Well Mr S has been picked up and off to sandy place for couple of months.
Held it all together quite well, although did spend last 1/2 hour madly packing last minute things with him.
So evening of films, chocolate and small glass of wine planned.
Bed to myself, no battles about leaving lights on or washing. I miss him like mad, but do appreciate the time to myself.
Hope you all having good weekend
X
Aww Spanner big hugs to you. Enjoy starfishing tonight
"Never say never, because limits, like fears, are often just an illusion"
See? That's the reaction to a deployment I like to hear!
That's the reaction to a deployment I'm going to try (and fail) to emulate!Originally Posted by bodger
Although I have to admit, when Mr Joey goes back to his posting after a spell at home, I do like having the remote to myself... Not sure I'll be that positive when he's off to build sandcastles though - good job spanner! xx
Ooooooooooooooooooooo you lucky thing. No stinky socks on the floor, no turning up to the house to find every light on and every electrical appliance switched on during the day
. No listening to the sounds of Call of Duty or Top Gear (Although I do like Top Gear).
No-one knocking at the bathroom door whilst you're relaxing in a bubblebath, to have a pooh (oh yes I get this). No piles and piles of washing, eat what you want when you want, and watch what want when you want.
I am so very jealous.
Enjoy him coming back, but enjoy the time you have to yourself. X
I love that time to myself too - got a week of it coming up. Its hard work on my own with the kids but we get into a routine and it works well. Love being able to go to bed without the TV on, not fighting over the duvet, not being smothered by his pillows! and actually being able to watch a program without him talking constantly all the way through it
Well you got to look at the glass half full.
I can either enjoy the time, and time flies when you have fun! Advice from here has always been keep busy and do things when the OH is away and enjoy the house to yourself.
I confess it is me who is leaving lights on and is quite untidy!
I'm looking forward to not having to smell Mr S's farts, putting dishes straight into the dishwasher. Not finding them piled up. Cooking mushrooms and fish with out someone moaning about the smell.
I might not always be so upbeat and there will be times and days when I will be sad, and will miss him so much. It's ok it doesn't last and I have here!
Hooray for positive thoughts! We won't be needing to offer too many cups of 'man the fluff up' here.
Everyone facing a tour separation should read this thread.
can we make them with gun held to head???? mind you i doubt that works with them.......
I've enjoyed this period of quiet, although I am not that happy that the washing machine has started to leak when he is due to come home. Especially as I just had to get the car serviced and new tyres all round! Now I know what my first salary will be going on ... lol
Carpe Diem
"Wit is educated insolence."
Oh I wish I could have this positive thinking! Mr S has been building sandcastles for 5 weeks now and I miss him more every day. Give anything to have him home, wind and all! x
Is it wine time yet?
i'm just getting fed up with people moaning on here.FFs out of 14 years of being together i only saw my hubs about 7 years.
if you don't wanna be seperated , don't go out with a military person, bin them when they join , or make them sign off.....
i know i'm gonna get grieve for this , but i don't give a shite anymore
Padme, i'm not going to give you grief as such but all i will say is that what stands out most to me in your post were the words 14 years. After several years and several deployments I think you do sort of find a balance. But from what I can see a lot of the people on here moaning are new wives on their 1st tour. It's all well and good saying you know what to expect but the practical is a hell of a lot different to the theory.
The other thing is that you tend to vent on the bad days (which if you're honest even the hardest most tour toughened partner has). I think it's just feeling more pronounced on here because there's a lot of us with partners away so it feels as though the whinge is constant, but it's actually by different people on different days. And I always thought the point of RP was to be able to vent on those bad days?
But that's not to say that I don't think that Spanners attitude isn't the one to be aiming for. Just cut yourself a little slack because some days no matter how hard you try to fill that glass up the bugger just keeps emptying. Other days it just seems to top itself up. You take the rough with the smooth and find a way to muddle through until next tour it just feels a bit easier somehow. But then thats just my take on it
"Never say never, because limits, like fears, are often just an illusion"
what is this some sort of competition now? If so, I can beat it on percentages having been with my H2B for 2 years and never in that time having more than weekends or a fortnight's leave here and there with him.
Have a bit of compassion for the newbies (of course you may have thought I was one from my previos comment. No) This will be his 5th tour since I've known him (and second since we've been in a relationship). In some ways this will be the hardest as we'll have been married a month before and I'm not looking forward to it. Doesn't mean I'm going to ditch him though.
Be nicer to people who have done nothing wrong. It costs nothing.
Ahem! This was a nice uplifting thread a minute ago. What happened?!
quite right bodger so what else do we like about getting rid of the other halves?? I have to admit i am loving that I can buy a 6 pk of Fanta and still have 3 left the next day!!!
"Never say never, because limits, like fears, are often just an illusion"
So this morning I woke up and lay in bed wondering who was going to make me a cup of tea. Normally if I'm not working Sunday is my tea in bed day. I lay there for an hour, knowing it was going to have to be me, but doing it would confirm I'm on my own. I got up and made myself a proper pot of tea, something quite rare for me to do. If I can't have the tea in bed, I thought I've got to make it the best cup of tea I can!
Being like this is my way of dealing with it, it's just one way. I'm a big advocate of the self fulfilling prophecy, my mindset is the thing that will either bring success or stop me achieving something. It's my way, it works for me, I know it won't work for everyone, as discussed on here many a time we are not all the same.
I'm lucky Mr S does short, yet frequent deployments, being light blue. I guess that helps, and I use the 'could be worse' benchmark alot, again that works for me.
Today I'm gardening, and mowing the bloody lawn, I'll miss showing Mr S my hard work, ebluey it will be later, although i must not send it just yet. I've been told he can't have one waiting for him!
Oh and I am having prawns for dinner!
Not having to keep my legs and bikini line in perfect nick.
That's one thing I like about him being away.
Iv noticed i dont use half as much washing powder and with the extra fund its buys me a lovely bottle off my fave tipple
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