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    Hi Ladies, not sure if I am posting this in the right bit so please feel free to move it. I am married to Mr Princess, who is currently posted in Preston. We live apart about 220 miles away from each other and we get to see each other at weekends. Its hard but we have lived like that for nearly 3 years now. We have a house where I live in the North East that I lived in with my daughter before we got together. In August he is due to be posted to Cyprus. The timing couldnt be worse for us as by the time he is posted my daughter will be about to enter her final year at school, so I dont want to take her out of school and move her to another country, there are more complications as my daughter her epilepsy which they are struggling to control at the moment and every month involves hospital visits, her taking time off school whilst I take time off work to look after her. I struggle on a weekly basis really with not much support from her 'real' father.

    So my question is, are we able to ask for a compassionate posting to keep my other half in the UK? Apart from the two reasons mentioned above, we cant afford for me to give up my job to move to Cyprus. I understand that you get more pay for living in Cyprus but I am also led to beleive that the cost of living is higher out there? So I dont know when we would be able to save for flights to get to see each other.

    Any help would be greatly appreciated.

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    Just going from what I did as a 15 year old - I moved to Cyprus with my parents just going into my 2nd year of GCSE's. Where on the island is he posted? The schools there are very good, plus they are there 7-1pm so it means you've got more time for hospital appointments.
    If it was my child I would go. Medical care with the military is usually alot better I've found. Your daughter will get seen alot quicker, tests etc will come back quicker.
    you do get more for living there, and you'll probably be able to find a part time job somewhere on camp.

    As for your question, he could ask for a compassionate posting but its not guaranteed he'll get it. Does he want to stay here or go to Cyprus? Its alot to think about, but personally I'd be packing already!!

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    Make Welfare/CoC/Padre aware of all your circumstances. Compassionate postings do exist.
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    I can help you out with a couple of basics about Cyprus which might help a little. The cost of living in Cyprus can be expensive and LOA has gone down recently and will probably do so again. Jobs for dependents are very hard to come by because of budget cuts and flights to and fro can be a little on the high side depending on when you travel.

    But, on the plus side, the pace of life is slower, the weather is fantastic (apart from when it's stupidly hot and humid) and seeing the sun pretty much every single day does wonders for one's mood!

    Hope that helps a bit, Boots is right though, ask the question!
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    I should also point out that work for dependants is not as readily available as you might think. There are regulations that state the percentage of Cypriot employees to UK Dependents. This makes life very difficult to get a job, but I suspect this does vary from station to station.

    Married accompanied + 1 for you would mean a daily LOA Rate of 26.52. However this is going down on May 1st. My hubby is the same rank. We have 2 children and will be losing 30 per month on 1st May. Bear in mind though that LOA rates have gone down 3 times since we moved over in August.

    Health Care is good. I have been booked in for an operation within 2 months of asking for the procedure, and the only reason they are making me wait that long is because it is a big decision and they wanted me to think further about it.

    The schools where I am are ok. The senior school runs from something like 0730 until 1400 and there are plenty of activities in the afternoons that your daughter could take part in (although again that will depend on which station your husband is being posted to).

    If you are considering it you could PM me the details and I can ask the relevant medical dept's regarding your daughters epilepsy (I know some of the Nurses).

    If your worried about a mortgage on your property or such like then you could rent out your property. I understand if you do not wish to do so. I do mine, but as I have had another baby since leaving my home (I was in exactly the same circumstances as you) I cannot move back to it.

    The other alternative is that your husband requests a compassionate posting to remain in the UK. There will be several factors they will take into consideration though. As a matter of interest, is your husband a "lone ranger"? Or does he move with a Battalion?

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    Hi Princess, i was wondering how it went with the compassionate posting?
    We have just put in for a compassionate posting too, but from what we have been told it is unlikely we will get it. We have only been through CoC so far, but will take it further with Padre/welfare after easter leave.
    If you have any advice I would love to hear it, many thanks.

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    Hi All

    The compassionate posting wasnt allowed

    He went to Cyprus 3 weeks ago, and we have made the decision to stay here. I have to say that the decision was 'helped' by my daughters dad not wanting her to leave the country, which I understand but part of me thinks he was just being awkward, if it was the other way round I would be the same. Money also came into it, we were told that I would have had to pay for my move over there as I didnt live with him in his current posting, and then still the giving up a job etc.. etc... its not a decision we have taken lightly, there just doesnt seem to be a way round it.

