Thread: amy winehouse

I'm saying no more.

Other than we all have choices...........

Yep, we do all have choices. But you can't speak for your children. All you can do is bring them up as well as you can and cross your fingers hoping for the best.

Originally Posted by Regan21

I'm saying no more.

Other than we all have choices...........

We do indeed all have choices...as do our children. You can advise and support and love and hope but you can't control the lives of adult off-spring.

We are currently in the happy position of having two gloriously fabulous adult kids, making their way in the World in a way which makes us swell with pride but I know friends of theirs from similarly loving backgrounds, great education, every opportunity... and they are busy chucking their lives away.

If one of my girls swerved off the path I wouldn't blame myself, or them. People make mistakes sometimes terrible and ultimately catastrophic mistakes. It can happen in a heartbeat. We gave them the tools to make great lives, if what we want for them is not what they choose, it's our job to contnue to love and support them. It's utterly naive and as a parent, dangerously egotistical to be so sure that you can control your child forever and judge others based on that assumption.

And now there is poor desperate grieving Mitch Winehouse, selling his story to the press.


In my humble opinion, if my daughter died of a terrible addiction, 6 weeks, 6 years, 6 decades wouldn't be enough time to pass for me to be able to give my bank details to some reporter so they could write about her life, so it's just another headline.

The man disgusts me!

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I'm pretty torn here to be honest, having lost someone to addiction (even when I was no longer close to him due to the said addiction) I can see the attraction in getting publicity on the story behind the addiction, how it affected the addict, how it touches the families lives and HOPEFULLY the story reaching out and touching or helping someone.

For the record I wouldn't want to gain financially from it.

Sometimes people just don't want their loved ones to have died in vain- and desperately try to grasp something of some meaning from something so terrible from it...And the underlying guilt that they could've done more (even though the reality is they probably couldn't have) is something that will never go away.

Grief effects people in many ways and for some it means constantly speaking about them and keeping the name alive.

I think both of them have been in the DM in separate articles this week. If it helps them to achieve acceptance of her death and to move on in their grief. But then I am hoping all the media interest dies on and lets them grieve in private as I kind of get the vibe that it has not really hit home yet for either of her parents.

TLC x

I hope he makes a shed load of money and plows every penny into the charity set up in Amy's name to help others.

I work with similar groups in London, for free, it's the only way they can afford me! and have been asked to come along and give talks to those setting up charity aided rehabs to help them pin point how, what, where and when they can best serve those in need of the service.

Anyone else ever heard of the NHS doing that for drug rehabs before they set up?

No I thought not.

Well done Mr Winehouse, I have nothing but respect for a man who, at a time when I know every word grieves you, is willing to tell his story. They'll all add up to, hopefully, save some other poor mans daughter or son. And I do mean poor, you don't get the level of service needed for free, if you can't afford it, you don't get it, THAT'S the biggest difference.

Incidentally IVV, when Rose Gentle was telling her story and the money was going to Service Charities did it gall you as much?

Beebs x

Great post Beebs, I think you put it more eloquently than I ever could.

Incidentally, the work you are doing for free literally will be priceless- I take my proverbial hat off to you and all you do.