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    R&R - your thoughts please!

    Supposedly my boyfriend is back from Afghan for R&R in just over a month's time, and surprisingly it actually ties in with some leave I have from my work (I have forced leave periods at the moment). Now knowing the army very well myself, I'm not putting any money on him coming back the time he says he's supposed to as we all know things can slip!

    But he's been talking about us going away for 3 or 4 days (like a quick trip to Amsterdam/Paris/etc - you know, a city break). I would love to, but I'm a bit concerned about making him fly and travel, surely he would have had enough of that?! Obviously the flight would be very quick compared to an Afghan flight, and he seems happy with the idea, but I'm concerned he's trying to do too much in a short space of time. I'm not worried about dates as it would be one of those things we book and go the next day.

    He's got so many friends that have been asking to see him during R&R and his family as well, and I think his idea of 3 or 4 days away with me is his way of making sure he definitely gets time with me? Also, we can't go on holiday in his post tour leave as I'm working and can't get time off at that time, so maybe he wants to do something now?

    I don't know what to do! I think "Yay holiday!" but also think "Isn't he going to burn out?!"

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    Re: R&R - your thoughts please!

    I think it's each to their own, my husband just wanted to spend the whole two weeks chilling out. We didn't plan anything other than our daughters birthday party, and just took each day as it came. He was totally exhausted for the first few days and just wanted to spend time with me and our daughter doing not alot except for eating everything in sight!

    If he had suggested going away for 3/4 days I'd of probably said to him we should go somewhere in England, as there are some lovely places to go and it's a bit less stressful (although that could be because we would have had a one year old in tow!)

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    Re: R&R - your thoughts please!

    My OH is on his second lot of RnR shortly. The first he wanted to just stay home but this time he wants to get right out of the way. So out of the way we're getting! Hopefully the ash cloud won't get in the way on the way out there. It can do what it likes when we're on our way back though!!

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    Re: R&R - your thoughts please!

    I'd do whatever he wants to do.
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    Re: R&R - your thoughts please!

    We disappeared off went to Donegal in Rep of Ireland to a remote cottage where we could take step son and dog too and it was bliss - no British news, no tinernet and he was able to switch off for few days.

    But if he wants to go for it - its probably giving him something to focus on.

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    Re: R&R - your thoughts please!

    Definately think "yay holiday" (although it's good you're aware to keep an open mind as it may change).

    If he's happy to go then go! If he does burn out, well then he know's not to do it again next time!!
    All he will have wanted to do out there is just spend time with YOU!

    His friends will always want to see him but I think they would completely understand him wanting to just get away for a few days.

    Hope you have a lovely time x

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    Re: R&R - your thoughts please!

    Thanks guys, I think I'll just go with the flow and see what he wants to do. If he wants to whisk me off somewhere then I won't complain!

    But I'm just as happy sitting in front of the telly with him.

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    Re: R&R - your thoughts please!

    We were gonna go to spain for four nights on his rnr last week good job we didnt coz we wouldnt have got back coz of the ash cloud! instead we went to the lake district for two days which was nice and chilled out x

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    Re: R&R - your thoughts please!

    I'd go with whatever he wants to do. I think flying somewhere is less stressful than driving up and down the UK sometimes. Maybe he just wants to go somewhere away and switch off. So in my opinion it's "Yay, holiday"

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    Re: R&R - your thoughts please!

    My hubby is TA, due home in two days for R&R - a friend is getting married in Coventry so I've booked a really nice hotel for two nights that will take our dog too - because he's really missed her. I've put a little timetable together, hopefully lots of rest, a day or two with his Mum (she's in her 70's).
    A friend in a similar situation had organised a three day walking break as a surprise for her OH - he then said to her, don't plan anything, I don't want to go further than a mile from our front door.
    Our guys have been away from home for over six months, what with training etc. They just want "home".

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