Thread: a weighty issue

OH told me the other day - straight up - that I should lose some weight. Just to give you an idea i'm 5ft 5 and weigh just 10 stone. I'm not sure what to do. He says he doesn't want me to get all fat - but tbh I don't think i'm a giant or going to do that anytime soon. To be honest i'm pretty upset about it all and don't really know what to do. The only thing that's feeling heavy at the moment is my heart...why would he be so mean!?

Personally if it were me I'd tell him his knob is too small and that I would lose weight if he sorted THAT out, but that's just me! He's been a tad brutal but that's men for you.

Were you your present size when you met? Have you had children? Do you do the girl thing where we moan a bit about our clothes not fitting and then fall of 6 diets a week?

If you have made "oh i must lose weight " noises in the past he MAY (I'm being generous here) be trying to help! Iin his own clumsy male way!

If you are perfectly happy with yourself and always have been...tell him to get stuffed and pour yourself a nice large glass of rioja to celebrate being a strong happy woman with npo self image issues

Just say his man hoods not big enough, that'l learn him to keep his mouth shut!

hi,

:cry: was this completely unprompted, or had you mentioned weight gain (or moaned about having no clothes that fitted you).

me
xx

Wow, nice bloke.

As some of the others have said was it utterly unprovoked by comments you'd made? Have you gained weight lately (I know if I did Mr Scoobs would be utterly oblivious unless it was a significant amount)/were wearing particularly unflattering clothes etc.

For a bit of balance I'm 5"4' and a little over 10 stone at the moment, since moving I've lost almost a stone yet the beloved boy was complaining the other day that I'm getting too skinny and I don't make a good pillow anymore but I'm banned from putting weight on, then again this is the same bloke who also complains that I'm annoying while repeatedly poking me in the side and saying 'woof' - so ignoring him is my only sensible option since I currently don't have access to a patio.

Ok, I am 5' 5.5" and weigh 12st 7. I am currently going to the gym 5 times a week and working with an army weight management person. I want to be 10st. I would tell him to s*d off unless I had been complaining about my weight previously.

My husband only ever says that I should get off my arris and get down the gym IF I have been complaining and not down the gym that day.

If ur comfortable tell him to f**k off!

Weight and height ratio doesnt always wrk neway im 5ft8 and i weigh 12st yet i can fit in a 10-12

Everyones different, if its an un-provoked comment id square up make urself look amazing then let him watch it walk away! x

Cheeky beggar!

There's making a comment because of a genuine health concern, that's all very well, but if it's just 'lose weight' for no reason, tell him to go poke it!

aww thanks guys - it was pretty unprovoked in the sense that he was talking about his next posting, and in the pub at the time (yeah yeah so I was having hot chocolate) I don't really moan about my weight, ok i'm no oil painting but I'm quite happy with who I am. He said he sees fitness as a sign of commitment, and a few months ago I did join the gym (had to wait to recover from an ankle injury caused by stupid running outdoors). But I will mention his tiny nob if he ever brings it up again. Or tell him to go and do one.

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Cameragirl i really feel for you. I am extremely senstive about my weight and if hubs dared to tell me to lose some i think i would boot him out on the spot. I am 5'2 and 10st 3lb and about a size 11 in jeans lol. I think quite a bit of the weight comes from the FF boobs i'm packing so remind him if you lose weight you lose boobs too that should shut him up!
No man ever has the right to tell you to lose weight. It's taken me quite a while to get used to the facgt that since my 1st baby i have curves and stuff (i used to be 6 st with no hips). It's funny though ive felt more confident slightly slimmer and more toned in the past week or so and yet i jsut weighed myself and ive not lost a pound. Bollcoks to it hun you are what you are and as long as what you are makes you happy then tiny knob needs to learn to keep his mouth shut!

Grrr, Blokes just don't engage their brains before speaking sometimes.

I am 5ft5 and I don't have a clue what I weigh, I stopped bothering when I got past 10 and a half stone I'm a comfortable size 14 at the moment but entering into winter will be sporting a muffin top soon!!!

I am VERY sensitive about my weight, as in I am relatively happy with it so don't think anyone else should give a flying fcuk about it, I'm not huge or think I would be classed as fat and like ST have a big G sized rack to contend with.

Pants is pretty critical of 'fatties' and can say the most inappropriate comments when we're out to me about people passing by, so I just pat his podgy little belly and say nothing.

If you're happy with how you are, tell him to stick his opinions up his arrse, I'm actually quite defiant so Pants saying anything like that to me would have me heading to Maccy D's for a Big Mac (large)

I agree with everyone else, tell him you think he should look into penis enlargement if he says it again. Childish, but it'll hit him where it hurts!

How rude. My OH has said things about my weight in the past and it's upsetting, but I just tell him to f**k off if he doesn't like it! Men can be so bloody insensitive sometimes! They seem to be built with a part of their brain which seems to make them think they are 100% perfect. And when they're in the army it just inflates it. If you're happy the way you are, don't let him make you feel otherwise!

The key health message is that it's better to be slightly above ideal weight (ideal being BMI 18.5 - 25, while acknowledging it's a crude measure) and fit / physically active, than ideal weight and inactive. It's possible that OH was commenting on your physical activity, but it's easier for him where his job included physical training, and I'm guessing yours doesn't?
Of course, physical activity doesn't have to be gym / sports / swimming etc - walking / cycling as transport can work well, gardening, housework etc all use up calories.

He sounds like a little bit of a control freak in the making, next it'll be your hair he doesn't like, then your friends, then your family.......

Tell him he either likes it, give him a commitement to remain within 3 lb of the weight you are right now, or he can f*ck off.

Just my thinking as a short, round, well loved woman!

Beebs x

I would not be happy about that. Fair enough if i was an unhealthy weight and it was out of concern for health, but your BMI is perfectly normal and nobody should put anyone under any pressure to lose weight.

I'd be leaving him - like I did an ex of mine who suggested (when I was very underweight at the time, considering my "normal" build and weight) that I went to a gym and "lost some more". Flirt outrageously with a mate of his that fancies you, snog/shag said mate then bounce away to someone less fickle.

Jeesh.

I keep asking Mr Dizzy to say these things to me to motivate me to lose weight (as I am at an unhealthy weight and need to lose it) But he wont. He says that "size and looks dont matter and its your soul thats beautiful" I'm not sure if thats just what men say to ugly ladies but I like it

Does he know how much this has upset you? I can't help thinking its just plain nasty?! I would just be really honest and tell him how its made you feel maybe he is just being a boy and saying silly things he doesnt mean (i hope!)

tell him to get fucked!

Originally Posted by bootifull

tell him to get fucked!

Much better advice than mine- I stand corrected