Thread: A little advice needed

I know the majority of this site is married to the mob so to speak, was just wondering if you could help me.

I've had enough of single life and I'd love to find someone to spend my downtime with, now finding this person is proving difficult, possibly due to where I am, my lack of self confidence or whatever reason but I find myself looking through websites.

Now the question is matchaffinity.com really worth spending £12.90 per month for 12 months - a one off payments of £154.80 ?? Or would it be more worthwhile just going out and getting drunk in town every weekend and spend the money that way?

I joined uniform dating and met my husband (after meeting 1 particularly scary policeman!!)
I would say its worth it if thats what you want to do. Go for it! But go for the £12.90 a month, you never know you might meet the man of your dreams in weeks

I would say, yes, join a website and PAYG as Mrs M says. In addition to doing that, get yourself out there a bit, as when you do meet someone on the internet you can honestly say, I am out tonight with friends/on a first date/going to the gym which sounds sociable and outgoing. Rather than saying "another night in front of crap TV", it just means you will tick more boxes with people.

I also think though that when I was single before meeting Mr TLC I used to pamper myself a bit with my hair, nails, treatments etc,. as when I looked good it really helped my self esteem, this made me a happier person. So, if you don't already join a gym. My little local gym as a roaring social side for singlies (although I do not think I would have had the nerve to join when I was single).

TLC x

I'm bringing you a WHOLE regiment soon

The shortest payment you can make is 3 months and thats £29.90 per month, they are all taken in one off payments, so kinda expensive really. Have been on uniform dating before - although never got the free option that apparently serving forces are supposed to - and only ever found scary blokes or ones wanting to cheat on their wives.

No point paying for a gym when there's a free one on camp TLC, although I do live 6 miles from camp... x

go onto forcespenpals, you get that for free, as you're serving. You have to shift through some of the jerks but there are a few decent people on there. POF is ok, again, shift through the deadweight. As for paying, what about match.com?

I'd say go for it. My OH's mum joined up to a dating site that you pay for and met her now husband.

I think it seems so much harder these days to meet someone, the whole dating scene changed in the time I was with my Ex so I wasn't hopeful that I'd ever meet anyone anytime soon- or particularly bothered.

I do think the paid sites have a more serious database rather than the free ones- just my opinion though.

Good Luck xx

Match.com is pretty much the same price as matchaffinity, think they're the same company, not sure if your money covers both sites though but they do link easily to each other. It just seems like a lot of money to get messages from guys old enough to be my dad.

Can honestly say I have never heard anything bad about the Sarah Beeny website.......

TLC x

I've always been a bit wary of these sites but know people that have some success stories to tell. Personally, I'd say try and get out and about a bit, you can meet people in the most random ways and places and it generally helps if you're not completely plastered! Lol! But whatever way you choose just have fun and play safe

why not join somewhere like this Adventure, Social and Leisure group for adults - Spice Thames Valley and Solent they have sister organisations UK wide. Basically, it's a social organisation, from knitting circles to extreme sports, where like minded folk meet up. I've been to a few events, wine tasting etc and made some fab friends from it.

i hate to say it, always dismiss it, but i met Mr P 3.5 yrs off forces penpals, ha ha ha trust me, i met the freaks, but there are some lovely people! still have my other my penpals on it!!! like any website, u have to check them out, but, you will know!!! i wasn't looking for my soul mate, but did! sssshhhhh dn't tell anyone though!!!- we still tell his family we met in a bar in London!!!

to be honest, if you go sharking in bars, you will meet freaks, sometimes you are lucky, sometimes you aren't!!! - doesn't matter where you look, you can be lucky or not!!

I work in the city! full of men, but tw@ts, just go with your eyes open, and obviously no naked pics, but you get them, so you can have a giggle, tease them, and put them on the 'pig board' ha ha ha

i always fancied being a farmers wife- so get to the young farmers or down the gym! doesn't matter where you meet them, but some are keepers, some aren't!

xxxxxxx

Originally Posted by Miss Pushkin

i always fancied being a farmers wife- so get to the young farmers or down the gym! doesn't matter where you meet them, but some are keepers, some aren't!

xxxxxxx

I'm chairwoman of my local young farmers club so this raised a smile, no-one knows how to party like a young farmer but then again, I thought I was destined to be married off to the neighbour's eldest boy and I ended up with a RM, don't know how that happened!

I met the Marine on Forcespenpals as well 18 months ago..and that was on his first day (I had been lurking a bit longer) - as with everywhere you find idiots and freaks... it will always come down to judgement - at least from the safety of your home you should relatively be free of 'beer goggles! x

I found Mr K on the interweb (match.com). He was the second date I went on. I also met a guy who has turned out to be a really good friend and is now seeing one of my friends. Go for it!

I tried online dating, met some nice guys, met some people who were diametrically opposed to their description, in fairness, I think they'd written what they'd like to be, not what they were.... but it was good fun, got me out there and made me realise I wasn't ready for what most people wanted - a long term relationship so I stopped using it.

But it kick started me realising what I wanted and got me out and about more.

Fast forward some time... a "friend" got me playing an on-line game, with a voice server where we'd chat with others, eventually there was this really nice voice that would log on and talk, at the end, we were chatting for hours at a time about anything/everything and seemed to have loads in common, but when he asked if we wanted to meet - I turned him down.

"there's freaks on them their interwebs, especially gamers... I should know I am one" said the cocky confident me!

I was then helping him with his on-line dating profile, and found myself getting protective over what he put down... he asked again and the rest is history, over 2 years later, I can't imagine not having him in my life - and there's still limited people that know how we met!

So I guess in short, I was trying to say, the right people are found anywhere, the internet is nothing more than a modern day meeting place and as long as you are prepared to filter out the freaks, be truthful (Like me realising that I didn't want a long term thing when I first used the dating sites) about what you want - they can be gold mines.

Just remember, stay safe, have fun - enjoy!

oooh which game????

I met my hubby from POF. Funny thing is I only joined because I was working with a woman who had had an awful time on there, so we were going to compare experiences and write a book.

I've met 2 best mates off forces penpals, most of the people I've worked with have been on POF at one time of another. I know there are good ones and bad ones that can be met pretty much anywhere.

The last guy I dated was through work and he turned out to be even more screwed up than me (impressive I can tell you), the one before was an instructor from training. Before that I generally met guys through friends, currently my friends pretty much are guys so its not really condusive to finding someone - also when you go out with a group of guys other guys aren't really about to approach - so I've found anyway.

Living in the middle of nowhere, with a dog and low funds doesn't really allow for going off to do trips away.

Originally Posted by tattooedlady

I've met 2 best mates off forces penpals, most of the people I've worked with have been on POF at one time of another. I know there are good ones and bad ones that can be met pretty much anywhere.

The last guy I dated was through work and he turned out to be even more screwed up than me (impressive I can tell you), the one before was an instructor from training. Before that I generally met guys through friends, currently my friends pretty much are guys so its not really condusive to finding someone - also when you go out with a group of guys other guys aren't really about to approach - so I've found anyway.

Living in the middle of nowhere, with a dog and low funds doesn't really allow for going off to do trips away.

You should name change to Bridget Jones!

Seriously most of my friends were, and are blokes. My hubby wasn't threatened