Don't be sorry for having a view or an opinion. However there's no bullying going on just folk giving their opinions. Some are harsh but that's their opinion. I've found that the harshest views are usually correct!! We say what what we think on here - that's the beauty of it.



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I think there's been a misunderstanding: WT it was a typo...you did in fact say 'bitch' but missed out the 'to' so it reads differently to the way I think you intended.

*ducks head back below the parapet*

Originally Posted by lawlady

I also take exception to your remarks WT. True I haven't got an OH at Sandhurst. True I'm old and bold. However, I didn't realise that "this forum" was exclusive to the few who have. My husband served 27 years only just leaving in March so please do excuse me if I feel that I can explore different forums on RP with some degree of knowledge in what it's like to be the OH of a member of HMF.

And as I have never been to a coffee morning please do tell what goes on.

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My friends and I have a coffee morning after the school run every Wednesday morning and to be perfectly honest for about an hour and a half all we do is shamelessly bitch! We then leave and resume our normal non controversial lives for another week...that 1.5 hours per week makes us all able to be better people!

As I said I've never been to one so I wouldn't know!!
Then again I've been in RP for a few years and what you've described sounds like being on here at times - so may be folk shouldn't take offence?


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Heyyy...

Woaaa... I haven't logged in for a day and have missed two whole pages of posts! I've just about managed to digest all of them so thought I'd add my spin

My OH is also at Sandhurst and so far I've managed to send him a parcel of sweets and a letter each week. He has struggled lots and isn't enjoying it at all (pretty natural) so reads the letter on Sundays and looks forward to it. As long as that is the case then I'll continue to send him goodies whenever I can.

Re the contact: I too sent him texts when on Long Reach knowing that he wouldn't be able to read them. They weren't mithering him, whinging or being needy.. and were simply messages like 'You should be almost half way there by now, thinking of you, xx', ones like that. I actually haven't spoken to him today as I had to work late so he just text saying that he had read all the messages and that they had cheered him up massively as he has spent a few hours in the med centre with a twisted knee and bruised feet. Essentially I know him and know what will make him better when he is down, which is why I'm really supportive. I've never been one to demand a response and don't expect them, if anything texting him makes me feel better and closer to him.

However.... my Dad is in the RAF and has been for 38 years (joined at 17, leaving at 55 this August) and has been married to my Mum for 31 of those years. She has spent months alone over the years when he has been on tour - Falklands, Afgan etc.. and often with three young children. They didn't email, text and relied on their one hour a week phone call using the phone card to catch up. However when they were courting they didn't have mobile phones, facebook etc.. and so just chatted whenever they could. If my Mum text my Dad now with a 'Miss you' then he would think it was my little brother for a joke...! I'm not suggesting that anyone is as 'old' as my parents but I'm just saying that couples have their own routine and ways of coping.

I'm used to texting my OH every night, we always send a message before bed and so he doesn't view it as needy, just the norm and it is what works for us. If he went away for months at a time then I wouldn't be on the phone to Welfare - I'd just deal with it and continue with my job, friends, gym etc..

Everyone clearly has very different relationships with their OHs. I love RP because everyone deals with it in their own way, but it is almost a mini family (sorry if that sounds cringe!) who support each other and actually care...!

So let's continue that and on that note I'm off to text my OH goodnight xxxx

Peaches 12...my OH ended up in the medic centre yesterday...but apparently got told he had to go back today to see a doctor as there were so many people in. Sounds like Long Reach has caused a good few casualties! Hope your OH is ok.

But they were ordering in Dominoes last night so he seemed pretty happy.

Thankfully its nearly the weekend! Bring on 4pm today!

Xx

Hi Everyone!

Although this is my first post, I have been following this thread since my OH started at Sandhurst in May. I'd just like to say that although I seem to be coping alot better than expected, this threat has really helped me so thank you for continuing to share your feelings and news!! It really helps to know that there are others out there going through the same thing!! I hope you all have a great weekend! Not long until OCS!! xxx

Welcome Chops :-) I'm in a celebratory mood today as I've finished my exams so bubbly all round. And welldone to all your boys for surviving Long Reach - it's a tough one.

Hey chops, glad you've decided to say hello. This thread...and whole forum tbh is amazing at helping making things easier and getting advice.

Congrats Vita! Bet you're over the moon

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Hi Chops, welcome

Hope you ladies are all having a good weekend! Doesn't seem like long at all till they will be back, I can't wait. My OH was really pleased they get a bit more time in the evenings now, although he was too tired to enjoy it properly. It's nice to know that they're getting some down time now, they really do deserve it.

Is Old College Sunday soon? How quickly has that come around!x

Thanks for the heads up WT, I had heard something similar from a friend who said we are not supposed to touch them while in uniform!!! Lol I don't have any intention of being all over my OH, he probably wouldn't tolerate that at the best of times but I'll be sad if I can't have a little cuddle!! xxx

Ladies, don't worry too much about the no contact rule, it's a little more relaxed for Old College Sunday. I wouldn't be all over them, but if you squeeze his hand while you're standing around in a group no-one's going to mind. They have other rules like having to 'walk with purpose' which are relaxed too if they're showing families around. The OCdts will know where they stand as they'll be briefed beforehand. And it's not your responsibility to worry about this- it's theirs. They'll soon let you know what each of their CSgts expect of them. The reason they were tight on this today WillowTree is because there were random members of the public around, whereas on OCS it's only loved ones and family - and the day is FOR the families after all!
So don't panic that your men will appear as affectionless zombies. They might be a bit tense as they're on show, but the main thing is to see what they've been up to and reassure them that they have your support in what they're doing and learning.

(Oh, and strictly speaking, ladies should be chaperoned onto the lines, but in reality this just means don't shut their doors and get up to anything naughty!)

Anyway, besides OCS, how are you all doing? Hopefully you're starting to get into a routine regarding contact, and beginning to understand some of the lingo?

Vita - thanks for the advice!! I know I shouldnt get too hung up on the whole thing but I'm going to wear a dress and it sits slightly above the knee, it's certainly not short but it isn't knee length, is this ok for OCS? xxx

As long as you'd be happy wearing it to chapel then it's fine. I wore a dress just above the knee but it was quite loose and I wore flats so it didn't look tarty. It's a judgement call! If in doubt, you're not likely to feel 'too smart.' Some of the mothers will get really quite dressed up, so don't worry about that.

I should check these threads more often. I'm not old and met my hubby whilst we were both serving. I'd get the shock of my life If he actually texted me.
He did sand hurst as a late entry officer, I didn't hear from him once in the 4 weeks. Is that normal? Is for us. 7 months in Afghanistan- I missed numerous calls because I wasn't going to tie myself to the phone when I had 2 young children to entertain. I sent an e-bluey everyday but only to send a pic of our new born baby.

It's all personal nowadays and a lot of younger couples are glued to their mobile phones and panic if they don't get a reply to their text straight away.

And yes I'm a bitch. I've been to a few coffee mornings and they bored me to death- all babies and bitching.

You ladies will all have a fab time at OCS! Jealous...but at least its not too long until the leave weekend.

They seem to have had a pretty relaxed weekend tbh, my OH was even able to just sit and watch a film saturday night. lol.

Everyone had a good weekend? Back to work now...so no surprises back to sitting on here and hoping interesting things happen to distract me from working. haha.

Xx

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