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    Wedding Etiquette

    Hello all, would like to ask you all for more of your experience and wisedom.

    Have a wedding to go to in a couple of weeks. His friends, not mine. Have never met them before so want to make a good impression.

    So i have bought a lovely cream dress from coast. it is strapless, knee length and has pink embroidered detail on the top and around the hem at the bottom. And i have a little pink cardigan shrug thingy to wear with it.

    Te question is, i have heard that wearing white/cream to a wedding is a bit dodgy. So will this frock which is like an oatmeal cream but with pink detail be a faux pas? What do you girls think?
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    Re: Wedding Etiquette

    Had heard that myself but dunno how true it is. If you love your dress and feel comfortable on it then wear it ... that's my advice. I take it there was no dress code on the invitation .... if not then defo wear it. Have a lovely time.
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    Re: Wedding Etiquette

    I think the saying basically means don't wear white as that is the brides colour...however, I have seen plenty of people wearing white at weddings!
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    as long as the bridesmaids aren't wearing cream dresses with pink accessories/flowers then you should be fine. It sounds very nice and I'm sure you'll look and feel fabulous and make a really good impression.

    Hope you have a good time.

    I have a wedding outfit dilema but the wedding isn't til November so can you still wear summery style dresses or should the style be more wintery?
    Loads of time to think about what to wear but I'll wait til the last minute then panic lol
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    Re: Wedding Etiquette

    Quote Originally Posted by choc-chip-cookie
    as long as the bridesmaids aren't wearing cream dresses with pink accessories/flowers then you should be fine. It sounds very nice and I'm sure you'll look and feel fabulous and make a really good impression.

    Hope you have a good time.

    I have a wedding outfit dilema but the wedding isn't til November so can you still wear summery style dresses or should the style be more wintery?
    Loads of time to think about what to wear but I'll wait til the last minute then panic lol


    Errrrrrmmmmm, thats quite a few months away and I think it may be cold then Choc Chip!
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    Re: Wedding Etiquette

    Thanks for the reassuring responses, feel better about the dress now. Have no idea what the bridesmaids are wearing and there were no details on the invitation. he is wearing a suit not his uniform so i think the dress should be ok.

    Its just always a bit nerve racking meeting his friends for the first time. just want to look nice and make him proud!

    CCC.... i think summery style dresses are fine, you'll just have to have some sort of cardigan or jacket to match it!!!
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    I think your dress sounds fine, I mean if you were wearing a full on bridal gown then maybe not, but as long as it doesnt look like a wedding dress or a bridesmaids dress then I dont think it matters really.

    Only thing that gripped my sh*t at my wedding was two of my cousins wearing suits with no ties and their shirts untucked and the back of it was sticking out of the bottom of their suit jackets. Maybe I'm too fussy but they looked crap!

    I got married at the very beginning of March CCC (as you know lol), everyone wore summer dresses and froze their bums off. I'd go with the summer dress with some kind of wrap or cardigan type thing.

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    As long as you cannot be mistaken for the bride (particularly on photos) you should be alright. And make sure that you don t look too glam and by that steal attention from the bride since it s her big day.
    But you already give it a lot of consideration so I m sure you ll be just fine. Understand completely that you want to make a good impression to make you OH proud.
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    Hi P_I_B,

    I'm sorry to be the dissenting voice here but I'm afraid I have to suggest that white, cream, pastel, bone or any other color in the white family might be inappropriate at a wedding where the bride is wearing white.

    it's highly likely that the only other person in a shade of white will in fact be the bride, and it does end up looking like the colors are competing - which is of course not your intention, but that's how it looks. I've seen it happen. It can be quite noticeable in the pics, too.

    Is there any chance you are able to exchange it? There are thousands of colors out there with the spring collection that will look outstanding, and might not have the same effect.

    I swear this is not to bash your taste, as the dress itself sounds lovely...I'm just going on hard-won experience, and etiquette from weddings past!
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    Re: Wedding Etiquette

    Hmmm .. can't really exchange it now as i haven't much time before the wedding. And have the fussiest OH on the planet!! Who is very vocal about my choice of frocks!

    However, not sure if we are attending the wedding or just the evening do and am absolutley sure i will not be in any of the photo's.

    I have tried on sooo many different coloured frocks today and i just can't find anything. there is so little in the shops that is dressy enough without being too dressy.... argh .. will show it to the OH tomorrow and see what he thinks, as he knows the couple better than me.

    thanks though TY, always good to see things from both sides i think!
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    Re: Wedding Etiquette

    Here's some tips on wedding attire... http://www.weddingchannel.com/ui/bui...icle_1152.html

    Wearing white: since the popularization of the white wedding dress in the mid-19th century, women have avoided wearing white to a wedding, so that the bride might uniquely shine in her white wedding gown. While this rule, like the "no black dresses" rule, has since been rejected, a female guest should select carefully if she opts to wear white. Be careful to not select anything that might cause anyone to mistake you for the bride. Since current bridal fashions are sleeker than ever, and many older and second time brides dress in wedding suits, you might embarrass yourself (and the bride) in a white outfit. If you plan to wear white, choose carefully, and accessorize with color.

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    Re: Wedding Etiquette

    Thanks Niner! Thats a really useful quote and makes me feel much better, there's plenty of pink on the frock and i have pink accessories, so i think i should be ok!
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    Re: Wedding Etiquette

    Hello all,

    Have just returned from the wedding yesterday ... and i didn't need to worry about wearing cream as the bride look absolutely amazing in a red and gold embroidered dress... She was stunning!

    Many thanks for your advice though, it was as ever very helpful!
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    Puss - can you post a pic minus her heed? That would be very interesting to see a dress like that.

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    I will try and get my little paws on one!!

    She is very pale skined so white didn't suit her. It was a gorgeous frock.
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    Re: Wedding Etiquette

    Tell her to get her frock out for the burds.

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    Re: Wedding Etiquette

    It was something along these lines, OH has photos on his phone so i'll get him to send them ...
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    Now that takes guts to wear a frock like that! She must be one pretty special gurly!

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    She's a tiny petite, blonde thing! She looked so beautiful! And they planned the whole thing in 4 weeks!!
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    4 weeks!!?? -respect! they must have been busy night and day!!
    To have a beautiful wedding dress is so great! -oh sweet memories...!!

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