Thread: Is it just the hormones or am I entitled to be fed up?

Ok, so I know that I am 37 weeks gone and that I have chronic back pain and am extremely tired at the moment, but ffs.

I am due 19th Feb. Latest they will induce here (BFG) is 1st March. BIL, SIL and Nephew is coming out on 4th March. Really beginning to dread this. Am getting worried that I am going to go over and it's all going to end in tears. Hubby had originally told BIL that he could come over on 28th Feb, but changed it to 4th March because his brother didn't have a passport for our nephew yet.

Then a few weeks ago BIL asked DH to be best man at his wedding in 2011, DH said yes as long as you know we can't be around until October 2011 because I am on operational call up. Last night BIL skyped and told him he had booked the wedding for July 2011, still wants him to be his best man. DH didn't say anything other than he would normally only be able to get back in school holidays anyway, but he is too worried to tell his brother he won't be there because his Mum will kick off. We are missing his sisters wedding this year already because we will be moving the month before (and my son need to start his new school - he is Primary school age and I refuse to allow him to miss any school if we can help it) and we are intending on going back and seeing everyone before we move anyway. The other thing that pees me off is that his family always expect us to go and see them instead of us going back to one or two places we always end up spending a week running around the country after them. I'm fed up of it, and IF I can get a passport for this baby before Easter leave they want us to go and see them all in one week that we will be back, as opposed to go and seeing any of my family which I think is incredibly selfish.

Another thing that really really pees me off is his Mum and her incessant "I think you should refuse to go to Afghan" to my DH. She said to me the other day it was because he was her little boy. Yes I get that, but he is my husband, the father to my children, do you think I want him to go either? Not really, but he has a job to do and that is all we can think.

Grrrrr, sorry long rant but am soooo flaming fed up today.

Sam x

I completely understand!! It isn't just hormones hun.

My family and my husband's family are very understanding. But everytime we go back, we still end up running around trying to keep everyone happy. They have the best of intentions and it still goes wrong! We haven't had a holiday as a family.. erm.. ever!

So now we think sod it. We're just going to do what we like and hopefully not wound anyone too deeply. Hard work though as the guilt does set in quite quickly.

Just make sure that you do what is right for you and your imediate family.

The issue that does really get my back up though, is my daughter's father in the UK commandeers every half term as well as major holidays! And my daughter never gets to chill in her holidays or get to spend anytime with her grandparents. It really makes me sad for her. Aswell as disrupting her emotionally. Oh well!

Things are never simple are they. We're in Germany too. I think it's just parr for the course, so to speak.

I hope you de-stress soon x

Holly, my son's father lives in the UK and he has to go back in the holidays when he doesn't want to sometimes too, but that is a whole other rant. I'm sooooo glad it's normal to feel this way and not just my hormones!

Sounds as though you're entitled to be fed up!
Hope you're feeling better today x

I am a bit. A good rant and a "I'm f*cked if I'm going back for this" to the DH helped

My goodness, I am so lucky having family (and soon to be in-laws) who all have a military or mil-family background.

That's jsut a complete lack of understanding of the real world of service life. I'd be bouncing off the walls if I were in your shoes!

Definitely not the hormones, hun, you're more than entitled to have rant mode on!

Chin up, the little one will be here soon

Thanks ladies, it's nice to hear I'm not quite clinically insane!!!

Chick,

Its your pregnancy, your body, your hormones - you feel free to rant as much as you like :lol:

HP
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