Thread: Sandhurst entry sept 2011

Hi, new to this so not sure what to write. Dropped my bf off at Sandhurst on sunday, was as hard as I thought it'd be, I knew it's been coming for a year but it's all gone so fast and now the day came and they said you only have 10 mins to say goodbye I was really panicking. How long does it take to get better? I've cried every day I wake up so far, clearly not very good at controlling my emotions! Has anyone else's OH on here joined this term? Glad they're allowed to keep contact and have their phones, had one call on the day he left but since then i've been back to work and have to work shifts so just get voicemails and texts but still very glad they let them do that atleast!

There are lots of threads about Sandhurst on here so have a dig about. I did it last year and lots of others around as well. You're lucky with the contact, it very much depends on the platoon they're in as I barely got any contact for first 5 weeks.

You will soon get used to it! Oh and welcome!

Hi an welcome!
You will get used to it - eventually - but it will be the silly things that set you off (or is that just me!) xx

Hi oxymore, and welcome to RP. You've come to the right place - you'll always find someone on here who's been there and done that. My OH is May intake, so I dropped him on Sunday too, to start Inters.

I won't lie - the first five weeks are bad. And the weeks thereafter can be pretty bad too. Sometimes you have to make do with nothing but a two-minute call to last you all week (if they're on exercise, for instance), and you can expect him to be more tired than you knew a person could get, so when he does get time off chances are he'll want to do nothing but sleep. Thus far, this year has been very difficult for us both, but that will obviously differ from person to person. However, I just keep telling myself that as much as he signed up for Sandhurst, I signed up as his rear party. And it will end. Some day.

In the meantime, I try and stay as busy as possible, and fill my life with meaningful things so I don't bore him to tears when he actually does get time for conversation once in a while! And I really do try to keep my emotions under lock and key when we speak - I know he has no capacity to deal with external emotion as well. It's like being single, really, with a few epic one-night stands thrown in Except for the part where you miss him more than anything, that is... but, eyes on the prize, people - every day is a day closer to the end.

And can I have a double chocolate milk with whipped cream and chocolate sprinkles now, please?

Hello,

I too dropped the OH off on Sunday. I didn't cry and can honestly surprisingly say I haven't, even though I thought I'd be a wreck. In honestly like you I’ve know for a year that the day would come where we'd walk up those steps and chaos would descend. So with that in mind I've got lots planned. I also think it helped that we don't live together and normally see each other on weekends, however planning a wedding now will be a nightmare!

What regiment has your OH have sights on?
I'm also planning something really nice for week 5 leave weekend. That would keep you busy also

Are you going to old collage Sunday?

I have to add I have previous experience of Sandhurst even if it was for 3 weeks a good 4 years ago, OH dropped out, and has now gone back for more!!!

Thank you for replying. It's just nice to know other people that have either been through it or are going through it now. I don't know anyone at all from military backgrounds and neither did my OH when he joined so it's hard to understand and accept all that goes on. Luckily we never lived with each other but have been going for 4 years and we normally just text rather than call so in a way it's easier to think that he's not any further than he is.

My OH is thinking of joining the military police I think. Originally it was the police he was going for but they've not been recruiting for the last few years in the country which just really sucked but anyway I have no knowledge at all of military police so if anyone knows anything about it such as where their base is then let me know! would be good to know what to expect and how long they'll be training for after before they go away and is it 3 months they are deployed for? I really don't have a clue of what happens after!

ruggedfamo - I will be going to old college sunday so will see you there! looking forward to it!

A lot of my friends have moved away now as well, feel like everyone is leaving me at the moment! So I will probably be on here quite a bit. For once am actually glad that I have to go to work and things, it's the only thing keeping me busy right now!

I too dropped OH off last sunday! one week down, four to go. Didn't have time to cry as it seemed like he was marched off as soon as we got out the chapel.
Trying to keep it together as we have two kids, but its tough! youngest one is 4months so I take myself off to bed early as she is still waking up at night, phone gets placed next to my head on the pillow with ring on loud so I don't miss his call. would be gutted if I slept through it!

Originally Posted by f.m.peak

... phone gets placed next to my head on the pillow with ring on loud so I don't miss his call...!

I have mine on vibrate as well in my hand - just in case I don't hear it!!

