Thread: Struggling

Hi
really struggling this week, oh is on exercise and had some bad news. Finding it all quiet difficult and a bit down.
Sorry to moan on here but civvy friends never seem to understand

It's alright to feel like you're struggling, and even better to share it :wink: Sorry that things are getting on top of you (the rant thread is BRILLIANT for letting off steam...)

There's not much I can suggest but keep being supportive and up-beat for him for when he's back from exercise.

Thanks, Just difficult as he is off to keyna in 2 weeks, then afghan in September. Just gets hard when you feel like all you are doing is counting down and waiting for when he goes away. I am glad other people feel like this x

D,

Have Pm'd you.

Sam x

hi

tryed to pm back but there just sittting in my outbox any ideas ???
xx

Originally Posted by danielled

hi

tryed to pm back but there just sittting in my outbox any ideas ???
xx

Just means she's not had a chance to read it yet

cheers, am at work shouldnt be on internet so am typing frantically lol

Chin up and keep your spirits up.

We all get days when we're down and the boys are away (like i'm having today!).

Have a glass or mug of something nice this evening

Originally Posted by danielled

Thanks, Just difficult as he is off to keyna in 2 weeks, then afghan in September. Just gets hard when you feel like all you are doing is counting down and waiting for when he goes away. I am glad other people feel like this x

Welcome to Army life. That's about it in a nutshell. You count time until they go, you mark time until the return, you savor time together then before you know it you're counting time until they go again.

It's a tough life, but people do do it and do it well.

There are women on here who have been Mum, Dad, Chief Cook, Bottle Washer and Footie Coach for so long now their head spins if they sit down for too long! And they do it all while being upbeat and positive and keeping everything 'normal' at home.

Bad news, I forget what real bad news is to others and when they tell me I struggle to comprehend why they're acting so devastated! I think I've just seen the VO DVD once to often.

Anyway, chin up, I'm sure it'll all be survivable.

Beebs x

Tis hard... Im a relatively newbie to this but OH and I have been apart ever since we got together. He was supposed to be back for good in July but now isnt. Ive learned to be upbeat and supportive for him but it aint easy. Your right that civvy friends dont understand. I got the news yesterday am in work that his transfer has been bumped back a year, hence our plans all gone to pot... One of the girls turned to me and said I undetstand what your going through as my husband has to work away a few nights a month... Felt like screaming "NO YOU FING DONT UNDERSTAND YOU SILLY BINT" but no point!! I do have to give myself a kick up the arse somedays but I cant help who I fell in love with. But your entitled to a winge!
Have a nice glass or large bar of something naughty XXX

Defo for civvy mates not understanding, my fiance got posted to germany in september and our wedding is not until feb. We only got 2weeks together at xmas and he is only back for the wedding. Then i have another 6weeks until I join him in MQ in germany. Sucks as they say, defo agree to the you cannot help who you fall in love with. Actually as I have recently realised is a million times harder for them, who more or less have to cut themselves off to how they feel and concentrate on their job. Sites like this are a good way of letting of steam. Just make sure your the happy, excited person they cannot wait to hear from. Although so difficult when you miss them, much more fun to hear from their happy other half.

I too am struggling. I "need" my beloved hubby to go away!
I know I should be happier than a piggy in poo, but I'm an old wifey who had gotten used to waving bye bye and counting the days till he got home.
Now it's all change, he's still serving but no longer deploys and having him home ever night is testing the wee bit of patience I have!

Originally Posted by bootifull

I too am struggling. I "need" my beloved hubby to go away!
I know I should be happier than a piggy in poo, but I'm an old wifey who had gotten used to waving bye bye and counting the days till he got home.
Now it's all change, he's still serving but no longer deploys and having him home ever night is testing the wee bit of patience I have!

Oh Boots how insensitive can you be?!?

No really, if I had a red pen it'd read 'Must Try Harder!'

Bless you my child!

