Thread: How do you even begin to plan a wedding when your OH is in the RN?

Any ideas ladies, I havent a clue. Wanted to be able to look at planning things when my OH goes to Raleigh so I have something to keep my mind busy, but how do you even go about the simplist of things like setting a date??

Remember the biggest rule of all- specialist wedding insurance! if things get cancelled you will want to be able to get some money back so it is a real must.

buy a pencil and learn to keep re-arranging things. Just be laid back and get on with it. I had to re-arrange my wedding in the Feb - we were due to marry in August had to move it to June, but it all went smoothly.
Agree with Dizzy, insurance is a must, and make sure it has the military movements cover in it.

I will make sure I get wedding insurance then - what about the date, do the Navy determine this for you? I had heard you have to ask for permission to marry is this true?

You will probably find that he can't do it during his initial training, but the best thing he can do is speak to an instructor when he joins, or if he has a contact point before he goes maybe they can help, and ask them about it...

I think you'd find they can't stop you marrying (unless you or he legally need permission - under 18), the "permission" is probably just about setting a date based on what they are likely to do/where they are likely to be put on draft.

I don't know if there is any leave between training dates and whether you are looking to marry and go on honeymoon, or get married and defer your honeymoon.

You need to have at least a 70% idea of where he's going to be and when otherwise there's no point. So don't plan any date until initial training is out of the way and Phase Two is well underway.

We got married in 2010 and didn't even contemplate a date until the ship's long cast (the forward plan) was published. Even then, the long cast can be the biggest work of fiction since Harry Potter, so we made a rough guess and kept everything crossed. And even three weeks before we got married, we didn't really know whether OH would have to come back to marry via sunnier climes or from just up the road. Such is life in the RN.

We delayed our honeymoon until summer leave, too. That way we knew for sure we wouldn't lose our overseas trip. Even then, we couldn't be 100% sure.

So if you do plan a date, make sure you have an idea where your OH is going to be, make sure his leave is booked as early as he dares, and either don't have an extravagant wedding or invest in insurance - checking the small print that it covers military deployment!