3 part series about sandhurst starts on bbc4 tonight... see what your loved ones are going through

I don't know about you but phones calls every night at 11pm is way past my bed time, starting to get tired but like you all the phone is on loud next to the bed.
I watch the Sandhurst programme last night- I must admit I did find it funny.
Think the oh is setting a bit home sick no
How often are you hearing from your oh?.

more than certain OH is getting homesick def. missing his girls and is fed up with ironong already! called everynight so far, even if its just for 2mins
watched Sandhurst prog. last night too. Been such a long journey getting OH into sandhurst, didn't occur to me that passing out aug 2012 may not be a certainty

Mr B watched that last night. His words were 'aaaah, that brings back fond memories really'. It's bloody hard at the time but they get through it and find they enjoyed it in the end. Mostly.

I haven't heard from mine at all.... :\ i wasn't bothered when i thought they weren't allowed phones and now iv seen you guys ahve heard from people its made me worry! as hes not my actual boyfriend..we began seeing each other before he went in and although he was really keen to begin with, he left with us both agreeing to see how things went and to see each other when he gets his free weekend but that he would call me an send me a letter anyway..is it odd then that i havent heard from him? or should i assume hes in one of the platoons that dont let them have their phones much? as i wouldnt expect to be the first person he'd call if hes not getting it much...

Hi chicken, welcome to rp.

It is unusual for so many of the ladies to be getting so much contact imo, certainly from the brief periods I've seen the new intakes their main complaint is a lack of phone time (shortly followed by bitching about the lack of chocolate, fizzy drinks and junk food...)

i think i've been lucky and spoken to my bf not every but most nights but phone calls are usually post 11pm like you say or at midnight/1am. from what i've heard they get to keep their phones with them now instead of getting them handed back but it's hard to call when they have so much chores to do at night. i guess it depends how organised they are. some of the people on that program are quite funny! i feel like this is going to be a really long 4 years :-/ does anyone know if they get a break between when they pass out and when they start regimental training and will that be abroad? and how long roughly does that training after sandhurst last for or does that depend?

Almost every night? I am staggered to be honest.....

TLC
x

Watched it, quite enjoyed it, yes - apart from occasionally getting a little choked about the very heavy focus on the necessity of killing and being killed, I think it's quite a fair representation. And thankfully the girl in this episode were a bit less wet than the ones they focused on in the first episode!

Oxymore - same position, boyf marched off to Sandhurst two weeks (HOW is it only two weeks) ago. And yes, I love him, and yes, I do miss him whenever I think about him or whenever I'm doing something I know he'd enjoy or want to share, or even just when I find some lolz on the internet and know he'd be on the same wavelength, and I know he'd feel the same - but he's kept busy, and so I'm trying to do the same. You get sh*tty days, of course - this weekend, I attempted to find the solution to that in quite a lot of wine, unsurprisingly it DIDN'T work - but mostly I completely agree with draegora: I've just started a post grad course, it's a case of now keeping myself busy and filling my life as full as his is, so I don't bore him to death when I do speak to him.

Although I have been pretty lucky too, by the sounds of it - I speak to him every other night or more (MUCH better than I thought it would be!! Massive relief, and I think his parents feel somewhat the same!), as I keep rather late hours (evident from time of posting....) and we text every night, so it doesn't feel like he's too far away. It's going to be a VERY long year, but hey, two and a half weeks and they're out. And are going to be massively hench, hilariously lightweight when it comes to alcohol, and very pleased to see you...

Hang in there, oxymore, you've got company here! I feel very lucky to get so much phone time at the moment - it's not the same at all, of course, as having a real life person with you, but it's a lot better than I thought it would be, so that's something

- S x

Satis welcome to RP - firstly can you possibly remove the name of the OCdt from your post - the program makers have been very careful not to use full names in the show for a reason (and I know they have used some forenames but very few and almost never with the person in question on screen with their name badge visible).

Yup watching the program, have been keeping an eye out for an excuse to crate my OH (crate's of vodka are hard to come by, lol) and desperately hoping that the cameras have missed me on the occasions I wandered passed them while I've been bimbling around camp!

Apologies - figured it was a suitably unusual name.....it's done anyway

Scuba_angel, how often did you go to Sandhurst? I know we're allowed nowhere near at the moment, but are you allowed to stay at Sandhurst?!

Originally Posted by Satis

Apologies - figured it was a suitably unusual name.....it's done anyway

Scuba_angel, how often did you go to Sandhurst? I know we're allowed nowhere near at the moment, but are you allowed to stay at Sandhurst?!

I go there every day....

You can stay I believe on occasions after you've been invited to dinner nights etc, although I think it's more usual for OCdts to book in to local hotels but I think Mooms/draegora etc might have more useful info for you as mine wasn't there as a Cadet.