Thread: Coping with Stress, Anger and Heartache RP Stylee

If you're gonna do it, do it right, do it with Dale.

Is that any better or shall I try and find some Olly Murs in his undypundies?

I'd smash Olly into the back of next week given the chance.

I'm a bitch for that, but you have to roll with it.

True or false Mimi?

Mrs B must stop grooving to this.

I am back off to the dark side to take the piss out of blokes. Treacle Pie, if you need anything, just let me know, or let one of the mods know.

Pip has just shat in the hall and is getting the "Don't fucking even look at me" thng.

I'm not actually that bad (cough) and if I ever take Lemsips with caffeine in again, can you punch me in the swede?

Slug Hugs xxx

Stress - I hold it in and then vent with some good friends, cry or write a diary

Anger - Again I hold it in, although sometimes it comes out at the wrong person

Heartache - I'll let you know cos I'm currently going through it too much for me to actually talk about.

Writing things down helps, hope things get better x

I pretty much sit alone after the baby has gone to bed and have a quiet drink thinking about where I went wrong. Then I try and think of things to do to cheer myself up. I can defo associate with the rat sh*t theme.

If it's sad stress, going out for a nice long drive in the dales. Although if its angry stress, this does not work as I just get road rage and become dangerous, so have a good old tantrum, slamming doors, exercise works a treat. I was having a meh day the other day so had the afternoon in bed watching rubbish on iplayer and whatnot. My friend told me to watch Desperate Scousewives if I was after trash, and oh my days I became super angry stressed and I was only feeling tired and low to start off with. Do NOT recommend watching that to turn that frown upside down

Can't be a good hug when you need it the most so sending you one!

Hx

i admit i go the cleaning route as well, pissed off is the only way i can move the ruddy wardrobes so wait to hoover behind them till someone upsets me, at least something good comes out of my temper

a good scream and cry........................failing that, a good session on a punch bag

Originally Posted by Josephine

a good scream and cry........................failing that, a good session on a punch bag

Especially if you imagine the punch bag is the person that pissed you off in the first place!

Sorry to hear that you are having a hard time TLC,

I'm with the excersize group too, I just shut off from he world, don't take my phone, listen to my music and re ground myself, whether it be a walk, run, cycle, swim. It's really important at times like this that you do make time for yourself, and only you. I find walks at the coast are most refreshing, something about the clear air and sound of the sea.

I've found after alot of people on here recommended writing everything down, that helps alot too. Rip it up after, burn it, shred it, you will feel so much better afterwards, I find sometimes you just need someone to talk to who won't judge or doesn't have an opinion, a piece of paper is your best friend for this.

As for heartache, there is no cure, just time, and alot of alcohol, crying and singing to horrible love songs that make you cry even more.

Bx

Anger- Depends on cause. if it's a person, write them a nasty letter. Then burn it. Fire cleanses.
Fun way if you're all hot and stressed and hormonal- fill a basin or washtub with cool to cold water. Dip your whole face in. Scream. REMOVE FACE FROM WATER BEFORE BREATHING IN. Repeat as necessary. Screaming lets out the angry, cool water helps soothe. And the neighbours don't think someone is being murdered.

Music is good if you have angry energy. Put on whoever makes you rock. I like me a bit of Alanis Morosette, a bit of Pink, and a shed load of Aerosmith and Van Halen. And then crank it up and let the music hide you. Sing along, dance till you drip sweat, clean to the beat, whatever vents the poison. Cry if you need to, the music hides the sobbing (again, neighbours won't wonder).

Heartbreak, now. I have a few coping mechanisms. First is escapism. Find a film, a book, anything that you think you are the person you're watching and not you. Get out of your own head. Stay out till the hysterical sobbing is under control.
Step two, listen to sad music and cry. NO NOT DRINK at this stage or you will never stop crying. And you can reverse the first and second steps if that's what works.

Step 3, and I admit this won't be everyone's cup of tea. Grab you Bible, especially if it's the pocket New Testament the padres hand out. There's a nifty guide in the front that points out bits to read for anger, disappointment, bereavement, loneliness, etc. So I sit down, having screamed and cried it all out, and I read for peace. I find a bit where it tells me that everything will be okay. And I breathe deep and slow and read it over and over again until I believe it. This can take hours, at which point I feel thankful the bible is a long book.

Feel better soon x

Hey TLC
Sorry to hear you are having a s**t time of it at the moment - so a hug for you to start with {{{TLC}}}
I can't comment on exercise (Im good on the diet bit but rubbish at exercise) I do know when I lived in the UK and was able to to drive going for a long drive with music on singing along to sad songs really loud (with the obligatory tears) helped - but I did have to pull over a few times and watch the speed limits.
Letting it all out is the most important thing - be that screaming into your pillow - or crying in the shower. My preferred method of this week (as it's been a rubbish week back in Poland) has been to come home and I sit on the stairs and cry - first thing I do when I come home (not difficult seeing as I have usually held tears in since 6am anyway!). Having said all this about not keeping it all in though - I don't take heed of my own advice as everytime me and the OH get together there is always a night in a pub that involves me 'leaking' (as he affectionally calls it!) usually through wine and soppy music (i.e. how much I miss him when he's not here, how much I love him, how I want to be in the same country etc etc)... so guess I do bottle it up!! Adele's 'Someone Like You' know makes him look at me with a cheeky smile and he offers a pack of Kleenex before the first few notes are belted out!

As for stress relief...well...there's one thing you can do on your own nudge nudge wink wink (though I guess you do have to be in the mood to do it!) x

Hugs TLC, think most things have been covered, stress relief, exercise, bleaching, drinking, good friends, but I don't fight it, if I am stressed and angry and depressed, i just roll with it, no point me trying to fight it, can't beat it! but then i just laugh at myself when i am feeling better. Also having my own space, taking 10 mins or whatever, if you can have a bath, do it, candles, music, no phone, lots of bubbles and a pint of g&t!

Good luck hon, thing will get better. you know that..... just keep that chin up xxxxx

long walks, at my last house I used to go hide in the orchard, sadly can't do that now as the cottage is in rather an exposed field. find a mate and go for a coffee, someone whose good for a giggle to let off steam. I have a high stress job so used to go to meditation classes, not sure I ever so much meditated as fell asleep but whatever it worked. Hope things get better soon hun x