Thread: Coping with Stress, Anger and Heartache RP Stylee

My life is slowly and surely turning to rat shit. Relationship is on the rocks and dying is just the tip of the iceberg. The end result is that my anger and stress levels have gone through roof. My patience levels (which were never very high) have completely disappeared and quite frankly the kids think I am demented.

As a child I have vivid memories of my Mother disappearing to the garage to scream and throw china at the wall. Quite frankly if it was not for the fact I have a social worker living next door and a policeman living opposite I would do it.

Tell me RPers, what are your favourite ways of dealing with Stress, Anger and Heartache?

Ta muchly xx

TLC I hope things improve soon for you. I find exercise is good for me when I'm stressed, long walks with the dog who 'listens' to all I want to rant about. Getting whatever is getting to me out makes me feel better, even if no one is listening.
Sending you a hug x

I quite like going to the gym but at the moment thats not possible for me. My stress levels are also stupidly high so will be watching this thread with interest. Good luck finding a solution TLC x

Hi TLC I am lucky I dont live next door to a social worker because i bang the kitchen cupboard doors.Very hard!! And I slammed the oven door (a few times, over and over) and broke it - so now the glass is all skew-wiv but it still cooks ok!! But thats the ' really at the end of my tether' stage. Otherwise I like to go for a drive with my music blaring, or just put my music on indoors and sing. I dont expect any of this helps you but I'm hoping it might make you smile at the thought of it I hope you gets things sorted out soon xx

Personally, a good old scream and sob into my pillow does the trick for me.

A journal is a really good way to say all the things you want to say, to all the people you want to say them to. Then it goes back in the drawer. I diary of feelings and thoughts if you will. Sometimes reading them back at other times put things into perspective.

I am so sorry things so are bad at the moment, I hope you find a way to deal with it that doesn't involve the copper or social worker. xx

I normally punch a pillow or go all two year old and have a tantrum on the bed. Last time Mr D annoyed me I printed off some pics of him looking really smug and then ripped them to pieces.

When I am really emotional I get the knitting or the sewing out and sit in the quite and do something like that. Either that or bake lots then I get all chilled.

Sorry to hear things are not good at the moment for you.

Stress: I find a run or exercise helps me with stress, 30 mins of doing something helps calm me down, and makes me feel so much better.

Anger: A good old shout or rant. or throwing something up the garden, kicking a football very hard.

Heartache- tough one this, when your suffering from this for me nothing can solve it. I had some heartache this year, and I tried some EFT which I found really useful. It seems a silly idea but for me it worked. There's a lot of resources online about it.

Spanner xx

edited for spelling.

A very, very long walk.

Followed by a very, very large drink.

Big hugs for you tootsie xx
I deal with stress by burying my head in the sand, so I'm not a good one to ask really, just wanted to show my support.
Hope you find what you need to help you out x

I'm with the go for a run group, my music is on loud so that I can't really think after a while, and I just run, which I'll be doing tomorrow.

Or find something that will make me laugh, both will work as temporary solutions to me.

Write down everything that is stressing you out, somewhere that only you can see it, maybe work out which are the small things (if any that you can say what the hell to and ignore them for now, deal with only the key things because you can't deal with everything.

The only true way to relieve stress is to deal with what's causing it, everything else is temporary.

Oh dear, sounds like you're having a horrible time. Big virtual hugs coming your way...

I'm with the running group too, that and cleaning (?!) you can tell when i'm very stressed because the house is spotless.

I'm another one that buries my head in the sand and drinks lots of alcohol. Needless to say I'm not dealing with stress very well at the moment since I'm booze free. Don't have any advice unfortunately but big hugs anyway xxx

Go to the garage and scream...... stamp your feet, get some good thick foam ont he walls and pound them, and when the Social Worker and Policeman ask what you're up to tell them.

Within a week I bet they have an order of foam on their driveway.

Do you honestly think you're the only person who beats walls rather than strangles children? That's what makes us GOOD parents, knowing how to vent that doesn't include hurting our children.

I never get upset. I'm past that stage in life.

Now I just hit people.<<<Roll over for my secret.

Beebs x

I'm a go for a run type gal. Either that or a drive or slam doors (I love slamming doors)

Kick the ferk out of stuff and then when suitably calm go and hit the gym really hard. I can push some serious weight when pissed off.

Failing that, get out with some girlies who know the situation, hit the vodka and party hard. It normally ends in tears and a kebab but sometimes it is just what you need to let off a bit of steam and deal with the next day.

Sorry to hear you're having a tough time. I'm also one for going to the gym, or a boxercise class and imagining whoever on the recieving end of a punch and kick. Failing that, what dizzybird says......vodka and good mates.
Hope you feel better soon

if you can't get to a gym buy a puchbag and put it in the garage or garden and punch/kick the feck out if it!!!!!!!!!!!!! I got one from TKMaxx for about £10. It's inflatable and you put water in the base to steady it

I hope things look up for you soon

When I am upset/stressed/angry I just bugger off and listen to The Smiths. There's no better pick-me-up than listening to Morrissey warble on about how depressing life is, because it reminds me that no matter what, things can always get worse, so count your blessings.

Seriously, try this:





I usually accompany this with lashings of red wine.

Loud Music/Red Wine.

Originally Posted by Reality Check Man

When I am upset/stressed/angry I just bugger off and listen to The Smiths. There's no better pick-me-up than listening to Morrissey warble on about how depressing life is, because it reminds me that no matter what, things can always get worse, so count your blessings.

Seriously, try this:



Nah, Donny or Barry.



Play it loud and sing like a bitch.

That's just a starter.



Mimi - back me up on this.

I usually accompany this with lashings of red wine.

Loud Music/Red Wine.

Red wine is good.

My quotes got all effed up.