Thread: when's the best time to marry?

ok so me and my fiance are both 18, we met when we were 16 and a few months later he joined the army, it is hard going from seeing him every day to some weekends but we make it work, we got engaged 6 months ago and im so excited, not only to be his wife but to be able to live with him. I was just wondering how old people were when they got married and moved to live with there partners as im young? we plan to get married 2014 so by then we'de be 22? thanks xxx

I got married at 24 and am still punishing myself (and him) at 40. We met, got engaged 6 weeks later and married 12 months almost to the day we met. Not the longest engagement, and definitely not the shortest, as you'll probably find out here shortly!

We met on 17th March 1992. By the end of April 1992 we were engaged and living together. We married on 22 August 1992. I was 21, she was 20. Our son was born 9 months and two weeks after we married.

19 years later, and despite some very major changes in our lives which have dramatically altered our family dynamics, we are still very much in love. I wouldn't want to be without her, and those here that have met her, or know of her, will know why I am so very, very lucky.

Sorry for being a soppy cow!

Originally Posted by Legs

Sorry for being a soppy cow!

No yer not!

In my case never, I will never admit to actually liking the useless lump who is the human pet!

On the other hand we met two and a half years ago and moved in together earlier this year - his postings mean we're reasonably certain that he'll never leave the general SE region so I can attempt to settle here despite my hatred of most 'suvverners'

Mr Tree and I married when I was 24. Despite the fact that I had sworn I would never marry again (or have any more kids for that matter) and Mr Tree knew this he still kept hinting that he would like to propose. Eventually I gave in and agreed to a long engagement. that long engagement lasted all of 8 months!!!
Two and a half years on and I'm still obscenely in love with him (even when he has been a total dickhead so it must be real!) and despite me phoning my friend telling her how i can't do this army wife thing and I'm leaving about 40 times per deployment I still haven't even packed a single bag yet so he's obviously doing something right.
I don't think there is a right age. I think its more being on the same page as someone and seeing your future going a similar way.

Originally Posted by Special_Tree

I don't think there is a right age. I think its more being on the same page as someone and seeing your future going a similar way.

There you have it ....
I met my O/H on 1st January 1982 I was 19 and he was 23 and we married on 9th July that same year by that time I was 20 and he was 24. I wasn't " up the duff " as his Mother asked him when he told her though I can understand why she asked.
I wasn't looking for another relationship as I'd been through the mill the previous year, got engaged, fell pregnant , had a daughter and broke up with the then fiance (sp).
We were introduced by his sister and he proposed about 6 weeks after we met , 29 years and 4 children later we're still together . It hasn't always been a bed of roses but what relationship is?


edited to add.....
There was one girl I know who got married the same day as me she had been with her Fiance (sp?) since 3rd year at Secondary School.........it lasted about a year
Counting it all up , before we married we spent about 30 days together .

I married at 26,

Met the OH 2007, Married in 2009 and still going strong.

I Agree with ST i don't think age matters just weather you want to same things out of life.

Originally Posted by scuba_angel

his postings mean we're reasonably certain that he'll never leave the general SE region so I can attempt to settle here despite my hatred of most 'suvverners'

But you lurves me right!?! I am terrified of commitment (it is why I still use a PAYG phone) but according to Mr Ds plan in 2.5 years we will be tying the knot. Not that he has asked yet but he already has the date sorted! :S

We got married just over two years after we met, I was 31. I knew I wanted to marry him the day I met him

I met my OH when i was 15 he was 16/17. We got together when we were 19 & 21. Had our daughter at 19. Life got in the way and 10 years later we got back together. He proposed, if you can call it that, after 2 weeks of speaking on the phone. I still havent seen him or touched him but i know he is the one for me, he always has been. No-one has come close to him and the way i feel for him.


God im feeling soppy today

Mr Gonzo and I got engaged officially after 7 months and got married 10 months after we met. After 11 months and 13 days of being married I had our baby. We've been married a couple of years now and I am still as dopey about him as I have ever been. Even if his admin is up his backside!!!

We knew that we were "suited" because we both were heading in the same direction, on the same path. Also we knew what we didn't want from a relationship.

Best time to get married??

Sunset...that gives you the hours of darkness to kill him, get him under the patio and collapse sobbing claiming he ran off in the night after taking your preciously hoarded virginity! Next hubby please!!!

Originally Posted by bigbird67

Best time to get married??

Sunset...that gives you the hours of darkness to kill him, get him under the patio and collapse sobbing claiming he ran off in the night after taking your preciously hoarded virginity! Next hubby please!!!

I was so tempted to say 'when you've run out of things to talk about'.

I met my hubby 3 days before my 20th birthday. We met, he went about a month later to Lympstone to do his basic training for the RM's and then after 6 months we were engaged. A year, and a day shy of 3 months after we met we were married (I was 21). We have no kids yet, but we plan to have kids in the future.

I think that it down to you two as a couple to determine when the right time is to get married. Only you two know deep down whether you need to wait a bit longer than others or whether you should do it sooner than what most people on civvie street consider as normal. A lot of people told me that I was too young, I was rushing into and that I should take a step back and think it through thoroughly. I always knew though that it was meant to be. I never wanted to get married, I personally seen it as a waste of money for a bit of paper and a ring to basically just prove to everyone how much you love each other. So for me to even think about getting married, let alone plan it and be adamant that I was going through with it was a big thing for me.

Just do it in your own time, when you are ready.

Originally Posted by Legs

Sorry for being a soppy cow!

Hope you dont mind this reply but having read your blog Legs can I just say your O/H is one in a million and you and her are very lucky to have each other.....commitment and love like that is very special indeed.

Love

Flo xx

thank you for all the advice, i definatly feel as though i'de be ready to marry him tomorrow if we had the money. And i think maybe things would be different if he wasnt in the army as we wouldnt feel like it would be as much of a rush, but him being away so much has definatly proved how strong we are and that were ready. However, i realise that we have years togethor as were only young, i still cannot wait, i just hope people dont think we are to young as i think we are both mature enough.

At the end of the day, if you two feel as though you are ready to be married and running off into the sunset and never looking back then do it. I am only just 22 (I turned 22 on May 18th) and we are approaching our first wedding anniversary together in August. I am living in MQ's, husband is on a 7 and a half month tour, and I have worked (lost my job unfortunately, but waiting to start another) and I have a dog to look after. I look at most of my friends and they all live at home and give mummy and daddy 50p rent a year and go out get slaughtered every night (lucky sods). Anyhow, my waffling is leading to - I am young, and I am not suffering after making a decision too soon and I love every moment of my life at the moment. When I first moved to MQ's I had not long turned 21, and everyone treated me like a baby and all told me I was 'so young'. They soon ate their words, I am more mature than most!

Originally Posted by Kayleigh

At the end of the day, if you two feel as though you are ready to be married and running off into the sunset and never looking back then do it. I am only just 22 (I turned 22 on May 18th) and we are approaching our first wedding anniversary together in August. I am living in MQ's, husband is on a 7 and a half month tour, and I have worked (lost my job unfortunately, but waiting to start another) and I have a dog to look after. I look at most of my friends and they all live at home and give mummy and daddy 50p rent a year and go out get slaughtered every night (lucky sods). Anyhow, my waffling is leading to - I am young, and I am not suffering after making a decision too soon and I love every moment of my life at the moment. When I first moved to MQ's I had not long turned 21, and everyone treated me like a baby and all told me I was 'so young'. They soon ate their words, I am more mature than most!

sorry, kayleigh, could i ask where your based? thanks

I will PM you