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Discuss The day has arrived :-( in Partners - Wives, Girlfriends, Boyfriends, Husbands on Rear Party; After all the months leading up to this deployment today's the day I have to drive hubby to camp for his vacation in the sandpit. Am struggling to hold it together and am dreading the ...
  
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    The day has arrived :-(

    After all the months leading up to this deployment today's the day I have to drive hubby to camp for his vacation in the sandpit. Am struggling to hold it together and am dreading the two hour drive back on my own. I would very much like to go to sleep and wake up in July. x
    Is it wine time yet?

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    See if you can find somewhere nice to stop for cup of tea/coffee and something to eat. Give you something else to focus on during the drive prehaps.
    Turn radio up loud and put on some music which is good for the soul.
    All the best and RP always open x

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    Aaaaaw.... hugs!

    xxx

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    Aww ... {{{lisas}}}
    if you want to cry - cry! I did enough of that in the first 24 (ahem make tha 96!) hours..
    Music in the car is good - sing as loud as you like (even if they are soppy tear inducing love songs!) x
    We are always here day and night. It helped me pouring my thoughts onto the page in the form of a blog...but you will find a way that works for you. xxx
    I can stop counting from today as we finally get to be together!!

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    My heart goes out to you Lisa. I hate the first 24 hours. OH always tells me that it's the start of the countdown to his coming home.
    We need to get tht kick arse music thread downloaded for times just like this!!
    I find a cry, fave food and a glass of wine helps xxx
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    Aww hunny, we started our tour pretty much the same as urs, we have just hit the halfway mark and i cant believe how quick its gone and im sure it will go just as quick for you, just keep yourself busy with friends/kids/hobbys ect and he will be home before you know it, keep ya chin up chick xx

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    The first night is always the worse. You've got the countdown clock started, and you've got all of us here to keep you sane
    "Nothing travels faster than the speed of light with the possible exception of bad news, which obeys its own special laws."

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    Quote Originally Posted by WhiteRose View Post
    ...and you've got all of us here to keep you sane
    Sane? What's that then....?!?!
    I can stop counting from today as we finally get to be together!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by RM_WAG_78 View Post
    Sane? What's that then....?!?!
    Dunno, but I find myself closer to it at the bottom of a bottle of red...

    lisas - sending you hugs. As others have said, the first 24 hrs is the worst, just be gentle on yourself and allow yourself a full on pity party. You'll feel better for it in a couple of days. xx

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    Wack the music up, have a good old sing song karaoke stylee and then eat chocolate. Works for me everytime!!!

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    Aw lisas, I know how hard the first 24 hours are as I waved my husband off on the train back in January and now we're nearly at the half way mark. I will be counting down to July too!

    During the first 48 hours, I found that just keeping myself busy round the house took my mind off things. You will find your own way to cope, as others have said RP is always here! x

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    Like everyone else I found the first 24hrs the worst.

    Once I got the first 'I've arrived and will spend the next couple of days faffing about before I go out on the ground' it was a case of getting my head down and getting on with it. The transition that is this part is terrible.

    We are here for wobbly days and all days inbetween

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    I always find the 1st few days and the last few days of any time away no matter how long are the hardest. My trick is to take on a project. Something that is fairly easy but will keep me busy and something i will feel positive about doing.
    But be kind to yourself. It's ok to feel shit and sometimes theres nothing more than to go with it and have a full on 'i feel sorry for myself' moment.
    "Never say never, because limits, like fears, are often just an illusion"

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    I spent the first evening with friends so I didn't feel too alone, but just do whatever you feel you need to... don't feel bad about bursting into tears, treating yourself to some junk food, curling up in bed with a hot water bottle, writing long soppy emails/letters to him

    The time will pass and you will have longer periods of feeling ok, but there will be help on here whenever you need it!
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    Well I've already finished a bottle of wine and I've only been only just over an hour! Crying pretty much constantly and don't want to go to bed alone but will have to eventually. Have mostly written a bluey which I will finish tomorrow when sober and will also send an ebluey then. I will be so glad when this first week is over. Thanks everyone for your support xx
    Is it wine time yet?

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    Is this the first time he's been away while you've been together lisas? x

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    Hi Joey, yes it is. He's RMR and hasn't done a tour for over 10 years and certainly not one like this. I first knew him over 25 years ago when he first joined up but we've only been together properly for the past 2 years x
    Is it wine time yet?

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    Awwww massive hugs coming your way!!!!! I was exactly the same a month ago and had the same 2 hour drive home. I must have looked a right mental case sobbing and rapping along with Eminem while driving down the motorway. This place has been a saving grace though! Everyone here is in the same boat and all these ladies are lovely! I'm going to use the cliche that it gets easier with time....cos it does. You'll have good days and bad days but you can't beat the skip in your heart when you see the number appearing when he phones. It's deffo made me appreciate my relationship and know I'm with the right man. It's also brought me massively closer to the in-laws (didn't think it could be possible!!)
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    Thanks girls. I couldn't go to work today, it would have been a nightmare. I spoke to him about 5am when he was enroute and I'm expecting him to be at his next stop off around lunchtime so hopefully we'll speak again then. One of my dogs came up to the bedroom this morning and she put her front legs on the bed as she usually does to kiss hubby good morning and just saw his shirt there that I'd slept with. She smelt it for a few seconds then turned to look at me with such a sad look on her face - broke my heart
    Is it wine time yet?

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    Aww - I did the same remember - whole day off sat by the phone wondering where in the air they are at that point. The days went by sooo slowly... but in 6 days you will be in 2 months and something!
    Do what feels right for you - I didn't want to see anyone I wanted to wallow at home and be near the phone in case he skyped. I lived on here pretty much 24/7!
    You are now on the countdown back each day you get through is a day closer to him coming back xxx
    I can stop counting from today as we finally get to be together!!

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