Beebs x

I bless that Boots one. Sometimes (only sometimes mind) I have the urge to be like the young stuff who dreads their OH departing these fair shores. But alas. Tis not to be! Three months in and I'm still happy as a pig in pooh.*




*Disclaimer - still looking forward to his RnR. The ironing pile's getting bloody massive!

i know it probably wont make sence when people say this but i do understand!
none of my friends get it either. at the begining they tried but now they kind of have the attitude - if you cant handle it break up =/
im not willing to do that so i just have to put up with it.
i really struggled last week when my boyfriend was on ex all week. its breaking my heart not having him here but those few texts and calls i get makes it all better. when hes on exercise i feel so alone. so if you feel the need to talk about it.......

Lol @ Boots...most definately you get to the point of wanting to go and ask his OC to send him on a course or on deployment to get some peace.

Bodger, my ironing pile is always huge when he is away too, I never ever do it, it's his job!

Womble, Even my hubby's family don't understand. My SIL thinks that my hubby being deployed to the sandy place is the same as her hubby's week long job's where he comes back at weekends (would hasten to add he is in the same country, can come back to help if child is sick, can talk on the phone whenever he feels like it and only puts his life in danger when he drives). His mother and father think that he can just refuse to go to said sandy place. The rest of his family think he is being awkward when he says he can't just take leave when he feels like it. However I don't have to talk to them and my Mum and Dad are ex Army so know the score.

Thankfully, it gets easier as time goes on as you will see from the many posts on here from people.

Sam x

Originally Posted by bootifull

I too am struggling. I "need" my beloved hubby to go away!
I know I should be happier than a piggy in poo, but I'm an old wifey who had gotten used to waving bye bye and counting the days till he got home.
Now it's all change, he's still serving but no longer deploys and having him home ever night is testing the wee bit of patience I have!

HA! Wait till you've had the old bugger home 24/7 for 8 months!!! When routines that have worked perfectly well for the last 25 years are suddenly "improved." When you are given "advice" that always starts with "Now, don't take this the wrong way, love, but...." When you put something down and find it's been moved because "it's easier to find there..." When your 24 years of no claims bonus is met by "but look at all the accidents you've seen in the rear view mirror..." When he's up at the crack of sparrow f*rt, sh*t, shaved and showered and ready to go....where??? He's so full of drugs that he thinks there are fairies at the bottom of the garden! I haven't seen a soap opera for 8 months, have spent so little time online that my farm/cafe/fishtank/garden on Facebook are looking more than a little neglected.

Oh, for a 6 month deployment....or even a week... :wink:

You lot make it sound like hell, I like it..... I still miss him when he leaves to go to work in the morning.... But my aim's getting better.

Beebs x

What is that phrase; in sickness and health but not for lunch every day darling!!! Once the darling OH had gone and I had got over the goodbye, which I hated, I used the clean the house from top to bottom and breathe a heavy sigh of relief. The R&R was fantastic - honeymoon time again, but two weeks was about enough! Then when home after the initial relief he was all in one piece, the constant cooking, washing, cleaning (why oh why can they not leave their boots in one place but have to walk them all over the place however filthy they are), whilst working full time....... well, please please please could you go away on excercise!? Perhaps we are just never satisfied!!!!

I used to HATE hubby going away! Really, I would cry as he drove away, but the last few times I too have spent a whole day thoroughly cleaning the house, then the rest of the time revelling in the neatness, the smell of furniture polish, candles, and my scented oil burner.

I loved eating and washing up straight after, the fact that it would take two weeks to fill a washing machine, and the bathroom was aways clean. Long soaks in the bath were not interrupted by the man child running in clutching his bottom and pulling the shower curtain across before stinking the bathroom out so much so that I had to vacate my once comfortable bath. I could watch what i liked when I liked, read with no interference, and go to bed in my most comfortable greying frayed knickers.

Then home he would come all lovely and handsome, and stinking like he'd slept in a field ( which to be fair was sometimes the case) leaving a bag in the middle of the floor, a load of stinking kit to wash, jam on the kitchen counter, coffee cup rings on the tables, toothpaste and shave creme in the sink, a ring around the bath and would give me the puppy dog eyes for a cup of tea and a cheese, ham and coleslaw toastie.

My peaceful, scented haven of tranquility once again turns into a bear cave. God forbid he ever gets a civvie job and comes home every night...............