Thread: Plaaning a wedding 350 miles apart!!!

Help!!!

My oh and i are looking at getting married at around christmas due to his leave. Havent organised much yet as not long got engaged. We just had a brainwave today that it would make sense to get married soon as he will be posted next august and we are aware that we are not entitled to MQ less than 6 months left in post.

We are concerned about giving notice as he is based in NI and due to his job cant leave there apart from when he manages to get leave. Is there any way that he can give notice without being there in person at his local registry office? or would he be able to give notice in NI?

Any help or info much appreciated!!

Go to Gretna Green and get married there, they do all the notices and everything for you, easy peasy!!
I organised a wedding in scotland when both me and OH were based in Germany, on different bases 200 miles apart.
I just told him to stay out of the organising and let me get on with it, that way I knew what was happening and that everything was definitely done.

Have you already got a venue?

Mr K never went to the registry office, I did all that stuff. I think he might have had to sign one or two things but you can do that by post.

I got married when other half was in NI and I lived in the Midlands and got married in Wales. I just got my mother to organise it, we turned up and did the deed, then went away again!

Your OH can do things like signing via the post, but the best thing to do is to speak to your local registry office. They were brilliant with us in understanding that we were a forces family with special circumstances.

Thanks everyone! do you think its feesible to be able to get married in 6 weeks time? we are only having immediate family and best man and bridesmaid there. Im just hoping that when i speak to the registry office tomorrow they have a slot for us! everythings more a less sorted out apart from that
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I organised my wedding in a week so it is definately feasible.

Just waiting for the registry office to call me back at the minute. she said that you usually have to be residing in the county that you are giving notice in for at least 9 days then have to give 15 days notice. She said she is going to check whether this will apply to him due to him being posted to NI. Arggghhhh fingers crossed there is some loophole!

Generally those sort of rules don't apply if you're marrying a member of the armed forces.

Hiya

I can definitely second the suggestion about Scotland. Not necessarily Gretna Green, which can be very commercial, but there are so many options in Scotland. One good thing about Gretna Green though is that it's a one-off cost and you really don't have to do anything other than turn up, which is brilliant.

My OH and I finally gave up on the idea of having more than a weekend in which to get married, and with him at RMAS 24/7 he was unable to even get to a local registry office during their open hours to give notice! With Scotland that's just not a problem - we filled in the forms, posted them off to the registry office of the relevant area, together with our birth certificates, and I just have to fetch the marriage schedule the day before the wedding (because they're only open Monday - Friday and we're getting hitched on Saturday). He arrives late on Friday night, the wedding's on Saturday, and we come back Sunday after two nights in a posh hotel

Have a look at this website: General Register Office for Scotland - Registration - Getting Married in Scotland

Also, if you're interested in a wedding planner I can really recommend mine - cost a few bob but she arranged everything, from the chapel (we didn't want to do registry office) to the celebrant to the flowers and photographer. Feel free to PM me if you want.

I didn't get married at Gretna Green, but seriously considered it. Looking into it online is where I found the actual place I got married, and it was soooo easy!

Got a date sorted now and booked him in at the registry office to give his notice (lets hope his boss lets him have the day off to fly here and back!). Now we've just got tell our families and see what happens!

Just wanted to say thank you for everyones advice, weddings all booked planned and ready to go ahead on 23rd december!! soooooo excited! xx

Oh you jammy mare. I would have loved a Christmas wedding