Thread: I just need help!

I have to agree with Miss Pussy Pushkin, wait out, stay where you are until your boyfriend is sorted out. if he is joining the Navy bum bandits, then he is going to be quite busy training to get a big black dildo rammed up his arse whilst he looks for a golden rivit. So he won't have that much time for you, and you will get in a huff as you wenches do. So let the twat settle down, get his shite sorted out and then move over.

Thank you, it good to know there are so many more people who have experienced it. Would be a god send if he were posted in Scotland since that's where we live together just now. Thanks everyone for their support, made me realise I need to sort myself out too, not just follow where lead. If we're meant to be we can work it out over the miles.
We should all know, love conqueres all!!!

If you don't succeed with this navy wallah, I am ready to give you a shoulder to cry on and stuff like that

Originally Posted by cabana

If you don't succeed with this navy wallah, I am ready to give you a shoulder to cry on and stuff like that

Now there's an offer you can't refuse LozzyGee!

Hi hun me and my OH have been together 13 years married 8 we met while both doing our army basic training and I was 17 at the time we were doing things a week behind each other. Then we both had back to back tours straight after training so not an easy run and we were not really together for 2 years but we made it work age is not a factor if you love each other anything is possible and you'll work it out you probably wont have a lot of time together if you move down due to his training I would stay put for now. Good luck tho x

Hi there Lozzy, welcome to RP.

My OH is RN and we've been lucky that he's spent the majority of his time in one general area. That's not really going to be the case in the future.

You have to learn to live with being on your own a lot as a Navy wife, particularly if your OH spends time on a ship. That ship can be away anything from a few days to sevens months and everything in between. If you haven't got a job or family and a good ffriends network around you, that can be a very lonely experience.

Dartmouth is only temporary - the major bases are around the Portsmouth, Plymouth and Glasgow areas, as well as potential postings to London later in career. Be prepared to move, or if you do choose to have a place together, be prepared for him to do the weekly commute and lose weekends because he's doing duties, etc.

Let him finish his officer training first and see where his trade training takes him, then make a decision.

Meantime, get yourself qualified and try to think of a career for yourself.

Very best of luck!

You may very well find that he gets sent back to Scotland - my OH is about to pass out from HMS Sultan and due to his choice of branch will be going up to HMNB Clyde and shall pretty much be staying there. Depending on what your OH has chosen, it might be fairly easy to work out where he will be based x

I can only agree with everyone else, although there is a part of me that agrees with Cabana's advice a teeny tiny bit more!! *~snigger~*

TLCx

Hi and welcome! I have no experience with RN as my OH is at Sandhurst, but I think WhiteRose picked up on an excellent point: get yourself some qualifications! Not only will it keep you occupied while he's busy training, but it will help you get a job that possibly pays a bit better - which will help when you want to live together.

I'll apologise for however this reply turns out, i'm on my phone at kings cross returning from a lovely week and a half with the OH! So sorry about the formatting! Good luck and stick around, it really does help to have people to talk to who are going through the same thing :-) x

Thank you very much. I've got my self highers (aka a levels) and don't especially want to go to university, just because I don't like a class enviroment, I'm thinking about doing open uni though and so true, in just the past two days I've felt better than I hve in ages. It's good meeting people that have been through this.

I did my first degree with the OU and my post grad as distance learning. A brilliant way to learn but flipping hard work! I did a short course with the OU when my OH was last deployed and it passed the time very well

Hi Lozzy Gee,
I can see that everyone's already been very helpful, but just to thumbs up the advice given. My OH joins the RN in May, but I'm planning on starting my masters in September (if any of them have me that is!) so he has to follow me wherever I settle, hehe! IMO, you'll be the one spending the majority of the time in whichever home you choose to share in the future, so make sure you settle where you want to be. I doubt it'll make a difference to him (apart from commute distance obviously!) xxx