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    HELP! the OH is getting broody!

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    So having just waved the OH back to work for another week I am a little on edge about some things that have been happening recently. From the start he has always been one step ahead of me. Telling me we wouldnt be togther one day when we first meet (it took 5 months!) then telling me I loved him which took a lot longer to admit. Recently he has been talking about weddings and buying houses! I have to move in the next two years and we have talked about buying then but now he is asking if I would think about moving to work with him?!

    I guess I can handle this but the last couple of weeks he has been talking about babies and he keeps rubbing my tummy and "talking" to it?! I am getting really nervous he wants all this so soon. I do love him but I am only 22 and I have just started out on my career. I understand he wants a family but how do I tell him its good to wait? I have tried just casually dropping in "maybe in a few years" but he seems to ignore this?! I dont want to make it a big thing- maybe I just needed to share it with someone?

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    Re: HELP! the OH is getting broody!

    A man who is romantic, wants a life-long commitment and he is broody? Sssh! everyone will want one I think it is really nice that he can talk about it with you and be so upfront about it all!

    If he is happy to chat about want he wants, then feel free to tell him what you want as well.

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    Re: HELP! the OH is getting broody!

    He maybe a tad too forward but you have a '1 in the million' right there.

    I am sure if you tell him that you're not ready for a child and have an adult discussion for it, he will understand.
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    Re: HELP! the OH is getting broody!

    I think he sounds like a man in love and wanting to settle down, myself. I understand that at 22 this all might be a bit "fast" so talk to him.

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    Re: HELP! the OH is getting broody!

    He really is one in a million and I don't want to loose that. We had a bit of a chat (somehow it seemed to flow better on the phone) and he said he won't bring it up for a while. Plus I think he began to understand some of the pressure I am under with work at the moment so is focusing on being supportive. ah bless!

    But thanks all it was just nice to know there was somewhere I could go just to let it out, also I need reminding of the simple answers like just talk to him!
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    Re: HELP! the OH is getting broody!

    Its your body, your mind and your life. There is only you can make a decision that is going to stay with you for a lifetime.
    Its all well a bloke getting broody, but ultimately its the woman who is left with all the hard work, however good his intentions may be as a father.
    Moreover, if the relationship fails, again its the lass whose left holding the baby...forever.
    Its hard enough if your in a stable relationship or married and you have already got your home sorted and got the finances to fund another person to feed and clothe.
    The question that you really have to search yourself for an answer to is....am i ready to trade my lifestyle for a completely different one.
    Its not like on the TV where everything is rosy with a gurgling baby and a spotless house while you waft around with a flat tum and endless energy with the smell of dinner coming from the oven. Its more of a hanging by the chinstraps with a grizzly baby who has had you up all night with a pile of washing to do and an even bigger pile of ironing and a constant smell of baby sick emitting from your clothing.
    Thats what your bloke needs to think about. Dont drop hints, just tell him outright. If he doesn't accept or like it, then he's not mature enough to handle fatherhood, however wonderful he may be.
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