Thread: Advice needed as a girlfriend...

Hi all, this is the first time I have posted on here, so please bear with me!

I have been with my boyfriend for nearly eight years, and he is a commissioned officer. He is moving to a new barracks in a few months, and I am wondering if anyone knows the rules regarding living with a girlfriend? All information I have been able to find has been for wives, or mothers of children. We are not engaged (although we have spoken seriously about getting married), and we do not have any children. Before we make these commitments we want to live together; we have never had the chance before. However, is this something that we would be able to do? Does anyone have any experience of this?

Any information/advice would be appreciated!

As far as I know, unless you are married, the army has zero responsibility to you. So you would have to find civilian accomodation in his new location. I have no idea what the rules are as far as where he's allowed to live (with your or if he has to be on camp for inspections and so on).

I'm sorry I could give more insight to your situation, but good luck! And have him talk to his welfare officer, they should be able to explain the rules.

Hi and welcome to RP

You can't live in SFA with him unless you are married but there shouldn't be a problem with you renting privately and living off the base x

yes, you can both rent a private place together, not sure how it works with army with gaining permission (don't think you need to?). But the RN, you had to inform you DO of your movements, basically get a yay/nay (MODs way of keeping tabs?), I'm sure it will be perfectly fine, many service personnel live with their partners married/not married in privately rented accomodations.

You won't be entitled to MQ's, you will have to rent privately.

Thanks everyone I will get him to speak to the welfare officer and then we can try take it from there! xx

He just has to put it on Jpa that he's living out then you rent somewhere privately nearby. I'm pretty sure being an officer he doesn't need permission but I could be wrong.

hi and welcome!
As far as I know you can live out with him no problem - just not entitled to MQ till you've got a ring on!

Originally Posted by Mrs_M

He just has to put it on Jpa that he's living out then you rent somewhere privately nearby. I'm pretty sure being an officer he doesn't need permission but I could be wrong.

JPA, that's it...............my memory sucks

If I remember rightly they only need permission if its within the first year or something?! Not sure.

The plan is for Mr D to live out with his next posting, we have our own private place but not much else changes really. Other than he will have a commute rather than a roll out of bed and into work.

Lots of the unmarried young Officers we know live with their girlfriends off base. It's the norm rather than the exception. It should be on JPA and it would be polite to mention it to his Boss.

I would skip going to see the Welfare Officer. It's the CO's call (depending on how senior/junior your bloke is) not the WO's.

Depending on his rank and job, he'd be wise to run his plans past the Adjutant or CO. In this day and age, I'd be very surprised if this was anything more than a formality.

Unfortunately it will all be at your own expense though ......