Thread: Boyfriend in Jan 11 Sandhurst intake

Hi everyone,

I've just joined RP - my boyfriend went to Sandhurst today and I'm feeling a bit lonely it's going to to take some getting used to! Anyone else's OH in this intake?

Rhi

Hiya im in the exact same boat! Just got home and our house feels so empty missing him lots already. Think once these first 5 weeks are over then it will get easier. First week will be the hardest getting used to it. Counting down the days all ready! Xxx

Hey!

My boyfriend also began Sandhurst today! I've been trying to keep myself as busy as poss and thankfully the day has passed quite quickly.... here's hoping the next 5 weeks do as well

It's strange knowing that I can't just pick up the phone and call him. We've known since March '11 howevevr that he was going to Sandhurst so there's relief in a certain way that it's finally started and we can just get on with it now.

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Heya,

My guy went to Sandhurst in Jan 2010...sounds like a long time ago but it feels like yesterday.

They will get tired beyond anything, they will get stuck in their Sandhurst bubble occasionally and dates will change.

My advice...keep persevering, keep positive...there will be many a time that you'll feel sad and sometimes it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel but it'll get better. Keep doing your own thing-distractions are good

The OH has just gone back to work after a few weeks' leave, so we're in the lonely boat together x

Mine's just gone back for senior term... just 96 days to go now! Been spoilt rotten having him home over Xmas, so now I feel completely empty with him gone again.

To all the RMAS newbies on here, hello and welcome. The first five weeks are hell, the rest of Juniors is also truly shite, but it all gets better after that. I fully expect to see you all on here often, though. Good luck and hang in there... it's tough, but they're worth it.

Just wanted to say hi and share some advice. My oh has just gone back and in now in the second term. Write as often as possible as some nights you won't able to talk on the phone, plus it will boost his morale. Plan for that first weekend off, even if its just for a nice meal, as when he gets back he'll eat you out of house and home! Talk to your friends about how you feel, they might not understand put they will support you and most importantly talk to your oh, after all if you are together for the long haul some of the decisons made whilst at sandhurst will effect you as well . Oh and enjoy going out with the girls and letting your hair down, its not all work at sandhurst you will have drunkank phone calls X

Mine just went back for inters. Like everyone has said, it'll get easier. I cant believe I was in the same position 4 months ago! Keeping busy, writing letters and planning for the weekend off helps although I did still get upset a lot but phone contact was not at all as bad as I expected even though most of the times it's just quick call at least you get to hear their voice and know they're ok. Look forward to old college Sunday if you go down, it's a good day out. After the first weekend, it's not too bad as it works out you get to see them every 2-3 weeks if you go down for that sunday too x

Hey!

Thanks all for the encouraging posts. Great to see so much support on here for everyone

I hope all us newbies are getting on ok?

Is the Sunday old college day the family visiting in week 7? My OH mentioned it yesterday although there wasn't exact details. Do you only see them on the Sunday? I need to book flights so I'm hoping to get more info soon which will allow me to do this (whilst there's still some sales!).

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Hey!

Yep old college sunday is the 26th of February. From what the letter says it starts at 9am-9:30am and finishes around 3pm-5pm but it says you are allowed to stay for as long as your commitments allow.

Glad you spoke to your OH

Mine rang too and was so nice to hear hes doing okay.

Take care
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When I went to old college sunday, oh was allowed out on the saturday night from 6 but had to be back for 12 and was allowed to leave at 2 on sunday and again had to be back by 12. Don't know if its the same for each intake but I woould say go if you can as tickets are limited. Its good to meet his new friends and see where he is now living. I did my oh a big picture board for his room so that its more personal.

Thanks ladies! I'm looking forward to visiting as it will be great to see a bit of what my OH's life is like there.

A personal photo board is a lovely idea, I bet your OH really appreciated it. I made mine a digital photobook of us as part of his leaving gift. It would be good to create something similar though, like you say, to make his room more personal post the first 5 weeks.

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Thanks for replying everyone, it's good to hear from other people that are going through it at the same time! How's everyone finding it so far? It's not as bad as I thought it was going to be so far...I've heard from my OH every day so far so it's been ok

Hope you're all ok! xx

Hello all, hope everyone's finding it ok, we're into the 3rd week already, I can hardly believe it! Is everyone going for old college Sunday? Have booked a room for the Saturday night (god bless the cheap and cheerful Travelodge!) as I wasn't sure if they'd be allowed out to see us? Feeling very excited and nervous about seeing it, just really hope it doesn't bloody rain!

Hi everyone!
Hope you're all doing OK. I've just joined up and wanted to say....2 WEEKS TODAY!! Can you believe how quickly the time has gone already?