Thread: new navy girlfriend

Hey SJ (and everyone),

My guy's in basic at the mo (army not navy) and we're half way through now. We went from being in uni together, to living together, to him leaving and only getting texts, calls and now the odd weekend.
Of course it's hard, made even harder by none of my friends really understanding where I'm coming from. Not understanding the ups and downs.

Sometimes I feel really strong about it all and I'm like "raaarrr yeeeehh I can do this pow pow!"
But I get moments where I can't see a time when we will be together - I still have another year of study, he has basic, then he'll be with his regiment for a while before he goes out sandland for 6 months, and in the mean time I want a career...Sometimes I just can't see how/when we're going to be back, properly together again.

However I've decided to just see this training as a few years out of a lifetime together. Even though the military will be a career for him I'm just taking little chunks of the process at a time other wise i'll get overwhelmed.

I'm pretty sure everyone here is victim to the turbulance of emotions x

Hi Em-laa!
I know exactly where you're coming from. While I have never been one to wish away time, I can't help but want it to be a few years down the line when I know OH and I have the chance of having a half-normal life!
In a sadistic way I quite like the ups and down - certainly lets you know you are alive! The highs are sooo high as well that it makes it all worth it
xxx

Heyyaa

I completely agree with you about wishing the time away - I do it too much and have to stop myself!!
And indeed it does let you know you're alive - I certainly have more ups than downs - but who would want a normal, easy, mono-emotion life anyway eh? Lol.
It's good, makes you realise you might have something a bit special hey!

xxx

i started goin out with my fella a few months bk, he hasnt bin sent away yet butim still finding it hard and its only the early stages. how did you all cope in the beging?

plz hell dont wanna lose him xx

Hi Nipper and welcome to RP. When I first started getting to know Mr D he vanished off to a dusty place after a week or so. I think it helped because I actually wasn't overly interested in him to start with and I was pretty busy anyway avoiding writing my dissertation. It didn't get much easier for us as when he got back form said dusty place he spent two lovely weeks convincing me I should be interested then vanished again off to Germany. I found those three months really hard, it almost felt like I didn't have a boyfriend half the time. BUT thanks to the wonders of modern communication we went on "skype dates" (ie we watched the same movie whilst having a laptop next to us with skype on so I could wimper to him when the flash bangs came on).

Communication is really important- sometimes there is a little and some times a lot but its important that its effective. If it hadn't been for letters and emails where we did our serious talking I am not sure we would have survived such a long break so early on.

Be warned though- now Mr D is back in the UK and tricked me into buying a house with him- he is rather hard to get rid off!