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    Hello any ideas how I can cheer myself up. My hubby is out of contact at the mo, im 21 wks preg diagnosed with meningitis. Find it hard to get up most days. Could not feel more alone :0(. Coped with other exercises and tours but never done one pregnant before. Seems to be hitting me harder.

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    Snuggle up with some hot chocolate and whatever rubbish tv floats your boat? Friends always cheers me up as does Sex and the City. If you don't have to get up then don't - listen to your body and don't feel guilty. Hope you feel better soon x

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    meningitis? That's serious! Is he in the UK at the moment? I'm sure he can get compasionate leave, because of your diagnosis.

    Big hugs from me, I know how it feels to have meningitis, spent 8 days in hospital in my younger years with it

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    Well he is based in Germany but on exercise in the UK, I think he could get compasionate but am hoping to keep it for when baby comes. Problem is our bad timing now means it could clash with his deployment. So although temp with family in the UK I feel very down :0(

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    thanku for website address tho, anything to distract myself. Feel selfish when OH is working so hard. Moaning, im not the one working hard, out in the middle of nowhere. Just cant seem to get over it all.

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    would he not be given maternity leave when baby comes, not compasionate?

    Be as selfish as you want, pregnant with meningitis isn't exactly esy, especially when you can't take things for it. Rest up, in the warmth with a good film/TV programme and junk food
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    army have said he cannot have his paternity leave until after tour because it interfers with pre deployment :0( x yes exactly I am improving healthwise but it is hard as I already have a 4yr oldx Junk food am doing lol but tryin not to get too big because I remember how hard it can be to loose it allx

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    sorry i sound so dreadful moaning on

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    sorry i sound so dreadful moaning on
    Moan as much as you like - it's what we are here for - welcome to RP xx

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    Its annoying because I get upset and then I get cross with myself for being upset. I am sure its the pregnancy hormones. I just feel sad not sharing the pregnancy with him and the birth. I know its our won fault but we tried for years to have another baby and it didnt happen so it was more like a miracle child. So a blessing.x Just would help if he wasnt out of phone contact. Forces life I know but still cant stop it draggin me down :0(

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    Feel free to moan as much as you like on here, we've all been through things we want to moan about and if you can't do it to other forces wives then who can you do it to?
    It must be really hard with another little un to look after, can he go to nursery or something to give you a break? you need to rest for the health of your baby so you're not being selfish. housework can wait, and thats saying something coming from a woman with OCD!!!
    Its pants he can't get paternity leave til after his tour but thats the army and its shit! our 2nd arrived 6 weeks after he went to Afghan and had to wait til he was back for his paternity leave.

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    Not much help for you Wifey-h but major sympathy for you. Only thing I would say is regarding being out of phone contact is if he still has a fair amount of his exercise left to go it might be worth speaking to someone in his CoC or your welfare officer to see if the 'phone ban' could be lifted.
    When I was pregnant with baby tree I got 2 infections at the same time then swine flu the minute i finished my bloody antibiotics. Mr Tree was away on a 5 week exercise 2 weeks of which they were not allowed their phones. Luckily (sort of) i'd got the infections just before he went away on the 2 week part of it and he'd spoken with the powers that be and they had allowed him to take his phone and make one phone call to me in the evenings after they had bedded down for the night. He could also send me sneaky random text messages from time to time too. I think if i hadn't had some contact from him i'd probably have gone to pot (he's my calming influence, i panic and flap while he stays cool and collected) so they may make some allowances for him to contact you while you are ill.
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    Does anyone thinks its worth talking to the pardre? Or asking the JCCC for compassionate leave??? As he is based in Germany was wondering if anyone thought it would b worth trying for a temp posting to the uk?

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    Padre sounds best to me, do they still have Home start & SSAFA in't Germany?

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    If he's about to deploy with his regiment its unlikely he'll get a temporary UK posting but its worth asking. They may even delay his deployment until you are better but I doubt that - and would your OH want that? I know that my hubby would want to go with his regiment and not because he didn't care or anything like that, but because the Army is his life and I respect that.

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    No ur right he would want to deploy with his regiment. Howeva with a premature birth on the cards, baby will be here before he is due to deploy. Spoke with Regt yesterday, they kne I had been unwell whilst in Germany and was pregnant when I came back to the UK, so are not surprised of some diagnosis. Waiting on a medical verfication before any decison can be made. Worse case scenario is they have said they will send him back via JCCC to be with me at any admittance to hospital. Obviously meningitis is life threatening so they cannot be to sketchy with me just incase. JCCC have said to contact the pardre if I do not get anywhere with welfare. So I will hang on and c what the regt can do for me first. Fingers crossed. I want a posting really so he can be closer with me in and out of hospital but still continuing his service. So our 4yr old has some support from him. At least I know the next time im in they will def send him back to be with me. Better than nothing I have asked that his exercise is not interrupted and that if were awarded a posting that its of benefit to the regt. Just trying to keep everyone happy. OH just wants to be with me when im at my worst.

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