I have no issues with drinking in the house on my own. If I didn't, I'd never get to have a drink.

I have been very good though and the bottle of Smirnoff in the pantry is still unopened. Nothing at all to do with OH putting it on the top shelf

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Sorry to bring this up again (well maybe not, cos it made me giggle several times which was MUCH needed right now!) but I have to say, I had always thought that I couldnt ever be with a Forces person. Sure the uniform is cute and they have nice muscles, but the reality of it all? No thanks.
Then I met Mr. A. Damn that boy!! Yes "boy", was only 21 last week. Bless. Made me fall for him and him for me and, well the rest is a pretty damn short history. So now I have this, slightly edited quote:

Originally Posted by bigbird67

So you have ONE choice... You man up, dry your eyes, suck it up and learn to be an Army wife...independant, feisty, strong and borderline alcoholic

Ive already been borderline alcoholic once and if that's what it takes, as the very proud Mrs. A, then that is what I shall do!!

Though Im very concerned that it is now Wednesday night and Ive not yet had a drink since Saturday night. And even then it was only 3 purple wkds - which I only had cos the beer tasted naff down the pub :/ Hmmmmm....

Oh christ its 1am. Bedtime methinks. Thanks for the quote and I might actually steal it later (in my edited form) and whack it on something pink and pretty for a signature if thats all right. LOL!

Not sure if you're cut out to be an army wife?

Then don't.

Simples.


Flippant way to put it across but it a serious point... This life can be demanding sometimes. Me and Mr Joey have just spent two years seeing each other for a weekend every 4 to 6 weeks and he's done 2 tours of Afghan in the last 3 years... He's now done 5 tours in 9 years.

People on here have gone through far far worse

If you're not up for it, you're not up for it.

Try being a Navy wife.

Seven months here, five days there, or maybe ten weeks, no, four weeks, change of plan it's now six weeks... Remember that leave you booked? We're now at sea that week... Happy birthday from the middle of the ocean. And happy anniversary. We'll celebrate Christmas at Easter like we did three years ago. And two years before that.

Email, phone call? Nah, the Sat's down again.

it has been a ride ...ups and down....facing things i thought i could not cope with , and i'm surely goona miss things when he's getting out ...but there comes a point in your life where you make the decision to stick with them , but there is also the day when you are happy i's all finished

Originally Posted by WhiteRose

Email, phone call? Nah, the Sat's down again.

At least I'm not going to have phonecall trauma I KNOW I'm not getting any for 3 months (give or take a week or 2 depending on what breaks on that one or on the next one to go out).

I do get to send him 120 words a week though. That he can't reply to. And that he might not even get if the Captain thinks I'm writing in any sort of code.

On the upside, our SFA has a massive kitchen and there is definitely room for a wine rack.

You know me SP I'm biased being surface fleet...

Just the one wine rack? What about the spirits cabinet? Every Navy home should have one

Originally Posted by WhiteRose

You know me SP I'm biased being surface fleet...

Just the one wine rack? What about the spirits cabinet? Every Navy home should have one

If we had a spirits cabinet, the kids would starve to death. Best I stay away from spirits

Before I forget, it's his last day (hopefully) in Weymouth tomorrow. He's not managed to nick you a lanyard yet (his excuse - they get locked up so they don't get abused) but after I inferred that he's not a proper matelot, let alone a proper stoker if he can't nick a poxy lanyard, he's going to try his hardest tomorrow

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Originally Posted by WhiteRose

Just the one wine rack? What about the spirits cabinet? Every Navy home should have one

I am definatly going to have to combine the advice of Rose and SP here and inform OH that I will be moving us to a bigger flat at the first hint of a deployment to ensure a wine rack and spirits cabinet are suitably inplace before he disappears!

Originally Posted by foxywoxy

I am definatly going to have to combine the advice of Rose and SP here and inform OH that I will be moving us to a bigger flat at the first hint of a deployment to ensure a wine rack and spirits cabinet are suitably inplace before he disappears!

You've got the hang of this already

"Why do I do it (date a guy in the Army)? Because nights alone aren't permanent, missing him reminds me that I'm lucky to have someone to miss, and I am not afraid to make sacrifices for love." One of my Other Half's friend’s wives has just sent me that. I do not know where she found it but I have printed it off and put it on my wall so every morning when I get up and look in the mirror I will see that and remind myself to keep strong. Not just for him, or us, but for me. If you love someone you should be willing to make sacrifices for them; as they should be willing for you.

A few years ago I didn't think I could have a long distance relationship with someone, as I didn’t think I was strong enough too, but 7 months on into this relationship we are still going strong. I wouldn't swap my Other Half for the world (or even for Ryan Reynolds or Channing Tatum if they were offered to me). My Other Half is my best friend, my rock, my sweetest hello and my toughest goodbye and also the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with someday. The simplest actions he did the other day when I was poorly and he didn’t leave my side for 26 hours, made me realise this. And the way he kissed me tenderly goodbye and whispered “I love you” before he went to work one morning while I was snoozing in bed made me realise this too.

Patience is not my strong point. I think I am the most impatient person I know. But with the Forces you have to be patient (or have a lot of wine in the fridge) to cope with their shit. His job is always going to come first and you a close second. It is not actually about who "wins" although the Army (now referred too by me as the other women or the fucking army - depending on what mood I am in) gets to see him a lot more than I do. It’s tough but when you do get to see him it makes it all that more special!

