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Discuss Life in married quarters???!!! in Patch and Pads on Rear Party; have just been lookin at this sight as my partner is in the territorial army but wants to go back in the regulars. Im not sure as i dont know wat life would be like??? ...
  
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    Junior Member Sam-n-Lucy's Avatar
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    Life in married quarters???!!!

    have just been lookin at this sight as my partner is in the territorial army but wants to go back in the regulars.

    Im not sure as i dont know wat life would be like??? Would be great if any army wives out there could let me know how they find it!!!

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    Re: Life in married quarters???!!!

    Hello and welcome - have a look round, loads of information around the place about life in quarters and being married to the army in general

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    Re: Life in married quarters???!!!

    Hello and welcome to RP,

    have a read around, check out this thread....

    life

    Life in the army has it's pros and cons and basically is what you make of it.

    Hope you find the site helpful

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    Re: Life in married quarters???!!!

    ohhhh dear. have to say after readin that I am COMPLETELY put off!!!

    are there actually any benefits??!!!

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    Re: Life in married quarters???!!!

    Yes the rent is cheap and you have a roof over your head!!

    There are lots of pre and mis conceptions of life as an army wife, it has its pros and cons, as with all walks of life its what you yourself make it.
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    Re: Life in married quarters???!!!

    I feel so awful because i don't want to stop my partner living his dream.. but i dont think i could cope with him going away so much! We have a three month old baby and I dont want him to miss out on her growing up

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    Re: Life in married quarters???!!!

    That's something you need to discuss with your partner then.
    There's not alot of point him signing up for a job that is going to make you all miserable.
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    Re: Life in married quarters???!!!

    Quote Originally Posted by Sam-n-Lucy

    are there actually any benefits??!!!
    Your man being happy in his work? Him doing something to be proud of? Cheap housing so you don't have to work if you don't want to? The amount of time spent away would depend on what job he went for. Like CCC says it's whatever you make of it. You don't have to live in quarters if you don't want to.

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    Re: Life in married quarters???!!!

    We have spoken about it, a lot, and he seems to think he wouldnt be away that much. But from what iv read on here people have been away for aaaaages!!! I do want him to be happy in his job, hes in bomb disposal atm so dunno if he would go away a lot with that???

    If you have kids...what is it like with your man not always being around???

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    Well then you have to play the part of being both parents and learn to stand on your own two feet that you have been given. Yes I suppose 6 months does seem like ages and the goodbyes never get easier but the welcome homes are fab and its like being newlyweds all over again

    Army life isn't for everyone, but you adapt to it as best you can, I am safe in the knowledge that Mr.Soots is happy in his work (most of the time), that my children are happy and well cared for and that we are all very proud of him and all in the military for the job they do.
    Soots

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    I agree with girls that Army life is what you make it, but I also understand how difficult this decision is especially with a new baby to consider. I dont agree that you should go along with this to make your OH happy because untimely this will lead to resentment from you. However the army does have loads of benefits such a sense of community that you never get out on civvy street. My OH left the army in Feb and is now in the TA, we thought that the other side would be better for us as a family but have found the cost of living to much. In the army you know that you will always provided for and will have a decent wage. Also you have to consider that with your OH in the TA it is quite possible that he could go away anyway.
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    Re: Life in married quarters???!!!

    No one even knew my husband had gone away, so if you do it right, 6 months away doesn't have to have a negative effect on your children.

    Its not easy being mum and dad, but at least its only for 6 months. When he is back safe and sound, you really appreciate everything you have.
    Its not easy, and like sootycat says-its not for everyone. But like my husband is a proud soldier, I am a proud Army wife.

    It is what you make it. Some hate it and go back to the apron strings, and some thrive in this life.

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