Thread: Stay at home celeb mums

I hate celeb articles like this:

Gwyneth Paltrow: women who want children should be stay at home mothers - Telegraph

Yes love, if I had your money, I'd stay at home too and write books off the back of my and my husband's celebrity. But some of us can't afford to be out of work.

Anyway, what about the blokes who want to stay at home with their little ones? They exist you know!

Gwyneth Paltrow is well known for spreading her views on how everyone should live their lives. From someone who called her chilldren Apple and Moses and damaged her body in a severe way because the stupid diet she follows left her with a deficiency in vitamin D? Wind your neck in Gwynnie love!

Am I the only one who thinks that during 'sliding doors', she should have got her head smashed in by those 'doors'??

Silly woman, it would be nice to have loads of cash floating about and to stay home, what's the guesses that these types of mums with lots of dosh, actually have some sort of nanny, helping them out? Thus taking out the actual 'SAHM' aspect away *rolls eyes8

Originally Posted by Josephine

Am I the only one who thinks that during 'sliding doors', she should have got her head smashed in by those 'doors'??

love that thought!! xxx

For the most part in interviews etc I think good old Gwyneth seems OK, but in this case she is clearly talking out of her backside.

I have been lucky enough to spend a good portion of my childrens life as a stay at home mum and have done the Dinner on table for when he gets home thing, sat making play dough for hours and kept the house in (some kind) of order, then when times dictated I went out to work and STILL did all of the above.

The best time of my life was when I was home with the kids after the split, had no money worries- we didn't have a care in the world, it was the best thing ever.

I now want to work as my kids are getting older and can't find any suitable jobs that wouldn't require me having a huge wage or 'spare money' to be able to afford good childcare for my kids.

The bottom line is parents are quite capable whether they work or not to still be there for their kids and do the home duties.

She's such an inspiration to me. No really, she is. Such a caring mother - she does everything for her children, even bathing them. Simply heroic.

I wonder whose nanny was spotted travelling in cattle class with 2 kids whilst Mummy and Daddy were sitting up front?

I'm sure I'll do everything for my kids, but bathing them?? That's just too much commitment!

What gets me is , how celebs go to all these far flung places to rescue orphans.....but can't be bothered with their own children...

hey up, madonna is on her way to wales........

I may be set upon for the following.... But I believe a woman should stay at home and look after the kids.

It's best for everyone involved. End of.

Originally Posted by golden_showers

I may be set upon for the following.... But I believe a woman should stay at home and look after the kids.

It's best for everyone involved. End of.

That is my personal opinion too, as that's what I would prefer to be able to do. Unfortunately for me, I am a mum of two, the father of my kids is dead and I am the only person responsible for providing for my kids...families out there are skint and this is where Gwyneth's views fall flat on their arrse...

Some parents work as its a necessity, some parents work because its their choice and they want to go out to work AND still be a Mum or Dad, its not that clear cut, believe me, if I could make a living working from home while the kids were at school writing recipes for Fried Sprouts and Bacon, I'd be laughing.

I think its like what Bodger said, its a total contradiction, she thinks Mums should be at home etc but won't think twice about leaving the kids with a Nanny while she jets off to work on a Movie etc.

I think the issue here is she is assuming all Mums who go out to work are doing it by choice- some have no other option to afford to live, others do choose to go out to work...why is either wrong?

With mini jo, if I could have stayed home, I d@mn well would have but fact is fact, I became a single mum and the 'bread winner', so it wasn't doable

Why does it have to be the woman who stays at home? It's not as if there's a huge amount of slaying mammoths involved in being a breadwinner these days.

I understand of course that there are circumstances when the woman has to work.

But I still believe that in general women should stay at home to look after the kids, and the man should support them all financially.

Old fashioned perhaps, but what I believe to be right.

GS, I agree with you, not because I think ours is the only ways but I believe it to be best.

My parents met in basic and my mom stayed home with us kids from birth until I was 12. She ran a day care center form our home when she could, otherwise she just stayed home. And I had the Leave it Beaver childhood everyone else wishes they had, due to her efforts and sacrifices (not least of which was shielding my dad's abuse so well we never noticed it until we were teens, but I digress).

I want to stay home with my kids form birth to school age because otherwise, it isn't you raising them, it's nanny/day care/ etc. And I want to raise my kids my way. I pray that will be a financially viable option.

I think most mums love their kids and would like to be able to choose to stay home or not, but facts are we aren't all multi-millionaires who have every resource at our fingertips. If I had her money, I would live her way. But I sure as shootin' don't have it. None of us here do.

And the thing about feminism is, I have to believe every woman mentally competent to make her own life decisions. Whether or not to keep a pregnancy, work outside the home, etc- it's her life. And some women may choose something I disagree with but they have the right to make that decision. I can't say it's wrong lest my choices also be deemed wrong by a third party. If, in a couple, a man is earning less and a good father, why not let the top earner go back to work first? It's not how I would choose to do it but it's valid and it's not my place to say they can't.

isn't it interesting how most celebrities will never tolerate any bullying of the underdog or judgement of the minority lifestyle and all these other left wing values, YET they will gladly revile traditional right wing values? It's hypocracy at it's best. Adorable.

I must admit, I also believe that mums should stay at home with their kids, and that this is the best way for things to be. At least with baby no. 2 on the way, I can finally look forward to just that. With my son, who's now nearly 19, I HAD to go back to work. I was a single mum and there was just no other option. And then I got drawn into the whole ambitious career ladder trap and lost myself somewhere along the way. And god knows, I lost my kid somewhere along the way too. We're still having flaming rows every so often, trying to sort out all the BS caused by living separate lives when he needed me so desperately. No matter what you tell yourself about your skills at juggling homelife and career, you inevitably miss stuff. And maybe with some kids it's not as bad, but with little sensitive sods like my lad it can make all the difference. And it hurts to find out years later that he was heartbroken at age 5 about an event I never even knew about, because I wasn't there, or I was just too damn busy.

I think that feminism gave women a rotten deal, and instead of empowering women it simply enslaved them to a different system where, financially, it is almost impossible nowadays for a family to survive on one salary alone. And so women go off to work, and leave their kids in the care of other women, whom they pay for childcare... surely I'm not the only one to have realised that we all got sold down the river? And no, I'm NOT giving back my right to vote, and damn straight all people should be paid the same for doing the same work. But while I can understand the lure of a career, and the fulfillment of working outside the home, I also believe that having children is a choice, and as such you should make that choice only if you can accommodate being with them for at least the first few years of their lives, instead of just having kids and then trying to fit them around the life you built up as a singleton. I.e. either build your career first, then take a break to have your kids, or else use the time at home with your kids to study and then build your career afterwards.

Naturally, I know that this is assuming an ideal state of affairs, which certainly did not apply when I had my firstborn either. And even as I am contemplating becoming a stay-at-home mum with my second, I have had to look into alternatives for working from home at some point in the future, because I know that at some point we will need more than one income again. But I am determined to make working from home a reality so that I can be there for this little one, because I never again want to feel like I missed the most important years of my child's life - because our kids are far more important than a stupid job.

Okay, I'm getting off the soap box. Feel free to pelt me now

Originally Posted by kazzam

Why does it have to be the woman who stays at home? It's not as if there's a huge amount of slaying mammoths involved in being a breadwinner these days.

hear hear! my friend goes to work and her man stays at home looking after the children- it's up to each individual couple to do what think is best for their family