    I'm rather fed up already to be honest. We have been skyping on a night, but only with the free wifi around the camp as its very expensive to get your own wifi he tells me, so he's going to wait till the rest of the lads go over to there and see who will share wifi with him?

    The other thing thats getting me down is we are going to be down by a lot of money each month, yes he gets the LOA but it doesnt sound to me like its all that much to live on? if you are having to eat out 3 x a day? We will also lose his get you home pay, as clearly he isnt coming home on a weekend - there doesnt seem to be any compensation for us living so far apart? As far as i understand LSA is only payable if he is deployed not posted? is that right?

    Strangely though LSA was payable (when posted to preston) when he was on a two week course in catterick 20 miles from where his actual home was and he came home every night?? I dont get it!

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    Why is he eating out? Are meals not supplied by the messes/cookhouse?

    Everyone regardless of posting has taken a hit in regard of pay, at least he still has a job!
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    boots its all pay as you dine in Cyprus now, but still doesn't class as "eating out" 3 times a day!

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    Yep PAYD here. Phone and internet is not as cheap as UK but I wouldn't say it is mega expensive. Trooper flights are about 120 return (ish). Like most places Cyprus is as expensive or as cheap as you make it.

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    Ah yes, when i said eating out i meant in the cookhouse, as opposed to when he was in Preston where he could make his own meals in the kitchens there and he could just get some shopping from Tescos. sorry should have made that more clear.

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    My son has just finished Year 10 and to be honest I would not dream of changing his school right now, have you had the changeover of Exam boards as well this year? What an absolute nightmare, we have assessments, retakes and all sorts going on from September and its straight in as well, no messing about and its going to be like that all year. And they have two weeks out for Work Experience. So, if your daughter is going into Year 11 then I think you have done the right thing. I am sure that the schools in Cyprus are fantastic but there is nothing to say that even if they manage to match your daughters option choices that the coursework and syllabus will knit together perfectly. Saying that, perhaps they would have bent over backwards to help your daughter, but it is such a huge gamble to take with your child's education. Teenagers can take a few months to settle and that again could have a knock on effect on her studies as well. So overall, I think with regard to her education you have done the right thing.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Princess_cupcake View Post
    Ah yes, when i said eating out i meant in the cookhouse, as opposed to when he was in Preston where he could make his own meals in the kitchens there and he could just get some shopping from Tescos. sorry should have made that more clear.
    TBH it's probably cheaper to eat in the cookhouse than go grocery shopping for one a la Cyprus!
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    TLC, I moved to Cyprus just before year 11 and it was actually ok. The only thing I found was because I had gone from a grammar school to a comprehensive I had already done most of the work they were doing, and found myself having to fight to be put in higher sets for my exams, but I don't regret moving there.
    Meals in the cookhouse should cost him about 8 a day for 3 meals which is bloody cheap when you think about it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mrs_M View Post
    TLC, I moved to Cyprus just before year 11 and it was actually ok. The only thing I found was because I had gone from a grammar school to a comprehensive I had already done most of the work they were doing, and found myself having to fight to be put in higher sets for my exams, but I don't regret moving there.
    Meals in the cookhouse should cost him about 8 a day for 3 meals which is bloody cheap when you think about it!
    I think a few years ago it was differently structured. The grades they got for homework/coursework counted towards their overall result, but now GSCEs syllabuses, course work, structure and exams have changed in the last three years. Its meant that those going into Year 10 last September are doing a completely different syllabus from those students who have just finished Year 11 this year. How we are supposed to compare the grades from one year to another is ridiculous.

    The new GCSEs are harder and have been designed to close the gap between GCSE and A level in a lot of subjects, they also keep the same teachers and its better to have consistency. My son's geography for example this year have studied subjects that four years was considered A Level Geography, you get the gist. Its been exactly the same for History, ICT and Latin. When I bought him the revision guides I ended up having to buy the A Level ones as the GCSEs reflected the old syllabus.

    So, no, gauging by the year 10 we have had, no I would not move a child between Year 10 and Year 11, but that is just my opinion based on my personal experience at our school. Everyone is different and they are entitled to their own views.

    Please don't think I am slating the school in Cyprus as I am not for one moment, I am sure it is brilliant and would do their utmost to support any child moving in between Year 10 and 11 at the current time.

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    Thats ok TLC I didn't think you were slating it. It wasn't the best school in the world, and I had my problems don't get me wrong. I was just telling about my experience moving schools at that difficult time.

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