It's taken me a good 6 months to adapt to this lifestyle – of him coming and going all the time, being posted 2500 miles away, but I am getting there slowly. Don't think it will come together overnight, it won’t. It takes different people different amounts of time. I don't think you get used to it, you kind of learn not to focus on it as much and get on with your life. BE independent. Make friends, they become your support network. Don't force the issue that you feel weak and can't get used to this. Everything takes time - BE PATIENT!! Don't think that when you do adapt to it, that everyday will be a good day.

I am not going to lie, you will have some really rubbish days and all you will want is a hug off him but you can't have one as he’s away at work. Borrow one of his hoodies, spray it with his deodorant and aftershave and put the hoodie on. I did. That way I can still smell him and get a "hug" even when he is not home. Distract yourself - work on “op fitness” and if needs be start a random hobby. So far I have learnt to knit, cross stitch, bake, decoupage, made a scrap book of my journey with him so far, worked on my fitness before the doctor told me I was due a second operation, learnt how to become a DIY goddess for when he is away (although the bookshelf I put up didn't last long before it collapsed on me), and loads of other things like throwing myself into Uni and getting a really good grade this year.

I have moved away from home before too. Granted only for University not to be with my Other Half (yet). It's tough. I hated it at the time and leaving your old life, your family and friends behind sucks. Granted I moved back to a Uni closer to home eventually (due to course reasons) but looking back now I have made some friends at my old Uni that I know I will be friends with for life. I will always have my friends at home too. I can call any of my friends up at any time of day or night when I need a friendly ear or someone's house to escape too when life at home gets a little bit too much. Sometimes you will find yourself on your own, that’s when you can have some fun. Dance round to your favourite songs like no one is watching, sing like no one can hear you and enjoy some ME time. Lord knows when they come home you don’t get enough of it!

If you want things to work you will make them work. Don't look for excuses for not to make it work, as it comes across like you are looking for an excuse to get out of it. If I had a pound for every time I wanted to throw in the towel in the past 7 months I would be a very wealthy woman. But now, after the time I have just spent with him, I would never be so selfish and do that, as I don't want to loose the best thing that ever happened to me. It would just be cutting off my nose to spite my face if I did something like that.

I think everyone on here will agree with what I am saying, although others are more about the toughest love. Be strong, keep smiling even if you want to tear your hair out or break down into inconsolable tears. My gran always says that if you smile it makes people wonder what you have been up too.

And if you need a chat, although I am just a girlfriend and not high up on the pecking order in the Army world, feel free to inbox me.

Originally Posted by WhiteRose

You know me SP I'm biased being surface fleet...

Just the one wine rack? What about the spirits cabinet? Every Navy home should have one

Most of my house is still in storage as this house, 1 week in, isn't capable of housing full furniture yet (yes it was that bad..) but The spirit bottles and the last of my homemade strawberry gin, were removed safely from storage and placed into the kitchen.....Navy standards and all that!

Wine isn't lasting long enough for it to have it's own rack at the moment, although, the kitchen does have a built in one.....

Originally Posted by Feisty one

Most of my house is still in storage as this house, 1 week in, isn't capable of housing full furniture yet (yes it was that bad..)

I get my storage today, and I have a sinking feeling that ebay is going to be my friend the next few weeks.

Pear Cider or Whisky is definately my friend the next few days and it won't be around long enough to find a home other than down my neck!

Originally Posted by Gonzo

I get my storage today, and I have a sinking feeling that ebay is going to be my friend the next few weeks.

I thought I'd properly decrapped the house before we moved and considering we only used half the moving allowance in terms of truck space thought we'd be fine. Now bearing in mind this house has more storage and cupboard space than I have ever had in a house before, I'm confused as to why I still have a shedload of boxes that I can't unpack and even more confused as to why I actually bothered bringing a lot of the stuff! eBay and the local recycling centre are now my friends.

Lol....I think I am going to be in a similar situation and I am normally great at chucking things out.

We moved in in Feb and there's still a box in my understairs cupboard that i just don't want to open but I know with two weeks kid free i have no excuse not to. I am slightly frightened what i'm going to find in there! The past 6 months seem to have one big declutter for us and it's still ongoing!

OH MY DEAR GODS... BOXES. Enough said. Why do I move all this crap all round the country? And we're moving again in October. Take me away now, please.

Originally Posted by draegora

OH MY DEAR GODS... BOXES. Enough said. Why do I move all this crap all round the country? And we're moving again in October. Take me away now, please.

Please, have the entire bar on me...

If it helps, I moved twice in the 11 months (Jan and Dec last year) and I don't think my stuff has ever all been out of boxes, so feel the box pain. Stuff all still in boxes pretty much, but figure I might as well keep it that way until I move with hubby next year. Then I get to pack up his stuff as well as the seven tonnes of clothes I have. That'll be interesting :/

I've found that the really fun bit is moving without him, thinking you've done really well to put everything away with only a few boxes left over and then realising when he rocks up with all his kit that you actually need a whole other quarter for storage :/

And yet another one for his Combat Boots. Preferably in another country so you can't smell them.

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