrong type of attention as much as an overtly camp gay man would.

    I would say one thing though, it's probably better if your partner has a sense of humour and can laugh at himself. A lot of the relationships in the army are largely based around banter. For example in my husbands office any perceived flaw is picked on, ginger, tall, chubby, balding, short there is nothing these guys wont say to one another. It's all in the spirit of banter and if you 'flash' it's all the funnier to the others.

    Anyway, welcome to RP. XX

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    Hi sammi Tanks for the welcome. Yeah know i agree with you both of us our fine with banter we both tend take the piss outta each other most of the time think hes kind of expecting it. but as i said hell be avoiding it coming out in the start for his own sanity i think ^^

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    Re: Civil Partnerships, Gay/lesbien couples views of them?

    Couldn't care less, and either would my husband. It's none of my business what people do behind closed doors, or what their relationship choices are.

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    As long as my neighbours are sociable and considerate I couldn't give a flying fig as to their sexual preference. As Only said - there is ignorance everywhere. I just hope you don't find a much as you think within the service world.
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    Re: Civil Partnerships, Gay/lesbien couples views of them?

    Quote Originally Posted by lawlady
    As long as my neighbours are sociable and considerate I couldn't give a flying fig as to theie sexual preference. As Only said - there is ignorance everywhere. I just hope you don't find a much as you think within the service world.
    Welcome to RP - just hope you drink ....... it's quite compulsary here xxx
    hahaha atm im recovering from the vino and cider last night although i think as im drinking another glass that ive fully recoverd....untill tomoz im sure tis the season and all xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by Frogger
    tis the season and all xx
    Tis ALWAYS the season around here...........

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    Re: Civil Partnerships, Gay/lesbien couples views of them?

    Quote Originally Posted by lawlady
    As long as my neighbours are sociable and considerate I couldn't give a flying fig as to their sexual preference. As Only said - there is ignorance everywhere. I just hope you don't find a much as you think within the service world.
    Welcome to RP - just hope you drink ....... it's quite compulsary here xxx
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    Nothing wrong with a drink or 8 its when the bin men dnt turn up an issue arises also in the event of a bank holiday early close time :S

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    I have no problem at all with same sex couples, its the small minded arrogant minority who spoil it.
    Everyone has the right to love whoever they please, and certainly do not need approval from anyone.

    I say good luck to you both, i'm sure you'll be fine and as said earlier, there will always be someone venting an opinion.....but you have to be the bigger person and rise above it.

    Good luck hun.

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    Yeah thanks been nice getting the comments that you all left i think i feel alot better about the situation then i didd just reading around the forums really i think alot of my basis was that i didnt want it to be 3 years into a service and still only getting to see the over half just on the weekend then they go on ops and tour so at some point i want to be living close to him and have some normality to the relationship in the sense when he is around i can see him at the end of the day so yeah thanks for all your comments its help settle some of the many things that run though your mind when this all starts which im sure your all very aware of and have gone though so i imagine youll be hearing alot more from me

    Lol hes said to me he dnt wanna be going away on tour and coming back to an alchie,,,,,, who me? NEVER! :P

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    Quote Originally Posted by Frogger
    Lol hes said to me he dnt wanna be going away on tour and coming back to an alchie,,,,,, who me? NEVER! :P
    Its not an option i'm afraid!!!....

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    It's not alcoholism, it's keeping the breweries in business that's all, hard times and all that

    And you can come live round my way, Could do with some more friendly neighbours lol

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    Re: Civil Partnerships, Gay/lesbien couples views of them?

    Quote Originally Posted by mrselvis
    It's not alcoholism, it's keeping the breweries in business that's all, hard times and all that

    And you can come live round my way, Could do with some more friendly neighbours lol
    lol by the sounds of things around here theres keeping places in business and theres creating million aires outta the local corner shops.

    I think but as we all know with the army this wouldnt be a defo but i think it would more then likly be in the colchester area.

    Anyone know how things are down that way?

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    Re: Civil Partnerships, Gay/lesbien couples views of them?

    we have a same-sex couple living very close to us, my OH works with one of them. We all get on fine, no probs at all. The one who is military didn't tell the sqn at first about their same-sex relationship but word soon got out and everyone is fine with it.

    There is a minority who are ignorant about it but that's their problem.

    As has already been said, if you are both strong enough to withstand the tiny minded comments from the odd pillock, then you'll be fine.

    Oh and welcome to RP, hope you find the site useful xx
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    Re: Civil Partnerships, Gay/lesbien couples views of them?

    Thanks choc-chip-cookie for the welcome and the info not may pilocks about these days but there are the fair few use to it all now it wasnt them i was worried bout just checking that in the view of the the army community it wasnt offensive or an ethics vialation or summin Lol thanks for all ya support though.

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