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    Being an army girlfriend

    So if you decide to live together, whats it like to be posted to a different place every two years or so? I like the idea of being somewhere new all the time and experiencing different places, never getting bored of the same place. But what is it REALLY like? and how easy is it to find jobs for the OH?

    As you can tell, i really have no idea what to expect....

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    I'm pretty sure it can be summed up as hard.

    But that goes for wives as well difference being they have the (occasionally questionable) support of the military machine with regards to the moving itself.

    Jobs = depends what you want to do/are qualified for/willing to do.
    “It's not worth doing something unless someone, somewhere, would much rather you weren't doing it.”
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    Don't forget, girlfriends don't get to go into married quarters so you'd be moving every 2 years under your own steam...

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    We plan to do the commuter thing as its just not practical for me to move every two years. I have a very flexy job but even then it will be a lot of hassel- new place, new Dr, etc etc plus I don't want him to think he is too special- he might get a complex!!

    I agree I think "hard" is the best way to sum it up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dizzy.chick View Post
    We plan to do the commuter thing as its just not practical for me to move every two years. I have a very flexy job but even then it will be a lot of hassel- new place, new Dr, etc etc plus I don't want him to think he is too special- he might get a complex!!

    I agree I think "hard" is the best way to sum it up.
    You mean you let him think he has any importance whatsoever?!?

    As some of the ladies know I recently moved to be with my pet soldier. We're lucky in that he's part of a Battalion who will most likely stay in the same area for his entire career- and move as a Battalion anytime they do move at that!

    Moving independently was hard, new place, new people, new job - no support or chance of support from the military because I'm "just" a girlfriend so don't exist in their world view. I genuinely don't think I would want to or be willing to do the same if he was part of a Corps or Regt who move around seemingly at random. Even the costs involved in moving just me were frightening when I actually look back. And I moved with just a car load of possessions in to lodgings (pending a move in to a rented house of our own next year...), finding a job, was surprisingly easy but if I'm honest with myself I never wanted or planned to do what I am doing, and I don't know how long I will be happy to do it for - but as they say its easier to get a job when you have a job, but if I was professionally qualified or had high standards for my career prospects I wouldn't in a million years even considered doing what I do.
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    Im an army fiance (formerly and army gf) so i know how hard it is as a girlfriend as you have no help wattsoever from the military as your not recognised as the other half until your married.

    Jobs - Pah unless uve got good language skills in every place you go or have a good set of qualifications that can be applied anywere uve got no chance! Harsh but true! I thought id have a good chance before i moved over to germany had a german tutor 3times a week for 2 months and my german still isnt good enuff for them to employ me!

    Another thing is seen as u wont get married quarters be prepared!! Ul prob endd up sharing a house with other couples in the same position like I have done, the first 2 couples we lived with one of the girls used to walk round in her underwear 24/7 and the other one lived in her own filth - Urgh! The second couple we lived with used to have a domestic after every night out and usually ended up in him getting punched by her!

    Also speaking from experience (there are some loveli girls out there) but be very weary of who you become friends with. Getting in with the wrong crowd can result in consequences as i found out when the RMP came knocking on our door looking for my friend didnt look to good when my OH answered the door and they asked for me!

    You also need your OH or another army wife to book you in and out of camp you cant go on on your own without a pass.

    And lastly you and your OH need a solid and stuck ffast relationship as your going to have to cope with alot of shit! Late working hours, dutys, guard, spending quite abit of time on your own - But this place is definatly a helper for the last one!

    Hope this helps and sorry about the essay!

    xxx

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    If you do move abroad as an unmarried you also have to think about medical insurance and care because you won't get any from the Army. The only chance you have of getting a house and medical care etc abroad is to get married. In UK wwives have to sort themselves out anyway so if your not going to be going abroad then you can do the usual rent nearish camp and then work depends on the area and what you work as I guess.

    My husband and I predominately got married because he was posted abroad and was going to be abroad for at least 4 years. My work was financial advice, but I am now using the time to complete further exams and also study other area's.

    I will not say that any of being an Army Wife is easy. It can be incredibly frustrating. Moving can be very stressful, especially if where you are moving to are not very forthcoming with information and you have to find it all out for yourself.

    However, you do get to see some lovely parts of the worlld if you have the postings we have had, and the lifestyle is good.

    Barbie is right about jobs though, no matter where you go they are scarce unless your husband is a high ranking officer (in my experience).

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    The cost of moving yourself is frightening and it gets worse as time goes on and you accumulate more stuff. Luckily for us my work paid for a fair bit of this last move but by the time you've paid for reference checks, deposit, movers etc you're getting into the thousands.

    I'm not saying don't do it but it's something to bear in mind. As the others have said jobs for you depend on what you do. I have a very specialised job in local govt so just try to get something as close to where he is as possible then we see each other at weekends and on leave. Moving every three-ish years when he gets posted isn't an option for us. However, that said I can't see myself giving my career up so we muddle through.

    It's early days so my advice would be not to rule anything out, you'll figure out what works for you. Oh and get used to people feeling the need to comment on your domestic arrangements whatever you decide!
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    My dad was in the RAF so I've moved around all my life and loved it. I then joined the RAF myself moving around but I knew I had a job to go to. Then I got married to a squaddie and this is my first time as the wife of. At first I found it hard to make friends and 6 months on I'm still looking for a job that fits in with childcare etc. So its still early days for me - but at least we'll have a married quarter and removals paid for etc etc, I can imagine it'll be quite hard being the girlfriend.

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